Therefore, love has different analogies, different explanations and motives. And some of them are very successful. Each of the analogies carries in itself some information and at the same time an attitude, a shade of mood. Love has multipotential comparisons, they are usually symbolic and do not carry any specific information, they do not reveal the essence of love. But there are many with a scientific or philosophical connotation. Now we will try to imagine love through an economic filter, and we will present the process using economic analogies.
What comes to your mind when you hear "love as an economic form of exchange"? Probably, to you at once there are the people who are tortured or the girl who meets with a guy just because of his vodeneg. But in fact, in this article, we will not talk about money, but the axis of love, which in places very much resembles the economic form of exchange.
Psychologists have noticed this analogy since the end of the Second World War, as soon as society, economics and the style of our lives began to change. Indeed, the relationship between people is constantly changing, depending on historical influence, on the development of technology and the psychology of the nation. How do you think up, how much has society changed since then? What are we seeing today and love? And what form do they get today?
To your attention, one of the psychological theories, where the attitude of people resemble the act of buying and selling on the market.
Market, commodity forms
Each of us has only his characteristic traits and faces, but still we all have common signs, trends, traits. Someone more intelligent, someone more talented. And yet, each of us is connected with society, we are looking for some ideals, which it attributes to us, which it imposes. We all enter into "market relations", we want to "buy" certain features, giving in return what we have.
Each of us already knows what he wants. If we do not fully realize this, then in our time it will be uncovered by our unconscious. When we are looking for a loved one, and in his search for hypothetical and potentially we are always, then in our head we already have a certain scheme, advertisement, plan of action. Mitak or otherwise constantly filtering the surrounding candidates, in connection with the quality that we need. As if looking for a product with the features and properties that will be needed in the farm. Usually we have different tastes, but still they have something in common, namely the values by which we choose a potential partner. We want an intelligent, beautiful, interesting, with a good sense of humor, a brave, courageous, socially sustainable husband. As a rule, all these good character qualities have their own hierarchy of importance, degree of need, but still most of them are constantly encountered with lists of "desires" of each. Simply each of us needs a different product - someone is more appreciative of beauty, and someone is resourcefulness of mind, for someone more important is the strength of their character, and others need meekness and submission. Of course, it is cynical to equate people with goods, but each of us has its own commodity value. Our parents invest money in us, they teach necessary things until we grow up ourselves to "buy ourselves a price". A prostitute in this respect is a bright and crude example of the act of buying a woman - we need her values and in this case we can buy her body, beauty, affection and pay money. This is an open act, where a woman, a person acts as a commodity. The act of buying and selling here is also openly conditioned, as is the legal act of marriage. The only difference is that we buy a woman for an hour or a lifetime. What do we need: a body or character, a person's soul?
Advantageous values in the market of relations
Consider this example: a beautiful woman is looking for a man. She is erudite, reads a lot, looks great, she has a chic figure and she attracts many representatives of the stronger sex around. She has a non-violent character, she is self-confident, creative. Accordingly, she is a "desirable object" in the market of love and she has a wide range and choice, because most requirements as a potential wife she satisfies. From this it turns out that she is unlikely to be looking for a stupid, ugly man who will not be able to satisfy her queries. She is looking for a worthy individual for the exchange of qualities, namely what is actually needed by a woman today - a socially developed man who is smart, handsome, has a sense of humor and in his own way an interesting and charming personality.
The beauty of a woman and the social status of a man are the most profitable and frequent demands for today. They are almost equal in strength. The beauty of a woman is her characteristic, value. It brings little benefit to the consumer, but is a strong characteristic for the form of exchange. Beauty is given to a woman from birth, it is the harmony of her body and features, she can only care and maintain this harmony. A man, in order to be desired in the market of love and to represent a suitable object for exchange, you need to work a lot at yourself. Seeking a social status, developing male character traits, learning to be brave, being smart and competent, having respect and demand of women, understanding their psychology ... A man makes much more effort to be desired and to be loved in order to comply with social norms. To a woman, beauty can be given as a gift from the time of birth and in most cases does not depend on it. The absence of beauty is often fatal for her and here the search is reduced only to luck.
On the other hand, beauty as a value is almost impossible to lose in one day, at the same time as the social status of men and the material values are more precarious.
Eventually
Do you grasp the essence of these subjects? Do you agree that today relations are more like the act of buying and selling, and love is presented to many as an economic form of exchange? Anyway, each of us has our own point of view and attitude to what surrounds us. Someone knows how to love, search for romance, sing serenades and admire the beauty of the soul of another person, feel the mystical connection between the "half", knows how to find true and sincere love for life. The relationships of others in reality resemble the exchange of goods and inability to cross the border of their own selfishness. as we love - we decide and only we.