It seems nothing terrible - think, often late or not accustomed to count money ... Such a "small set" of habits is almost everyone. But how does it spoil life! Here are six of the most common problems and strategies for dealing with them.
YOU HAVE ALSO POSTPONED THE BUSINESS ON THEN
In a couple of weeks, you need to prepare a financial report or wash the windows for the holiday, but you can not bring yourself to get to work. "I work faster and better, if very little time is left," "Why start today, if it can be done tomorrow?" - You persuade yourself, postponing work until the last, after which invariably comes the work of the emergency, parking and time trouble.
How to get rid?
Highlight half an hour. In 30 minutes you can do a lot. Just start the work, and after half an hour decide whether you will continue it now or interrupt. Even if she hates you, you will feel much less negative emotions if you just start without unnecessary reasoning. By the way, when you come up with reasons to postpone business, you will spend almost as much time.
Set small tasks. Break up the work into several stages. For example, dismantling a cluttered balcony is absolutely impossible at one time - at best it takes a whole day! Therefore, you, most likely, will be as long as possible to postpone it. But the goal "to remove empty boxes from the balcony" sounds less frightening and quite feasible. A day later, it will be followed by "throwing out unnecessary flower pots," then - "dismantle the locker in the corner," and look, the balcony is like new!
How does this make life easier?
Deferred duties are a great stress. You can not feel free, while this weight is with you, it does not let you fall asleep at night and keeps you in suspense, not allowing you to relax. Think of yourself a reward for doing the work on time (or even better - ahead of time!). However, the main reward will be a sense of carelessness, which will flood you when you apply the methods of struggle and chop off the last "tail."
YOU ARE UNBALANCED
All the time you are nervous and frustrated because you can not find your things, and friends and relatives have already stopped resenting you for what you chronicly forget to congratulate them on their birthday ...
How to get rid?
Record it. Do not rely on memory, mark important dates and deeds in the diary. Make lists of people who need to call, purchases that should be done ... Hang in a prominent place a calendar with marked birthdays of relatives and friends. Attach the sheet of paper to the refrigerator with magnets and write down on it all that is important to remember.
Get rid of blockages. Arrange the order in your room and on your desktop. Spread the necessary paper into folders, arrange things in places. Do not let things accumulate and clutter up your space. Without pity, part with what you have not used for a long time.
Returning from work, always put in the same place constantly disappearing keys, glasses, a mobile phone. This tip applies to the phone book, and various remotes - from the TV, music center, DVD player, which tend to constantly get lost even within a radius of a couple of meters. How will this make life easier? Constantly lost things can not help annoying. You can bring yourself to a nervous exhaustion if you constantly worry about your forgetfulness or worry because you do not know where to find this or that thing. But most importantly - becoming a more organized person, you will get rid of the chaos in your life. This is a huge bonus in the fight against bad habits.
YOU HAVE ADDED TO ALL CONTROL
You are sure that no one can cope with the job better than you. If you stop watching, the universe will simply collapse. You are even ready to take on the responsibilities of other people, if only everything was done perfectly.
How to get rid?
Do not take everything too seriously. Apparently, you even strive for perfection in small things. However, much of what supposedly requires your tireless leadership and close attention, can well do without them. Persuade yourself to an experiment-try at least once to play the role of the second violin. Check that such a terrible thing can happen, if not you, and another member of the parent committee will organize the graduation ball in your son's class, and will your assistant be in charge of the current project at work? The result will surprise you: most likely, nothing fatal.
Do not be afraid to share responsibilities. Try to question the obsession that everything should happen only under your guidance. For example, if the husband suddenly decided to pamper the family with his own cooked meat, try out an acute desire to tell him what to do and how. From temptation away from the kitchen and do something for your own pleasure. Do not grumble if the dish is burned or is salted. All this is nonsense - but you are rested, and the husband shines with his own success behind the stove!
How will this make life easier?
Constant responsibility absorbs your time, thoughts and energy, and therefore, makes your life more tense. It is much more important to control your emotional and physical stress, and not events and things that do not have a personal relationship to you. In the end, you are alone! It is always difficult to play the main role, so feel sorry for yourself and take matters into your own hands, only when this is vital.
