How can we manage to maintain friendly relations with the child during his teenage period? How to let him know that you, like no other, wish him happiness?
In adolescence, a child feels that his problems are so global that he himself can not solve them. Here you must come to the rescue, but unobtrusively. Do not tell the child what to do, let him make all the decisions himself. You must first of all be an older friend, but not a strict teacher. A teenager is not a baby, he is able to get out of his first difficulties himself. Just be there, he will appreciate your participation.
It is the adolescents who have secrets and secrets that they carefully store and do not allow parents to learn anything. Give the child the right to lead his personal life, because in this way he grows up. But still you need to be aware of the general events of his personal life. To do this, you can arrange an evening of revelation. Watch a movie together, go roller-skating, sit in a cafe. A joint pastime sets up a teenager for frankness. Do not force him to tell you something, start yourself: tell him about your first school love, about how you secretly wrote poems or something in his spirit at his age, and then ask him. Let him know that you are in no way negative about his personal affairs.
Teenagers sometimes choose friends that their parents do not like very much. If the child has started to communicate with a bad company, your prohibitions can only aggravate the situation: he can do everything to spite you, to show that he is already an adult, and has the right to choose his own friends. It will be better if you in a suitable situation point out the shortcomings of his friends, who see everything except him. If it concerns such serious things as alcohol and drugs, then the situation is different. Here you need a clear and sharp "no" (and better male). When the first wave of resentment and resentment passes, try to carry away something of the child. Think about what he likes to do and, on this basis, come up with a hobby together. Hobbies are very important for the child, it not only acts in a developing way, but also forms the correct psychological attitude to itself - the teenager begins to realize himself as a personality of something meaningful. Sometimes the right choice of hobby gives the teen a purpose in life.
Spend together more time, do joint activities: clean up together, cook something delicious, go shopping, walk, talk. It is important to give the teenager his personal opinion, as well as to take part in solving his problems. It's very close.
Perhaps the biggest problem for a teenager is his appearance. Teenagers (especially girls) are always dissatisfied with the age-related changes that often affect their face: oily skin, pimples. Explain to the child that everything goes through this, that eventually everything will turn right, you should not notice any mockery of peers, it's better to treat everything with humor. After all, all the beautiful swans grow out of ugly ducklings.
The period of adolescence is the most difficult in life. Pass it along with your child, help him in everything, do not criticize him, become his good friend, and then everything in your family will be fine.