Lies for the good

Lying in a relationship: a disease or a necessary phenomenon? Situations when we are in a relationship with men.


Lies are found everywhere: at work, at home, in love, in friendly and sexual relations. We say that we stand in traffic due to an accident, when we just slept on to work. In conversations with her friends: "How do you like my haircut?" - We answer "You are very good", even if in reality we think quite differently. "Can you lend a couple of thousand for two weeks?" - "You know, they do not give me a salary. I would love to, but the very financial problems. " "I'm not much better?" - "What are you! You look great! "And all in that spirit.

Lying is "an act by which one person deceives the other by doing it intentionally, without prior notification of his goals and without a clearly expressed request from the victim not to disclose the truth."

Personally, I share the concepts of "grafting" and "lying." Priviraniya, at least in my understanding, it's something small, innocuous, which does not bring significant harm to others. They are sometimes just necessary.

In a loving relationship, I assure you, we are no less, and sometimes even more than in normal life.

Having talked with many female friends and acquaintances, I was able to identify several situations when we almost always have time in a relationship with a man. So…

FALSE No. 1. We simulate an orgasm

Unfortunately, it is very common among couples of all ages. And not always it happens only "with neighbors" or couples who have been together for 10 years. The statistics are not so optimistic.

FALSE number 2. We time that we like how he cooks

It is an extremely common opinion that all men prepare well. I must disappoint you - not all. Or I'm just not lucky with them.

Your beloved man / husband got up much earlier than you to make breakfast and thus, to please you. Breakfast was, to put it mildly, not very tasty. Scrambled eggs, coffee escaped, toast from rye high-calorie bread, and not dietary, as you like, and the juice is not freshly squeezed. Do not immediately express your "fi!" About this, because he just wanted to make a pleasant surprise for you. Yes, your man cooks badly, does not squeeze juice and eats white bread with butter. But his question: "Did you like it, darling?" - you, of course, should answer: "It was very tasty", "Thank you for a lovely breakfast, my beloved" or something like that. Well, if the food cooked by your man is not edible at all, try simply and gently refuse breakfast with a phrase such as: "Thank you, I'm not hungry," "I do not eat breakfast so tightly, I only have mandarin and coffee cups. But anyway, thanks for wanting to make me feel good. "

FALSE # 3. We time that we ourselves love to cook, wash, clean and iron

Personally, I rarely met women who take home care really pleasure. I hate washing, ironing, cleaning ... And I just do not know how to cook. But at the beginning of the relationship, we should be the ideal hostess to please not only your chosen one, but also his mother. Therefore, we always do all the work around the house with a smile, and if the cute person wants to help, we, of course, refuse his help, deep down, I dream of sending it all away for a long time.

FALSE No. 4. we time that we really like his mom

On weekends, many couples have a concept such as "parental day". Then you come to visit his parents, then you yourself go to their home. I think that it's a great pleasure to listen to his mom's comments about "but Lyuba (the former girl of her beloved son) Sasha did not only wash her socks, but also brought breakfast to bed," or "something in your house is not cleaned. Is it really impossible to be a good hostess "and everything in this spirit ... But still, despite everything, we persistently endure such gatherings in order to preserve not only peace in the family, but also our own nerves.

FALSE No. 5. We time that we like football

In order to win Sasha (my former young man), I had to spend almost all summer on the football field. Moreover, I did not miss not only a match of his favorite CSKA Moscow, but it hurt when my darling just chased the ball in the yard with the neighbor team. Honestly, I managed to win his heart, but the real love for football could not be inculcated. And the red-blue color does not suit me at all. Therefore, our novel lasted only 2 months. And hatred for football, in my opinion, will not pass already never.

FALSE No. 6. We believe that we adore roses

The bouquet-candy period ever ends. Unfortunately, it is often much faster than we can even imagine. Now the flowers and surprises shine only on the big holidays: birthday, New Year, Valentine's Day and March 8th. And then, the fantasy of the one and only is limited to a bouquet of scarlet roses. Of course, we can not tell a man directly that roses are already nauseating from us or an allergy will soon appear. We pretend that they are the most favorite, the most desired flowers in the world.

FALSE No. 7. We time that we do not understand cars, computers and other equipment

Long ago passed those days when, in order to understand the computer, install an anti-virus program or pour gasoline into the tank, we needed a man's help. In the courtyard of the 21st century - we understand our own cars, we know how to fix something ourselves, and in computers we understand as well as the representatives of the stronger sex. But still ... there must be men at least something useful, therefore, we are like true and natural blondes (girls, do not be offended, I'm such a natural blonde myself) - we ask for help at any suitable moment. A man must feel strong, and we must help him in this.

Lying is so entered into our daily life that sometimes we even do not notice it, and if we notice it, we do not pay any attention, because sometimes we ourselves sin the same.

I in no case, do not call you to learn to lie everywhere and always. If you are used to always tell only the truth, I envy you with white envy. And if you are accustomed to always lie on the contrary - I advise you to disaccustom to this harmful habit, since it can play a cruel joke with you.

Summarizing the above, I want to say that lying or not lying is a personal matter for every person. Do not learn this specifically. It's just necessary to lie with the mind, thinking about what your words and deeds can hurt or even change the fate of another person.

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