"Psychological problems of adolescents and ways to solve them" - the topic of our today's article.
Adolescence is a certain stage in the development of the individual, located on the inner and outer sides of the childhood period and the platform for the full formation of a representative of society, respectively, the main distinguishing feature of which is a large-scale transformation, tied on the basis of puberty.
Throughout the above-mentioned period, the young creature feels an unprecedented excitement of the souls, repeatedly torn between this or that decision, several times distorting what seemed to be so fundamentally indestructible customs, the reality of their existence, then ascending upwards, then diving into the abyss, into the abyss of passion and ill-considered decisions, which in the future will again affect the basic worldview, since many of us tend to use the legitimate analyst of their behavior to achieve a certain consensus with their inner self.
The most significant aspect in the transformation of the subject's moral behavior is the emergence of a sense of permissiveness and steadfastness, repeatedly pronouncing in his own head the words "an adult, I can do a lot", very rarely anyone actually soberly assesses the current situation, long before the life-traced path of the universe, that is why in this situation it is so important to devote the maximum amount of attention and care to a person subject to the destructive influence of the transitional age, Only in this way one can achieve not only complete mutual understanding, but also maximally correctly influence our character.
The problems of this period in the life of a person are discussed in sufficient detail by the adolescents themselves, but, mainly, from their point of view. Moreover, each teenager seems that his problem is the most urgent and does not find any understanding among anyone.
However, as it turns out later (much to the surprise of the teenagers themselves), most of the problems are reduced to a few, fairly well-classified.
1. External problems
Exterior issues, i.e. appearance, affect the same degree of both boys and girls. It's just that the guys talk about it less, considering that they have to cope with everything themselves.
2. Hypersexuality
At this time, puberty is already beginning, which is characterized by fluctuations in the level of hormones. An increase in the titre of sex hormones causes hot flashes of sexual desire, both in boys and in girls.
3. "I am the smartest"
Considering that adults misunderstand the problem of adolescents, children, based on paragraph 2, try to avoid talking with parents first on "personal" topics, and after - in general.
Part of adolescent maximalism is associated with the characteristics of the psyche of the transition period, the other - with the action of hormones and metamorphopsia (distorted perception of the body), which makes teenagers especially vulnerable to any criticism. Over time, when the body's condition is stabilizing, many "problems" are simply forgotten.
Do not forget that the stress caused by hormones in adolescents can provoke some diseases and increase traumatism.
There is no doubt that the modern adolescent society is experiencing a significant impact from information technology, sometimes quite harmful.
For millions of teenagers and even children of younger age, the opinion, the outlook of not their parents, but musical idols, movie stars, becomes a priority. What's wrong with the fact that the child is carried away by the character from the screen of a computer or television, because this is a normal phenomenon for a teenager? Nothing tragic, of course, this is not, because every adult was once in his teens and just as fond of music or cinema. The question is not whether to prohibit a child from watching TV or climbing the World Wide Web, but that the adolescent does not lose interest in the parent's point of view, that he listens to the opinion of his mother or father so that he does not lose the desire to talk with them, sharing their experiences or joys. In order for the child to continue to be interested in the parents' opinion, I would like to spend time not only at the screen or monitor, but in the family society, parents should show a constant initiative in organizing joint events that would please their child, whether it be a hike in a movie, at a concert of your favorite artist, or just a walk in the park, depending on the mood or desire of the child. The main mistake that parents can make is not to show interest in the interests of the teenager, even if they are radically different from the interests of the parents themselves. Because it is very important for the child to feel the support of his parents, it is in this case that he will not seek her out of the family, thus moving away from her. It is also worth mentioning those situations where a teenager, keen on a computer or television, does not contact his parents at all.
In such cases, it should be borne in mind that such situations do not arise in an instant, but are a consequence of the fact that at some point in time parents ceased to be interested in the life of their child, and he thereby immersed himself completely in his inner world. The way out of this situation seems to me the following. Parents need to try to find out what the teenager is interested in, instill in him the certainty that they do not find his passion simply a waste of time. After all, otherwise the child will move even further away from the family and in such a case it will be necessary to turn to the help of specialists.
Thus, the advice that should be given to parents in order to avoid losing confidence and interest on the part of the child is to spend as much time as possible with their child, showing interest in his worldview, influenced by the mass media, trying to interest him and, that seems useful to you. So, for example, one day to go to a film with the participation of your favorite teenager, and the next day he will go to the theater with his whole family.
In such a case, the teenager will not be locked in himself, not wanting to share his experiences and thoughts with his parents, and parents, knowing about the hobbies of the child, will help him to learn other areas of pastime.