The upbringing of children, as the most urgent and strategically important problem, has been given special attention at all times throughout the globe. Its importance has always been recognized, many thousands of works by specialists from different fields - from psychologists to athletes - are devoted to it. Indeed, the topic is so multifaceted and unlimited, as topical. After all, mainly how the next generation will grow, depends also on how the society will continue to live and develop.
There is no general, unambiguously correct model of upbringing and, most likely, will never be. It is quite obvious that in different countries different approaches to education in different centuries have been made - it is enough to compare in this respect Sparta and Ancient Japan in order to understand how differently. Similarity was observed only in the main direction - the moral. And this is largely due to the fact that up to the twentieth century, the main direction of their work educators drew in religion. She also dominated the family, and therefore it was here, from the very birth of the child, the foundation of education was laid.
Of course, the difference in methods of education was dictated by gender - boys and girls were brought up in different ways, even in the dense Middle Ages. But, despite the fact that the boys before the age of 7 were brought up by mothers and nannies, they knew perfectly well who he should become. In modern families, with a few exceptions, the upbringing of children also mainly lies on the shoulders of mothers. Therefore, it depends on her own human qualities, outlook, love, faith and responsibility that depends on what kind of people her son or daughter will grow, benefit or harm will bring, who will be raised and brought up in turn. It is good, if the child born in the family is desired, the relations in the family are kind, and the mother is loving and tender: in this case for the person there are all chances to grow up a remarkable person. And if he "was lucky" to be born in a family where the relationship between parents is not at the highest level. The influence of relationships with parents on the upbringing of their children has a very great effect.
Men are more involved in family relationships. Unfortunately, they are implicated both directly and indirectly - after all, bad relations in the family are nothing but a reaction of despair, when family troubles, cares, affairs, and work, and school, and upbringing are falling on a woman. When you need to do everything, remake, earn, buy, cook, when no one helps and you can only hope for yourself. But the forces are not unlimited, a turning point is coming, both nerves and will begin to fail. And to get the body out of this impasse, anger comes to the rescue.
Everyone knows that "hate can burn even more than love." It's like giving you a second wind, you feel strong, brazen, ruthless, you make your way, not counting more with anyone. But just as everyone knows perfectly well that this condition is dangerous for the woman herself and doubly dangerous for her family. Aggression only gives rise to reciprocal aggression, the information field of our world accumulates it and returns to the "author" in a much larger number. And, therefore, it takes more strength and fury to fight again, to overcome ... And this path is closed. Started and reduced to the circle of the bitch itself, doomed to a constant, infinite, perennial passage.
And worst of all, that with her in this circle, the vortex of negative emotions spilling out into the world, constant struggle and anger are forced to be unwitting "hostages" - her relatives, husband, children. Is it strange that family quarrels broke out, and the son and daughter begin to copy the bitch behavior of the mother? After all, the main means of education is a living example. Regardless of the parents' desire, children consciously or unconsciously take from them a pattern of communication, relationships, reactions and behaviors. And so, if the mother suddenly does not like how her children are not changing for the better, there's no one to take offense: this is her own model of behavior.
That's how the bitch becomes more and more, and, unfortunately, this is no longer surprising, as if a new "norm" of life. So what awaits us in the future - a society bitch?
I want to believe that no. Fortunately, many women who fit this definition have enough love and patience for their own children. The situation is even better when there is someone who helps her in this. After all, whatever it was, and the parent should bring up the children, and not just one mother, even if ideal. Firstly, because the process of education is continuous, they can not be engaged only in their spare time. And secondly, anyone will say that the boy needs a father - and as a living model of behavior, and as a friend, as an assistant, and as a mentor. It is on his father's shoulders that the main burden is laid on the education of his son. In a family where for some reason there is only a mother, one of the relatives can and should replace the father, since the male contribution to the upbringing of the boy will not be replenished otherwise, no matter how hard the woman tries.
Of course, for the daughter, the father should be a masculine model, support and protection, and therefore no one frees him from educating the girl. There is also a need for general agreement and participation. Therefore, whatever the parents are outside the family, they should bring home only light and warmth, good and joy, sincere participation and love. An example of relations between parents is the first thing that children adopt, and how much mutual respect, help and support, good-naturedness and love are in the family will make a person so harmonious a person.