What do we mean by the word love? Chemistry or work? In Ukrainian, you can divide these concepts. "Ljubov" is a work, and "kohannya" is chemistry. In other languages of the world, these two concepts are identified in one word. From a linguistic point of view, love can be called anything. We can say that we love an object, occupation, a person, a country. But when we say "love" about a person, this word takes a different shade. This shade is attached to the context that accompanies this word. And not just the context. The tone of this word is given by intonation, our sighs, our behavior during the time we say "I love" about some person. Ask yourself: How many times in your life did you really love? Of course, with our whole heart we love only once in a lifetime. Only occasionally does this happen twice in my life.
What is it like?
Surely, many people think that in the beginning, love must necessarily be in love. It is not always easy to determine whether this feeling arises - one's own chemistry. At first, we may not notice a person who in the future will become the most important and close for us. It happens, and vice versa, a prominent handsome man who makes an impression from the first glance may be a pacifier. And it would seem that we should rejoice that we have such a male. But he does bring joy no more than a book about office work.
It may seem strange, but the best lovers (mistresses) are those who are far from the ideals of beauty. That's why you need to give imansans. Give a chance to those who do not adorn themselves on the cover of a glossy magazine and who rush there. You will be surprised, but it's fun. And if you spend your free time on yourself and your loved ones - everything will get better. And this can already be called work. Some may disagree, but on everything ready to live is boring.
First chemistry, then work
It is said that it is these enzymes that are produced only for the first time for a couple of weeks of relationships. When only falling in love. Gradually, the gradual subsidence, love grows into a measured relationship. And after all, it gradually becomes a habit. It is from this place that our work begins. What to do with what chemistry gave us? How to save it and for what? Of course, everyone chooses for himself the goal. Someone is dreaming of a lavish wedding and a stamp that will stand in the passport. In this case, completely without thinking about what will happen after the wedding. There are those who look at everything cynically: he bought me a house and a car, now I can relax. One can not forget the realization of monogamy. They plan to live for many years with their choice: they think about traveling, about starting a pet. And that's how their children and grandchildren will go to school.
How it works.
If you think about it, chemistry is not only exciting beniyeserdtsa from the first touch. Chemistry includes almost all categories of seduction and seduction. It includes everything except thirst for sex. Desire is not chemistry, but an eternal animal instinct. Another thing, when you like to eat, is what he eats. Read the same books as he did. Watch films that he watches. When you begin to adopt his thinking style. All this is chemistry.
We often meet people and are surprised at how they are like us. And if we see catchy differences, we are convinced that opposites have the property of being attracted to each other. But we must not forget about what is hidden from our eyes. When you and your partner are too similar, you must observe caution by invading its territory. And when you are different, you can not forget the diversity of interests. If you like to luxuriate under the sun on the beach, you should not think that he likes it, too. Considering that in fact he likes hiking in the forest. In this case, joint walks around the city are very suitable for you.
The more you are opposed to each other, the more work will be on relationships when the chemistry ceases to function. The secret of successful work and ideal relationships in tolerance. We must understand that the other has a right to own life. This must be remembered every time it pulls up a tantrum. Your love should consist of partnership and mutual assistance. Of course, it often happens that only one loves, and the other only allows you to love. And in order to save this "chemistry", try to look at the person close and dear to you with a fresh look. Happiness is that you see something new in the partner. In the fact that you appreciate even a little joy.