Neuro-linguistic programming or NLP is an actively developing field of applied psychology that offers simple and accessible techniques for influencing subconscious processes. NLP is successfully applied in the sphere of love and relationships. NLP techniques help to find love, build a harmonious relationship or revive fading feelings. Love is a game, and every game has its own rules. You know them - be you a winner, no - prepare for a loss and all the consequences that follow. Being a loser in love is very painful, so it's better to immediately master the main rules and learn simple techniques that will help avoid unpardonable mistakes and become happy in love.Be able to adjust. The key to sympathy between people is similarity. It must be found to establish the location of the interlocutor during communication. You will have to become a mirror, reflecting the behavior of your partner, down to the rhythms of breathing. Your gestures, posture, facial expressions, speech tempo should be as close as possible. The main condition for mirroring is extreme naturalness, otherwise a person will think that you are aping.
Be the leader in communication. You need to adjust yourself in emotions, gradually leading the interlocutor to those feelings and sensations that will positively affect his mood. If the partner is clamped and emotionally closed, smile, speak gently and without pressure. Sooner or later he will want to mirror you and radiate the mood that you ask. No less effective is the "adjustment" of values. If you like a person, then most likely, and the belief system you have in common. Show it. Become a positive association. In NLP, "anchoring" is one of the most effective ways to bind a person to oneself. The essence of it is to find or catch the moment of happiness of a person and to connect him with himself. Music, tastes, smells, touches that the companion feels together with you, should evoke positive emotions in it. In the future, he will associate these feelings with you and strive to relive them.
Encourage. NLP specialists are called one of the effective methods of forming the required behavior called "positive reinforcement". This is a signal to a person that he acts correctly and his behavior is pleasant and meets expectations. As an encouragement, you can use a smile, a kiss, a compliment, attention, caress, etc. By encouraging a partner with positive reinforcement, you form the reactions and skills you need. Use the transfer method. It is a wonderful gift of human memory. It contains sets of memories of people who influenced us and left a trace on themselves. The perception of new people is consistent with these memories. For example, the name of a good and meaningful person for us will automatically endow with the positive qualities of all other people on our path with the same name. Use the phenomenon of transfer and provoke your partner to those positive memories that he unconsciously will transfer to you.
Three Simple NLP Techniques for Love
The author of original NLP techniques Victoria Isaeva (Eva Berger) in her book "NLP for happy love: 11 techniques that will help fall in love, seduce, marry anyone" offers several effective techniques that will help start a new relationship or improve those that have already taken shape .