There is indeed a danger: a petted child often grows capricious, demanding, selfish. But there is, imagine, another danger: isolation, stubbornness, cruelty are formed in children who are deprived of parental affection, "unhappy" and "unadvised".
Until recently, doctors advised: do not accustom to the hands! It will be whimsical! You will not be able to do anything later! But the research of recent years has shown that children who know only their crib and arena, develop worse, later start talking, they get sick more often. An explanation is also found for this: a baby is calmed by the very sound of the mother's heart. The scientists conducted such an experiment: they recorded the heartbeat of several women on the tape, and included this record next to the crying child. In an incomprehensible way, the little one distinguished the beating of the mother's heart among others and calmed down, ceased to cry.
However, it is impossible to wear the baby all the time on your hands! And it is not necessary. Here he was carried away by toys: he rattles with a rattle, knocks a spoon, rolls a ball ... You can do household chores. But do not wait until the game bores him, until the spoons and balls fly to the floor and a roar will begin. It's important to catch the moment and then take the baby in your arms, walk around the room with him, show what's going on behind the window ... It's good for my mother on the pens, calm! The mood became better, the forces recovered, now you can play a little more yourself.
The child must feel that he is protected by maternal love from all misfortunes, that the mother will always understand, help, save. This is important for him in the first year of life. And then - more ...
I know you do not spare any energy to feed it more delicious, spend hours at the stove, try to put your child on better clothes ... And do you play a lot with your son or, daughter? Telling fairy tales for the night? Do you sing lullabies? After all, television cartoons or taped tales recorded on film do not replace living heat, eye-to-eye contact, grandmother's: stories, mother's affection - everything that from time immemorial was the sweetness of childhood ...
Doctors-psychoneurologists, unfortunately, now increasingly notice neuropsychic disorders in preschool children, pupils of junior classes. One of the reasons for this is the emotional, spiritual loneliness of the child, a lack of communication with parents, a lack of good, simple, all-knowing and forgiving caress.
Nervous child requires special patience, it is not easy. But you can not even grow a flower, a bush, a tree without labor and patience! How to grow a person, if you want him to become kind, generous, sympathetic, open, looking at the world lightly and joyfully?