When there are no objective reasons for the collapse of the union, the stars take responsibility. And astrological incompatibility is by no means a mystery. The fact that a couple expect hard tests, you can learn at the beginning. It is enough to look at the elements to which the signs of the Zodiac correspond. However, do not despair: even if they are incompatible, there is always a way out. About what needs to be done in such cases, we will tell further.
The root of all problems
On the incompatibility of individual Zodiac signs written a lot of work. However, it is rarely possible to trace the origins of this mystical tension. Even deep feelings of partners sometimes break about an invisible wall. The emotional nature of the other remains a mystery behind seven seals. This is largely due to the banal distinction between personality types. If to exaggerate for a common understanding, then they can be divided into reasonable and emotional. Depending on the element of the Zodiac sign, one of these two types will always prevail in the character of the person. If the emotional type is extremely important sensual fetters, words of tenderness and love, then reasonable - it seems a bit superfluous. That is, with time bored. The element of the mind contributes to their emotional independence, freedom from sensual tension. Therefore, mutual satisfaction is often the case with those partners whose elements coincide. By the way, the element of emotion includes representatives of all fire and water signs. These guys are used to rely on feelings and intuition in everything. All decisions are made on the basis of emotional contact with the outside world. A diametrically opposite state of affairs is observed in the elements of the mind. Representatives of air and earth signs tend to rely on rational calculation in everything. Their nervous system does not involve prolonged exposure to mental stress.
What to do when the diagnosis of "incompatibility"
First, do not hang your nose, and at the very beginning of the relationship think about the final. Probably everyone has heard the maxim that opposites are attracted. Even with such a serious factor as the incompatibility of the elements, most of the unions can be saved. However, this will require the efforts of both partners, sincere love and the desire to live together. It is also advisable to consult an experienced astrologer for the presence of oppositions in natal charts. It is important to understand the differences at first. To understand that the emotional restraint of a partner has nothing to do with hatred or a complete lack of feeling. And on the other hand - to calmly take the increased sensitivity. Mutual respect is the basis of dialogue. The movement towards us in this case should be regarded as a manifestation of love. The feeling of tact and diplomacy allows us to solve even the most difficult problem. For example, emotional guys should not "twitch" Gemini or Sagittarius in public: discuss personal issues when time and place for this clearly do not fit. It is sometimes difficult for the same Taurus and Capricorn to force themselves to listen to another. To really listen and understand his feelings. However, it is a conversation without bias that works wonders. Psychologists sometimes even advise you to master the technique of "parrot" in order to understand your partner. Play all his words back in the mind, and then repeat them aloud. With pure consciousness, without embellishment and criticism. A very effective method for overcoming the difference between opposite types of personality.
What to do if you are an emotional person and your partner is not
In such cases, you need to build on the comfort of your partner. To understand that he needs "deferred" emotions to understand his feelings. Help him to reveal himself as much as possible, trusting you. The slightest discrepancy between your words and deeds or the lack of sincerity only contributes to its reclusion. Do not try to break his impenetrable wall. It will hardly be possible to take her to board. Here we need a more tricky tactic of the Trojan horse. Afflicted only by the fact that this can take years. For example, getting into the confidence of sluggish Taurus is not easy. A thinking sign simply avoids excessive emotions. It always seems to him that this is a foretaste of a storm, a family scandal arising as if out of nothing. Therefore, it is important to encourage any outbursts of sensuality with pleasant gifts. Thank for every warm word of the Virgin or Gemini. Let them express their sore feelings, do not interrupt. This happens, in fact, rarely. Appreciate these moments as the best days of your life. If the sign of the Earth has managed to open, then safely consider it a miracle. And do not be offended when he can not give you the same opportunity. Because you are much easier and more likely to "chudit." His refusal to listen to you does not mean absence of love. Simply, his nervous system no longer stands. Mature people in an incompatible union understand this perfectly. Moreover, they trust important aspects of living together to a more competent side. For example, a rational partner takes care of providing the family with material goods. The thought about personal happiness is more concerned with the emotional type.
If you are a reasonable person, and a partner is not very
In this scenario, it is important to find inner harmony. Do not let your partner's heightened tone change your attitude to him. Understand what he wants, as well. He simply expresses his thoughts (read, feelings) in his own way. To reach his own mind, he has to pour out a sea of emotions. Only when his nervous system stabilizes with your help, he can hear the very voice of the mind. Do not be afraid of his tumultuous manifestations. It is possible that it is in this form that sincere love is expressed. The Japanese, for example, make a noisy eating at the table. Because this is considered a sign of sincerity. The search for mutual understanding and spiritual closeness lies on your strong rational shoulders. It is you who can analyze the causes of anxiety in your second half, and eliminate their origins. Afterwards, the partner will express only gratitude and genuine joy. Hardly these feelings will want to be ignored. We all want to see the emotions of happiness on the face of close people. Therefore, your task in such a complex alliance is to track any factors that destabilize the beloved's inner balance. And the acceptance of his excessive emotions, as a measure of his own responsibility for them. And never forget about love. Even a simple hug can calm an overly emotional partner.