For some reason, the modern generation of men differs markedly from all previous ones. These guys wear pink blouses, ugg boots, like to be constantly told, what they are good and wonderful, handed out handkerchiefs and wiped tears. Of course, they are sure that they are the best men in the world and the girls should just fall at their feet with stacks and thank God that they have such happiness.
But there were other men who behave absolutely the opposite, but somehow they think that they are not good enough for their ladies. And so these men just go, leaving the women who love them, in complete confusion. What to do if your boyfriend thinks that he is not worthy of you, and you are completely sure of the opposite?
Causes
First, it is necessary to understand why the young man had such thoughts. Most likely, the reason is an unsuccessful previous experience or your own behavior. For example, if your young man is really kind, honest, noble, loyal and very fond of you, then this behavior may be caused by the fact that he sees in himself the shortcomings that he considers to be too serious. Many men of this type are not quite romantic and closed feelings. They say "I love you" almost once in my life, but express all my love with deeds, not with words. Girls who, as we all know, love with their ears, this is not enough, and they begin to systematically build up scandals and tantrums about the fact that the guy will never say a word and does not like her at all. Thus, you want only a little to get from him tenderness, and the young man accumulates a feeling that he constantly disappoints and hurts you, so in the outcome of the matter he simply decides not to torment his beloved person and leaves.
Another reason why a guy can decide what is not worthy of you is the financial side. If a man sees that you have rich parents or you earn a lot, and for some reason he can not give you that much money, the young person simply develops the complex. Looking at how you buy expensive clothes, he starts thinking that never can afford such purchases and in such quantity. Thus, as an earner, a man begins to appear complex and he decides what is not enough for you financially reliable. As a result, the man, disappointed in himself, leaves. In fact, he does not want to leave your life to you, believing that someone else will be able to give you everything you used to, and he will force you to tolerate those living conditions that are not acceptable for you.
These two reasons are the main reasons for the man to consider himself unworthy. As a rule, to this idea come really good guys who really do not notice all their positive qualities. And if they drive something into their heads, then it becomes extremely difficult to dissuade them, but it is still possible.
So, we often become the reason for making such decisions ourselves. Let's look at one situation from a man and a woman. For example, a girl's birthday. The guy brings her an armful of roses and hands, but since he himself does not have any mood for some reason, his congratulations sound quite dry. The girl, seeing this, rolls a tantrum over the fact that he does not like her, that he can not say anything good, word by word, everything goes over to the person and can even reach the point where the girl starts shouting something like "I hate you, you you always hurt me. " What do we get in the end? For a woman it was just a surge of emotions. She does not hate anybody and appreciates her man, just so she wanted to make it clear that she had more romance, without which she felt bad. And what does a man see? He sees that no matter how he tries to show his love, instead he simply does hurt. That his own feelings and emotions spoil her life. And if the situation is methodically repeated, then in the end, the guy just makes a conclusion that he really brings only pain and disappointment. And leaves.
How to solve the problem?
And after that we suddenly realize that we do not need niromantica, nor "I love you" every half hour, but I just want him to be near. To begin with, you just need to talk to him. Just remember that you no longer have to file any claims against him. Speech now goes neo that he can create what he wants, and you will close your eyes. Here it is said that you will no longer demand from him those manifestations of feelings that are unnatural for him. Therefore, calling the man on the conversation, immediately let him understand the fact that you really love him and you are good with him. Even with such a silent and closed you are good. And maybe you do not want exactly the kind of romance that it offers you, but that does not mean that you can not live without it. In fact, your behavior is a woman's whims. And yes, you pursued the goal of something to change, because, as you know, women are great idealists andperfectists, but now you understand that you can live without fervent admissions of love and carpet of roses on the floor. But you can not live without your man.
If your young man starts to say some arguments and prove that you really will be better off without him - just kiss. Believe me, a kiss will make him forget about what he said and significantly reduce his desire to be noble and let you go. And then say that you love him, that you want to be alone with him and you do not care that he will talk about love once a year, on your birthday, and then, not the fact that will be. You have to make sure that a man believes you, so that he does not have any doubts about the fact that it is not he who is bad, but you are sometimes too capricious.
And the last thing you need to remember about is the money question. In this case, a man is more difficult to change his mind, because he loses confidence in himself, as in the breadwinner. Therefore, you need to show him that, firstly, it does not matter to you at all, you bought a blouse on a second or in a bottle, and, secondly, convince a man that money will never bring you happiness and he misunderstood you. Perhaps, such a situation arose because you believed that your guy can achieve a great career. And for some reason he did not do it. Talk to him and tell him that you do not care how much he will earn, and it is important how he will reveal his potential, because he has a huge one. But if he still does not want to do this for some reasoned reasons, you will not touch him any more, and if he is just too lazy, you probably will, but it will never be because you lack material means. You hugs in everything, you just love him so much that you want the best for him.
Most likely, after such a conversation a man will come back and will only not press on his painful points and try to really take it as it is.