When the programs are twisting every day, where they make stars out of "ordinary" boys and girls, few people will not think themselves as handsome and talented. "Why Masha-Sasha-Dasha can, and I, what, worse?" - the child sitting at the screen asks himself. And you can not say that he is wrong, but if he is right, how can one explain to him that not everyone can become a star after all?
Encourage or not encourage
Sometimes parents themselves provoke their children in a tendency to overstate their own abilities. From a small age, they put on a stool and "bathe" in applause after unintelligible half-nipped rhymes: "You are a miracle, what a clever girl, just an artist grows!" Such an artist here in ten years will decide to enter the theater, fail on the first round, and God forbid, if you do not go drowning. Children are very sensitive to the evaluation of adults, and here the main thing is not to harm. If you gouge your child that he has three crowns and is simply a child against his fake Rachmaninov game, it is likely that such a delusion will sit for a long time with him in all three heads. Do not praise the obvious and far-fetched talents of his little genius - he will sideways.
The best way to help develop the existing talents and abilities is to explain to the child that without any effort, painstaking and tedious, no superdar can develop. Mastery is not a natural phenomenon, but an everyday exercise for many hours. Whether it's sports or art. It would be nice to give a couple of biographies or at least detailed interviews of his idols - none of the celebrities tells how easily and simply he got the glory. First of all, by the fact that this is not so.
Attention should be reasonable
When your neighbors are complaining about your miracle, they say, they will open windows, put out speakers and turn on loud music for the whole yard, do not rush off the amplifiers from the eighth floor. It is possible that your child just wants to attract attention. Often the dream to become famous arises precisely because the inadequate care in the childhood from the parents results in the desire to get it from the fans. Remember, when was the last time you were interested not in the marks, but in the last game of his favorite football team? Very often children do not discuss their interests with their parents, not because they do not want to, but because they are not interested in them.
If the child is not very sociable, he is unlikely to tell the enthusiastic "Field of Miracles" to his mother that the group he already adores for a long time, finally released her debut album or won first place in the prestigious charts. Such little things can eventually form in a dense wall, which can not be pierced with reproaches: "I gave birth to you, I did not sleep nights, I refused everything in myself, but now I know everything last, as if it's not your mother, but someone else's." Therefore, if you do not mind your child glorifying his name, make every effort to receive thanks to you, not the director and the operator, when receiving an Oscar with tears in his eyes.
The philosophy of a carrot without a carrot
It is known that it is already difficult for teenagers to point out something, they become stubborn and arrogant. Do not swear abuse, read do not read morals - it's useless, the gap between you can only increase. Try to manipulate your child a little. Want him to read Tolstoy, Chekhov, Dostoevsky. Then do not say that this will make him educated, but say differently: "True, judging by your reference books, you hardly understand the" Master ", here you need some literary baggage, and it, reading only Harry Potter, can not be saved ". Daughter was going to become an actress, so abandoned the story? It is useless to explain to her that this eternal science will come in handy in the future. It's better to be jiggering: "I imagine how famous you will be, you'll give interviewers an interview and the question:" Would you like to play in a historical tape, for example, in the Odyssey or the Iliad? "You will answer:" I will gladly flaunt the talent and in the role Odyssey, and in the role of the Iliad. " And the future top model, which has abandoned mathematics, is better to argue the exactness of exact sciences in the following way: "When you will receive millions of dollars from participation in advertising alone, who will lead your accounting department, if you even put the prime numbers in your calculator instead of in your head? "The main thing is do not overdo it and do not overdo it in your sarcasm.
Taste is a delicate matter
Parents need to monitor everything that their children watch, listen and read. But simply banning something is useless, you need to be able to substitute "negative products" for reasonable and interesting knowledge. Especially dangerous today is television. It is clear that the student, after returning from classes, can easily turn on any channel, so hiding the remote from him is ridiculous. But often it happens that moms watch the series together with their children, and still very tiny - two or three years. And this is exactly the age when there is a rapid development of the child - the baby absorbs everything like a sponge. It's no surprise that later he tells his parents with all the anthropological details how children appear to this world.
Developing your child - develop yourself. Go with him to theaters, exhibitions, concerts, let's read more good classical literature. Write a child in all sorts of circles and courses. When children have little free time, they rarely spend it on television. It is difficult to overestimate the role of makings and abilities in the development of a child given to him by nature, but without your attention and effort, they will simply sell in vain. And then your child, having grown up, will tell you his grievance about unrealized talents and missed opportunities.