Why are quiet and gray mice more comfortable with their personal lives?

Often we hear that the most quiet and modest of our classmates and classmates have already married and raise children. But the first clever men and first beauties, extraordinary personalities and so on continue to live alone. Why is there such a paradox in the world? Why do men often choose "gray mice" than clever girls and beauties?


We choose, they choose us

Who are the "gray mice"? These are girls who never stand out, lead a very calm and ordinary way of life. Accordingly, their requests also boil down to the same simplicity and routine. They do not need a guy who will quote Kant, rush to Tibet and jump sparachute. Such girls are enough that he was normal, helped the family and did not offend her. Naturally, ordinary men, not endowed with special talents and nondestructive about something unusual in our life, are much more. And every lady-beauty-extreme sports more than once faced exactly with these guys, and they showed interest in her. But she herself was very bored with such a man. She did not feel a special spiritual relationship with him. And the girls who want to live a bright life and have a deep inner peace, are looking in their partners not just a mere, father for children and a breadwinner. They are looking for their soul mate, that special person with whom they will never be bored and lonely. Such a girl just go crazy from a measured and monotonous way of life. Often, these ladies are sorted by men, not because they are too picky about beauty or status. No, the main criterion for choosing is the notion "that I should be interested in him." That's just such a lady is very difficult to find guys with whom it really will not be boring. They very long and carefully choose a partner, so as not to be exchanged for meaningless relationships. These girls just better to be alone than with anyone. That is, for someone a man from the category of "who is horrible" are good husbands and fathers. But for her they are simply not enough interesting. That girl with such a guy has nothing to talk about. And these ladies always need interesting conversations. Without talking about higher matters, women just wither away. They can not be satisfied with the usual TV viewing. They need more, something that many men can not give. That's why they spend so long sorting guys. Come, from the side it may seem that no one pays attention to such a girl. It's not like that at all. Simply theyreally quickly "otshivayut" young people who are uninteresting to them, that the surrounding people do not even notice such attempts to establish contact with the lady. Such a girl is better at yoga, reads an existential novel, or writes a poem than spends her time on a guy with whom she is not interested.

By the way, do not forget that many men are afraid of such ladies. Looking at their wide range of interests, desires and dreams, the guys themselves begin to stumble in front of such girls. They are afraid that they will simply pull such relationships, since with such a woman one always needs to be clever, creative, well-read, fountain with some ideas and simply not be bored. Therefore, the guys decide that for them such a life can become very complicated and go to the side. Although in the depths of the soul many like just such a special and unordinary girls. But instead of choosing someone who really likes them, the guys decide to connect their lives with "gray mice". Of course, such girls are much easier. They require very little, they lead a regular and measured life. With them, you can sit in front of the TV for hours and play computer games, without straining your gyrus or fantasy. With such ladies it is very comfortable to build a family. And many men need this comfort. Tihoni never really argue and quarrel. They seem very understandable, although in reality these people are often closed. They dislike loud conversations and fights. It is easier for them to remain silent than to begin to clarify the relationship. They, like other girls, think that a man should understand them without words, but they will never say it and will better keep silent than create a conflict situation.

And yet, as it is not sad to admit, many men are cowardly enough. They are afraid of the difficulties that can arise from women who have their own point of view and view on every situation. From the thought that a lady can criticize their own views, do not agree to take them off, and so on, the guys just get horrified. They want to assert themselves through their halves, and not constantly analyze and improve themselves to be able to argue on an equal footing with a clever one. No, these sacrilegious modern guys are clearly not ready to go. It is easier for them to relate life to someone who will either remain silent or agree with everything. These are the "gray mice". They rarely go on the path of internal development, are interested in something unusual and so on. Moreover, these girls can not be called bad. They are good, kind, economic. Just for such women the life-family-work cycle is normal and correct. They do not want another, more interesting life. Yes, and the life that is lived by the intellectuals, extreme women, such ladies simply is not impressive. That's why men are so drawn to knim. After looking at a quiet and modest girl, the guy remains confident that she will not do anything extraordinary, she will not offer to do anything crazy and will not be interested in someone who is smarter, more creative and more interesting than her chosen one. With such ladies, men never need to harness. They live in a relaxed state, the usual life of the millionaire rejoice. They also rejoice in their passions, because they married and gave birth to children. Often, often, these girls do not need. So everyone seems to be happy and happy, that's just the kind of life that does not suit the ladies who want to get everything taken away, rather than being content with grains.

If you are not quiet

If you are thinking about why the quiet people are so quicky marry, and you are not, and are trying to find in yourself some kind of minus - you can not do it. Every person lives his life. You would never live like a "gray mouse". Therefore, do not demean yourself through your own eyes. This is not your overestimated requests, these simple people are completely lazy and do not want to do anything. And you do not need to be equal to the majority, because you have never been a gray mass, so do not become it now. Live the whole pleasure, enjoy your life, and believe me, someday you will meet a man who will share your interests and want to live life next to you. And while it is not, do what you dreamed about and do not worry. To live as a majority, it does not mean to live right.