Let's talk about how to help a person after parting with a loved one.
After parting, the person is in a state of complete apathy, feels deeply unhappy, his self-esteem, the desire to live, falls sharply. Simply put, he has lost the taste for life. Undoubtedly, he needs psychological help and support, which will help him return to a cheerful and happy mood.
The first thing to say to the person who was thrown: "You can not help the tears!". Maybe someone will find this rude, but an abandoned and unhappy person should, first of all, shake, make live and act. Therefore, it is necessary to practically make him "dry up" the tears, and to start the road only forward - straight to a new, bright and most importantly happy future.
End of love relationships - this is for any couple a heavy psychological blow. Especially, this applies to cases where one partner brutally and ugly threw the other. Qualified doctors - psychologists say that the first two months after the break are the most difficult for an abandoned person. But this period can be significantly reduced if it is "right" to help the victim.
The first thing to explain to an abandoned girl (or guy): the relationship ended forever, there's no turning back. As a rule, it is very difficult for a person to hear and realize this, but the more often he utters it out loud, and hearing from others, the faster the pain from these words will go away, and this is a very big step towards "recovery".
A person should not be left alone with his misfortune. This is the most important thing in how to help a person after parting with a loved one. He needs to be in the open air, meet friends, or even better, so that he talks about his feelings, as many people as possible. This technique is called "dissipation of grief". That's why many psychologists believe that when a person has many friends it is much easier for him to survive any troubles.
If it is a closed person who simply can not share his grief with others, then let him have a diary in which he will write about everything that he experiences. Moreover, when presenting the essence of problems on paper, a person can better understand the situation that has come about.
After a few days, a person needs to be treated. It consists in the following: sit him in front of the mirror and ask him to tell himself about his problems. This process helps to relieve accumulating stress. And most importantly, when a person finishes his story, let him smile at his mirror image, he himself will not notice how it will cheer him up.
The next step is to go to work. Any doctor will confirm that this is one of the best medicines for any failures and adversities. It is work that can "pull" a person when it becomes very difficult for him. Well and most importantly, work as a psychotherapeutic medicine, has one inherent advantage over all others: it is also paid for.
If a person has a "sit-down" job, for example, in an office, he must actually be forced to engage in manual labor, with the more, the better. Our soul and body are inevitably connected, and when the body gets tired - the soul becomes easier. He can do anything: sports, global house cleaning, even repairs.
Remember one important rule: in the process of "treatment" a person should not hide his true emotions, let him scream, cry, break dishes. If a person keeps everything in himself, then emotions will begin to "break" him, destroy him from within.
Nature! Here is another cure for pain: a trip to the forest, mountains, to the sea or at least to the park, helps a person to see that life goes on, the earth turns, the trees grow. Most often, a person who is in such a difficult psychological state does not want to go anywhere, but he must be forced, it is necessary to make sure that his life is full of events.
According to many psychologists, yoga and meditation are excellent remedies for incessant tears. Meditation helps a person relax the body and so calm the soul, plus to all the long yoga exercises normalize sleep.
When after a break there is at least a week, there comes a time for one more therapy: "throwing out the old - letting in a new one". Advise the "patient" to throw out all the things that somehow remind you of a former partner. It is clear that everything reminds of it: furniture, walls and even streets, by which the former couple walked. But you need to at least get rid of: letters, photos, and the like. At what, it is necessary to throw away without rereading and not reviewing old photos.
After a month, a person begins to feel that the main suffering is over, the pain subsides, it's easier to breathe. But these sensations, as a rule, are deceptive. The fact is that after violent emotions, there comes a "quiet", monotonous pain, which sometimes causes even more pain. Therefore, if the victim has such a financial opportunity, then it is best to go on a trip, at least in a small, but at least a week. From the trip, he already return a completely different person. Psychologists believe that the best remedy for a new "quiet" pain is new emotions, new acquaintances.
Now the main thing is not to let the person leave the intended path, he is already coming back to life, but he still needs time. During which he needs to talk a lot, let him tell what his life was before meeting with the ex-partner, what it was rich, what books he read then, what films he loved, where he went to have fun with friends, where he went for the weekend. Most importantly, to persuade the "patient" to abandon any plans for revenge, it is necessary to prove to him that "preparing to avenge, they are preparing a grave for two" and that it will not bring anybody any relief, but will only slow down the process of "recovery".