YOU ARE NOT ENABLED TO SOFA
Returning from work and seeing a soft and cozy sofa, you drastically forget that you were going to the gym, and you actually went home for your running shoes. As a result, the evening, which was planned to devote to health and beauty, again takes place in the TV company and a dozen buns.
How to change?
Give yourself a promise. Make a list of things that you would like to do instead of sitting in front of the TV, and promise to give them time each day for 30 days. The simplest way to begin to change your bad habits is to promise yourself that every evening, despite the vagaries of the weather, you spend half an hour or so in the nearest park or park. Learn one or more routes - and walk. At the weekend it is also recommended to clearly set the time for the morning walk - say, from 11.00 to 12.30. This habit helps to relieve stress after working days. Unite! Buy a subscription to a fitness club or start practicing together with someone you know. Responsibility to each other, as well as money paid forward will not allow you to skip training with the same ease.
How will this make life easier?
Whenever you succumb to weakness, you make a choice in favor of a sofa, you involuntarily suffer from a conscience, blame yourself for weak-willedness and lose self-confidence. In addition, sitting on the couch all the nights long, you quietly gain weight, body and mind become passive and inert, and life - boring. Waking up from hibernation and acquiring healthy habits, you will win the main prize - the health of the body and soul!
YOU ETERNALLY DESTROY
Your life is a constant rush. You always do not have 5-10 minutes to come on time. Constant apologies and explanations about late arrivals have become familiar to you.
How to get rid?
Plan ahead. Take your time with a margin: if the meeting is scheduled for 11.00, write down in the diary: "Start at 10.45". Deceive yourself. Move the arrows of all the clock for 10 minutes ahead. These 10 minutes will always be in your stock.
How will this make life easier?
Think about how many nerves of time and energy you spend in order to apologize, call and warn about the delay, come up with explanations and justifications for your delays! You will feel incredible calm and relief when you arrive on time or a little earlier.
YOU HAVE ADDED TO MONEY WITH MONEY
Do not be surprised: this harmful habit is inherent not only to the sated children of millionaires, but also to ordinary clerks who hardly reach the payday. Annoying advertising, harassment of sellers and prejudices of acquaintances often force us, having received the sum quite sufficient to comfortably live a month, in the first days to spend the lion's part of it.
How to get rid?
Count! Calculate the average amount your family spends per month. Add to it a couple thousand more in case of inflation. After the salary, try to immediately postpone this amount and take from it only for food, clothing and footwear repair, transportation, house maintenance and other current needs. Unexpected purchases - only from the remaining funds. Set it aside. Do not listen to bank clerks: the desired things are easier and safer to buy not on credit, but paying the whole price right away. To achieve this will help the simple secret of our grandparents: they always accumulated money for the necessary expensive things. You do not have to deny yourself anything, just leave a small saving on your account every month - no matter, several hundred or thousands. After a while you will be surprised to find that your dream has become not only affordable, but still remains to "wash the purchase."
Do not trust advertising! Do not rush into the store at the urging of the first commercial or the advice of an advanced girlfriend. Think: Do you need expensive washing powder for black things, if you are a fan of pastel colors in clothes? And is it worth changing the chandelier, bought just a year ago, just because the family of friends is boasting of the freshly acquired newfangled?
Try to control casual purchases - in the metro, on trays, out of curiosity ... If you can not resist and constantly buy on the way from work a heap of small trash, just bypass the trays by side. Remember that things bought for a penny from random people can not be either quality, or really necessary. You will very soon regret the wasted money.
How will this make life easier?
You will get a wonderful sense of security and tranquility. When there is money constantly from the beginning of the month to the last numbers in your pocket, you will have confidence in yourself in the future. In addition, a new useful habit will allow you to quickly acquire all the necessary. Stop reproaches of loved ones for their extravagance and inability to conduct business, there will be no longer a humiliating need to live on credit (it does not matter whether you are with friends or at a bank!). As a result, thanks to this method of combating bad habits, you will get rid of constant anxieties and depression. In a word, no matter how well-off you may be, save yourself, remembering often the saying: "Happiness is crazy - a holey baggy!"