Long-term relationships and obligations in love are often hampered by the moral immaturity of young spouses, their inability and unwillingness to compromise, insult, rudeness, etc. For this reason, 42% of families disintegrate. 31% of women and 23% of men break up their relationship because of drunkenness of their second spouse. The third, the main reason for the divorce is the infidelity of a husband or wife.
What is most interesting, there are certain months in the year and even days of the week when long-term relationships are threatened. The newspaper Mirror conducted special studies, and found out, most often couples break up in January. It's not surprising - the New Year, a new life ... Besides, it becomes possible to find out the relationship, put all the points above and, and earlier on it could simply not have enough time. Also in 80% of the husband or wife leave the family on a Saturday or Sunday.
How can you make your second half not forget your obligations in love, how to save a marriage?
It turns out that there are many factors that strengthen or, on the contrary, contribute to the breakdown of relations. If you live in your own house, and do not rent an apartment, then the probability of your divorce is reduced by 45%. A common child and cohabitation before the wedding contribute to the strengthening of relations, although most believe otherwise. Very often the spouses criticize each other, but it turns out that it is very important to observe the proportion - 1 criticism - 5 compliments, otherwise, you will get a divorce. They say that those who look in one direction, and not against each other, are happy in love. Researcher Hans-Ver-Ner Birhoff found that if spouses think alike, they have similar morals, then their marriage will be much stronger than the rest. And what prompts the spouses to forget all obligations and go to another family? It turns out that the reason may be incorrect education in the family. Psychologist David Likken found that the children of divorced parents most often can not create a lasting relationship. It's all about the emotions and behaviors they copy from their parents. Too young couples also can not keep their love. If the wedding was before the age of 21, there is a possibility of a quick divorce. More adult newlyweds have more chances for a happy life, and each lived year adds an additional percentage - for men - 2%, for women - 7% of the fact that the divorce will not take place. The common religion also brings people together. And life in a metropolis, on the contrary, increases the probability of a divorce.
Science is always moving forward. Professor of Psychology John Gottman and professor of mathematics James Murray believe that almost 100 percent can determine whether a particular couple will live in a "long and happy" marriage. They analyzed the life of 700 couples, and according to their observations, they established that it is possible to find out the longevity of their union in the content of disputes and discussions. The spouses were given a topic for discussion and encouraged to start a dispute. If both during the discussion joked, listened to the arguments of the other partner, all the time, even if the points of view were divergent, tried to show their love and affection, then the relationship stood the test. If, however, the dispute turned to an abusive language, and the spouses kept repeating their truth, absolutely not hearing each other, most likely, in front of them was a divorce.
The formula of love has not yet been invented, each has its own. But, if we at least aspire to strong and reliable relations - half of the matter is done, the rest will be helped by love and patience.