A jealous man is a trouble for a woman. And often the postulate is "jealous - it means, loves" is not at all consoling, and problems in relations become sometimes insoluble. Jealousy breeds anger and all ends sometimes very badly and even scary. So, male jealousy and ways to combat it - the topic of discussion for today.
Situation 1. A constant sense of guilt
You are forced to feel guilty all the time. It does not take a day for your man not to reproach you for alleged infidelity. A colleague called from work? He already claims that this novel is because "you have so much to do with everything together." The same applies to meeting a friend from school years. Even a simple walk for a walk with a dog turns into a parade of suspicion. "Why are you combing your hair?" Before whom are you going to be exhibited? "And any way out of the house becomes suspicious for him. Put on a beautiful blouse? So, you go on a date. Washed her head - going to meet someone. And so every day. It's really unbearable! Moreover, such an attitude can sometimes be reinforced by insults, comparisons such as "you are like a lick - a prostitute from a neighboring entrance" and even threats in the manner of "try just to stay at work ...". It's extremely difficult to live with such a man. But if you really love him - you can try to reconcile the relationship.
Council of Psychologists:
You do not have to answer dozens of questions, which are always associated with jealousy. Just explain the situation briefly, and then the best ones are silent. Thus, you seem to send a signal to your husband: "You are again for your own! You have to stop because it hurts me. " Of course, it is important and necessary to discuss problems. But believe me, this question does not need discussion. The man has already established himself in his position. You can not convince him or calm him down. First of all, try to determine where the demonstration of obsessive jealousy originates from. The reason is often various internal complexes. A man is not sure of himself - he is tormented by fears of potential competitors, he believes that you can find someone better. In this situation, it is worth using our natural female cunning. How? Just use every opportunity to praise your man - for example, that he is a wonderful father and lover. Add good words and, if the cause of jealousy in the complexes, it can somewhat ease his distrust. If the jealousy comes for another reason - you, most likely, can not cope alone. In such cases, intervention by specialists is required. Pathological jealousy is a diagnosis. This is a mental disorder that requires treatment.
Situation 2. A man in everything controls you
Your partner behaves like a nanny - follows you everywhere, checks, eavesdrops ... Recently convinced himself that you have an affair with a colleague from the office. Result? During work and during off hours, he calls every minute to ask what you are doing and when I return. He reads your text messages and emails. In general, it is non-aggressive, but terribly annoying. His constant suspicions suggest that "it is better to be a thief than to be a thief". It is relations of this kind that push women to real betrayal.
Council of Psychologists:
Men of this type would sometimes be envious of a detective or an investigator. They are vigilant, intelligent, enterprising and have developed imagination. Very developed. It's simply impossible to change such a man in silence. But you can live with him if you are faithful and love this person. How to deal with it? And why fight? If you have nothing to hide - let's have fun! Let it be affirmed in your faithfulness again and again, and you can tease him and chuckle at pleasure. In the end, these teasing will bother him and he decides not to spend more time on a useless occupation. Having taken such a firm position of bantering and easy mockery of such a man, you can achieve a lot.
Situation 3. Complete submission and impenetrable veil
Your man treats you like his own. He completely controls you, forcing him to do what he wants, to look like he wants. It comes to the fact that he tells you to erase makeup and get dressed in old shapeless things, so that you do not cause anybody's interest in others. He forbids you to go out without him from home, go to work and meet friends. He is not a tyrant, he is not cruel in nature, but he is persistent in his position and does not allow you to live normally. This is the most complicated example of male jealousy - there are practically no methods of fighting against it. It's very difficult to live with such a man. But if you really need it (love of evil), then here's what you need to do.
Council of Psychologists:
It's time to tell my husband a stop! Does he tolerate physical violence? Report this to the police or call the hotline and seek professional help. Tell me clearly and clearly that if his behavior does not change - you will leave. You can agree to use psychological therapy to learn how to control negative emotions and angry behavior. He does not accept your terms? Then, do not hesitate, take all necessary measures for divorce. When a partner's jealousy takes such extreme, painful forms, you absolutely can not fight it. It is easier for a pathological smoker to quit smoking than to correct such a jealous person.
Where does male jealousy come from:
1. An example from a personal family experience. When he, as a child, watched his father's suspicions about his mother, a scene of jealousy - he could later undermine his trust in women.
2. Mysterious behavior of the partner. If a wife, for example, often comes home late, it starts to bother her husband.
3. Propensity to alcoholism and drug addiction. Regular abuse contributes to suspicion and creates negative thoughts, such as: "She has someone to eat."
4. Opinion of friends. If they say that his wife is "the same thing" - involuntarily there are suspicions. Friends sometimes do this out of envy, but a man does not guess about this and begins to plague his wife.