Where does the pathological distrust take?
From childhood. Psychologists tend to believe that the lack of love in childhood, as well as the negative experience of the mother, can cause uncertainty and as a consequence, mistrust towards men
- Unsuccessful past experience.
- Increased anxiety for the future.
- Diffidence
We will not discuss the topic of good or bad distrust. Definitely distrust acts destructively on the woman! If mistrust only begins to germinate in your mind and soul, you need to try to get rid of it. And if the reason is? Even if mistrust is not groundless, it still should not give a deep root in your soul. The fact is that distrust of a man can not be noticeable for you in all aspects of your life. And you will begin to show disbelief in the relationship at work, with friends, with children and to life itself.
What is trust?
Trust is the ability of a man to keep his heart open! And trust is the foundation of all relationships. This means not only what you need to believe others, but the urge to keep the heart open for life and for others in all situations. This is very difficult!
In personal life, trust is the key to success and happiness!
Scientists have found out the reason of female mistrust?
Statistics argue that women are much more likely to distrust men than men to women. And of course, the habit of mankind to search in everything for a scientific explanation has not failed.
Dutch scientists decided to explain why this is happening. In the process of experiment, scientists came to the conclusion that mistrust towards men is directly related to the amount of female testosterone, the male hormone in the body. An increased amount of this substance will provoke mistrust towards men. This is due to the fact that testosterone, while rising, blocks the hormone of happiness oxytocin in the organism of women, which in turn reduces the level of confidence in the croakers.
How to learn to trust in a relationship?
The first most important step is to recognize that there is such a problem. How to check? Notice how you react to the trifle of hair on clothing or sequins on your favorite shirt? If the first idea of obizmeni, it is already necessary to beat the alarm.
- The most effective way is to do your self-evaluation and, at last, start loving yourself for real. Pave the way for self-sufficiency. It is hard work and hard work on love for yourself, than to squander the precious forces of suspicion and negativity.
- Take away ownership in behavior. You need to stop controlling! Permanent calls to her husband, reading mail, sms, etc. It is necessary to establish habitually that a man is not your property, but a separate person with his wishes and rules and, oddly enough, rights. Control will never become the key to fidelity.
- The energy is directed to create a comfortable situation in the house, to build up mental contact with the man and to his attractiveness. The thing is that when these mistrusts arise, these items are affected immediately.
General conclusion. If your goal is to preserve relationships, then you need to pay attention to yourself, do your favorite things, develop interesting aspects of life, in general, by any methods, raise your self-esteem.
How to check it correctly?
If your suspicions are not an obsession, but a constantly repeating situation. Indeed, it is often true that suspicions are not groundless. You usually trust a man, but there are reasons for not trusting.
First, you need to immediately start the steps described above. And then check if your fears are groundless. How to check? First, clearly decide-do you really want to check and what will you do with it afterwards? Any adequate woman can tell whether it is worthwhile to say whether to trust a man in this or that situation without any checks. But if you decided to check it then you can:
Just check it out quietly, using the detective's help. In this case, it's fair.
Honestly to talk to a man. This step is for brave and self-sufficient women. And if between you and your man is really a spiritual relationship, then this will only benefit. But this method is not very common.
There are modern chemical methods of testing.
Modern methods widely used in the civilized world
By the beginning of the 21st century, people had become very pragmatic. Not an exception - tested treason!
For example, in Japan, women refused to humiliate the lipstick checks on their collars and search for other people's smells. To control the husbands began to use a nebulizer, which is based on the chemical compound, which is used in examinations of the medicine. It acts as a litmus paper. When sprayed on the laundry, the traces of the changes become bright green.
The sale of these funds is going on in Japan very smartly! It is worth a lot - 280 dollars. And the statistics are disappointing: the main buyers are women. Similar means are common in England. Their popularity is only growing.
Conclusion. Trust or not trust, check or not check - it's up to you. But the most important conclusion is this: If you really love your man and are in a serious relationship, then you need to trust him. It is trust that is the guarantee of happiness and harmony in the soul of a woman. If true love, then you do not need to look for reasons for confession.