The joint life of a woman and a man obeys, as a rule, a certain rhythm. The fact is that every few years a new phase of relations begins between a man and a woman, and each phase brings with it its own joys and problems.
10 phases of relations
1 phase of the relationship - the merger (the first two years of marriage). At such a time, it seems to the newlyweds that the honeymoon will never end. Both partners try to fulfill every desire of the other, try to be together more often. On the first place here, as a rule, physical love. This period of psychologists called "spring of feelings."
However, as in life, there is no spring without a thunder-storm. By statistic, 3% of newlyweds are already six months after their wedding, although once again they quarrel violently. But 50 percent of couples are already beginning to fear that the future of their still young family is too vague. And 4 percent of couples spent at least 1 night apart, and 3 percent of newlyweds already have time to change their partner.
The second phase of the relationship is frustration (usually the third or fourth year of marriage). Here is the first euphoria passed and the family routine came. And only now, many couples notice that their partner is not at all the same as they were in the first months of falling in love. For example, 87 percent of women said that after the second year of living together they stopped loving their chosen one. Although this is, of course, an exaggeration, however, in the fourth year of joint life, manybranches, unfortunately, disintegrate. By this time the first child has grown up, the lady again feels free.
3 phase of relations - reproduction (this is the fifth-sixth years of the spouse). Couples who do not have children, as a rule, plan to replenish the family. At this time, love is not so passionate, but more meaningful. However, since a man can not physically "participate" in his wife's pregnancy, the toon is often unconsciously alienated from her. And the result - 70 percent of future mommies feel sexually deprived themselves.
4 phase of relations - this is the phase of strength (somewhere in the seventh to eighth years of marriage). Usually this is the most active time in a married life. Couples usually overcome the first psychological difficulties, and now they have realistic goals. For example, the couple together buy an apartment and furnish it. Usually the professional position of the husband is strong enough, and many women after the birth of the child are again starting their work. The roles within the family are already distributed and each "one's place" knows.
The fifth phase of relations is a respite (from the ninth to the eleventh year). The foundation of partnership is already quite strong, as is the financial situation in the family. The probability of divorce was reduced, as soon as the spouses crossed the 30-year boundary. This phase of relations is the "summer of marriage". Many spouses have shared responsibility among themselves, following in most cases the classical principle: the man is in the lead precisely in the professional field, and the woman in the household. Sometimes there are quarrels only on the issues of raising children. An external sign of happy families can be considered the next. In the first ten years, it is after the wedding that their wives are gaining weight around 8 kg, and men - 8.5 kg.
6 phase of relations-phase of totals (from the twelfth and the fourteenth year). Women after their sorrow (a little later, and men) are beginning to sum up the first results of the spouses. As a rule, they recheck the plan of life, because they understand that there is not much time left to do the most important thing. Some partners in this situation believe that they are in a dead end, are disappointed, sometimes even ready to retreat. Some people realize that material values are not the most important thing in life. This period can be described as "early autumn" of marriage.
7th phase of relations - crises (from the fifteenth to the twentieth year). Love has already developed into a habit, partners are gradually starting to leave each other. Women do not want to put up with the weakening of the attention of her husband, the patient indifference. Some women become fuller during this period by an average of 17 kg. And men often have "left" connections. They, nevertheless, refuse to reject marriage, and prefer a love triangle, and wives, on the contrary, often make serious attempts to break. It is at this period that most divorces occur, and in 70 percent of the cases, women initiate.
The 8th phase of relations is renewal (from the twenty-first to the twenty-fifth year). As a rule, partners have already checked all possible options for later life and stayed together. The period begins, the "autumn of renewal". Children have already grown up and need help from their parents (except, perhaps, financial). Some men open a "second respiration" at work. And women also do their own independent professional activity with pleasure.
The 9th phase of relations is the "late spring" phase (from the twenty-fifth to the thirtieth year). Even when the children are leaving their home, love suddenly gets a fresh impulse: it becomes more gentle and less selfish. 48 percent of families consider their relationship very happy. 38 percent of them are considered harmonious and only 3 percent are burdensome.
10 phase of relations-the phase of old age (after thirty-two years). This time is "harvesting". Those who have lived together for a lifetime can enjoy the fruits of their love, as a rule, they are thankful to each other for the deep feelings, for jointly held hours. Despite the fact that in men the physical possibilities gradually weaken, the partners are trusted unlimitedly by a friend. Marriage reaches "golden autumn".