Please do not disturb!
Psychologists have long established that all people can exhibit either extraversion (the desire to communicate), or intraversion (the desire for solitude). In the pure form of extroverts and introvert there are not so many, more often we can see mixed types. However, as always, everything here is good in moderation! Future mothers sometimes completely unjustifiably open the soul to every acquaintance and relative. It would seem that she told something about her condition with a nice smiling friend, but for some reason left a strange feeling of emptiness ... No, this is not an old-fashioned "evil eye", but the result of unjustified, excessive openness. Of course, it is very important to get emotional support or comfort , but the main thing is not to bend the stick, because opening the caches of the soul even to the best friend, we still risk receiving an unexpected reaction, and the fragile psychological unity of the mother and the child needs to be guarded. the look of every woman who is under the heart of a baby, and to protect this secret is an important task! It can be helped in different ways, for some, it is prayer, for others, creativity will be the source of inspirational silence, and for someone - communication with nature, pictures, music. conversations, unnecessary emotions - let it go not even to the second, but to the tenth plan.Let the emotions of other people not touch the precious little world in which your child begins to live.
Country councils
Numerous relatives, friends and neighbors, of course, are not at all inclined to give the future mother a hundred or two valuable advice, completely not suggesting that these tips can be harmed. "Was going to give birth on the contract? How can I? Yes, in our time ... Was going to give birth at home? How is it? Yes, how poor we were, we did not give birth at home ... Decided to do without diapers? What an absurdity! Do you intend to buy diapers? This is the same throwing money to the wind! "Every pregnant woman can hear this nonsense, that's why it will be quite right when you realize that you are about to hear another good advice, favorably but firmly to put the conversation in a safe direction.
So, what to talk about? The best alternative theme is the childhood of your friends and relatives. They will gladly talk about it and, most likely, leave your personal affairs alone. Another great topic is interests and hobbies. Ask your mother-in-law what concert she attended recently? What book was read by my aunt or neighbor and what do they think about modern fashion?
Perhaps you enjoyed watching horrible thrillers, horror films and reading books of dubious content in the "pre-bereg" life, but now it's time to pay more attention to the flow of news that you receive daily from different sources of information. feelings and emotions!
We'll listen to the voices of your favorite DJs, sweet songs that are not-no, and will interrupt the disturbing news release or stories about the economic crisis that has overwhelmed the country.Well, to be ignorant, you will ask: No, of course! Knowing what the world lives is important, but let the "filter" serve as a loving husband or friend, making for you a positive selection of fresh news . That's the topic for the conversation there! Ruthlessly turn off the TV and radio when trying to tell us about disasters and cataclysms!
"One grandmother said ..." - that's what the name of this people's agency stands for. "What its employees do, it's easy to guess: the spread of gossip and prejudice.
To the pregnant mommy, the OPS directly crushes its efforts. And if the existence of some dark prejudices can still be logically explained, then a lot of other examples can be deciphered. And therefore: fight all prejudices to one, like weeds, preventing your long-awaited flower from growing!
"Yes, I'm in your position ..."
In addition to admiring glances, unfortunately, on the future mother, it happens, there are also accusations and reproaches! Well, people are different, others, like nettles, are better to bypass, but having met a detective or ill-wishers, never forget: good conquers any evil. Mentally give this person a bouquet of flowers or a teddy bear. Or imagine him as a character in a children's cartoon. Perfect match the Pink Panther, Winnie the Pooh and Cheburashka - checked! You will laugh yourself, and it will be light again. There is another useful psychological device: to present an unpleasant person in the form of a small child. And then Auntie, viciously hissed at you in line, will seem just a harmful little girl. And why take offense at stupid girls?
Man's best friend
Speech, of course, about books and other printed publications that can excite us no less than other information. For some reason, it is believed that a pregnant woman should always read the classics! Of course, with tears our body is left with harmful hormones catecholamines, but whether these hormones should be artificially produced is another question! Therefore let's leave much of the classics in peace Let Anna Karenina's story wait! Literature should awaken from you now only joy!
So, what is useful to read? From books - literature about colors, needlework, cooking (if you do not suffer from toxicosis), books about travel and about different countries. It is useful to stock up photo albums with landscapes (for example, with photos of chamomile meadows and wheat fields). It is useful to have a photo album with roses: these flowers, as a rule, react positively. We also read books about the successful breastfeeding and development of the baby. At the same time we will learn poteshki-lullabies - will be useful! If you know a foreign language, read on it, especially with the dictionary - first, your mind will be in a tonus, and secondly, take your time.
As for the magazines, the main thing in them is the lack of information about pregnancy problems, difficult childbirth, and chilling stories about anything.
Welcome magazines about the wedding, the fashion, because soon you'll need them - not the age of you will be pregnant!
The performance from ballet classics, and even in a good performance - a great pastime for my mother.
Does art require sacrifice?
Of all the audiovisual arts, as now it is customary to say, the theater is undoubtedly the quietest. But still, choose comedies or proven productions. Enjoy the game of actors! Do not trust the announcements on the Internet, it is better to ask friends to learn more about the performance. Even in the classical drama it became popular to use unexpected effects (like sudden loud sounds). Beautiful classic operetta, if you love it. Exit the hall, singing and just in a joyful mood! But with new musicals and pop concerts be more careful: usually there are included such powerful acoustic installations that you, and the kid can be uncomfortable. About the same can be said about the movie. Unfortunately, modern directors often try not to delight our senses, but to hit them, but more forcefully. So caution in choosing a repertoire for a future mother will not hurt! Despite all precautions, pregnancy, of course, should not be a boring time, which must be waited in silence and alone.
Take care of yourself. Go to the hairdresser, do a manicure, if health allows, sign in to the pool for aqua aerobics or yoga for pregnant women. All in your hands! Try to enjoy your new state, rejoice in every day, give joy not only to yourself, but to others. Who knows, maybe in this unique period of your life you will find real friends and help someone? Will you open your talent or become charitable? The world waits for you every day!