Psychological infertility, its causes:
Fear
For one reason or another, the fear of childbirth or the fact of the birth of a child that has arisen with us, perhaps in childhood, can put in your head such a block that will protect your body from danger - in this case pregnancy or childbirth. Such a block can arise from serious feelings due to some tragedies in the family (for example, a person close to you during childbirth died, a child was born dead, etc.). But it is not at all necessary that the cause of the psychological trauma was a real event. It is possible that the unit was established on the basis of information obtained from the media, films, stories, etc.
But fear can give birth not only to the fear of having children, but, on the contrary, too great a desire to have a child. For example, when a woman is under great pressure from her husband or relatives, and the birth of a child for her becomes the only goal.
Public bans
Our society dictates its laws and regulations to a modern woman. So, the young girl is strenuously told that the early pregnancy and the birth of a child will create in her life a lot of problems and will not bring any happiness. And it happens that after a lapse of years, already adult, married and physically ready for the birth of a child, a woman can not become pregnant because of the still standing psychological unconscious block.
Another block put by the social environment may be the desire of a woman not to "fall out of the cage". Fear of interrupting career development, getting out of important social processes and not being able to return it all.
It turns out that a woman wants a child, and tries to get it, and the body blocks the desire.
Injuries from childhood
If the family had an unfavorable situation: scandals, painful divorces, beatings, poverty, alcoholism or the death of one of the parents, then in adulthood, there are many reasons for the impossibility of having children. And, as a conscious refusal of children, and unconscious psychological blocks.
Problems of a personal nature
Beauty standards have long been imposed on women in the media and the fashion industry, fear of irretrievably losing their old forms can cause psychological pregnancy. A woman can decide to have a child, and her body will not give her that opportunity, guided by the information she has laid down.
To the same category of fears can be attributed and the fear of losing a man all for the same reason - loss of attractiveness after childbirth. Agree, this is a very weighty psychological pressure, which the woman in some cases creates herself.
Or both spouses believe that the appearance of a child in the family will turn the habitual way of life and leave no time for themselves.
Another reason for psychological infertility may be that a woman who decided to have a baby is infantile and herself is a big child. Moreover, it does not depend on the age of the woman. A child can take away the attention that is required of herself. And she may not know about this block, while undergoing a course of treatment for infertility.
A ban on pregnancy can arise in a situation where there are any problems in the relationship between the partners. For example, if one of the partners is not at all sure of the correctness of their choice and doubts the expediency of building further family relations. In such a situation, even when trying to get a child, it can not work.
There may be situations when both partners may have psychological infertility, and they can even unknowingly interfere with their conception of the child. For example, in days that are auspicious for the conception, the partners are engaged in "urgent" cases, are at quarrels or on a trip.
A man can also develop psychological infertility, moreover, his body can produce antibodies to his own spermatozoa.
It happens that psychologically infertile couples keep together only the desire to have a child and, often, as soon as they cope with their situation, and the child appears, the couple diverges, since nothing else brings them closer and they become strangers.
How to cope with the problem, how to solve psychological infertility and pressure?
Understand yourself, understand why you want a child. If it is for you a means to get rid of loneliness, to fill your life with meaning, to keep a man or to achieve some other goal, then think about other ways of solving your problems. When you want the child for his own sake, the desired can become much closer.
Make sure that your infertility is really of a psychological nature and you do not have any physical contraindications. A full survey should be done and your partner.
Remember and write down everything related to pregnancy and childbirth and causes fear for you or your partner. Try to "get to the bottom" of the real reasons that caused these fears.
Try in every situation that frightens you in addition to the obvious "minuses" for you, to find as many "pluses" as possible and try to bring them to the fore. After all, thousands of women give birth every day in different conditions and everything goes well and children are born healthy. If you are afraid to fall out of social life, then look around, many women today do not even stop working and give birth to several children, while they look great. So, they get to combine all this, so you will get. So, try to disassemble all your fears.
After all, fear is a defensive reaction of the body to a dangerous situation that can not be controlled. Having understood and understanding the true cause of fear, you can control the situation. The body will relax, the blockage will be removed and a long-awaited conception will occur.