The child's transition age is a real test for parents. Yesterday's smiling and affectionate kid suddenly turns into an ever-dissatisfied and withdrawn teenager. In the family there are misunderstandings, quarrels and conflicts, to which parents, like the children themselves, are often not ready. On the main problems of adolescence and the ways to solve them and talk in our today's article.
Little rebels: the causes of behavior change in adolescents
Before solving teenage problems, it is necessary to understand the origin of "feet" in whims and hysterics. Of course, the main reason lies in the physiological changes, or rather, in the restructuring of the body. This is a real hormonal storm, which is responsible for all mood swings, unreasonable tears and increased aggression from the teenager. It begins in about 6-7 grade. It is during this period that the first teenage problems appear: acne, breaking of the voice, disproportionate development of the body. This storm will abate only when the biological transition from a child to an adult, about 16-18 years, is over.
But not only hormones are to blame for the complexities of adolescent behavior. Most of the problems have a stratification of psychological factors: parents' incomprehension, peer rejection, difficulties of socialization. Conventionally, the problems of adolescents can be divided into three large groups: emotional experiences, physiological complexes, problems with communication.
Adolescent problems: strong emotional experiences
Hormones - the main factors that determine the mood in puberty. They are so "crazy" that even the slightest trifle can cause a very strong emotional reaction in response. Hence the well-known power of the first love, which literally completely absorbs the teenager. And causeless hysterics, mood swings, depression, conflicts are also consequences of strong emotional experiences.
How to help? Be close and supportive. It's better to do it unobtrusively, for example, to share a similar story from life and your experience. Often talk heart to heart and stop criticizing and making fun of children's experiences.
Adolescent problems: complexes due to appearance
Even if the child does not suffer from acne and excess weight, this does not mean that he is happy with his appearance. Teenagers have fantasies about the ideal self and they very rarely coincide with real external data. This is due to the same physiological changes, which often have a spasmodic character.
How to help? Try to explain that such a body will not always be and soon it will change for the better. Push the child to the sport. It is proved that children engaged in active sports are more likely to experience teenage problems.
Teenage problems: the complexity of socialization
In this category can be attributed as uncharacteristic earlier character traits (shyness, shyness, isolation), and manifestations of deviant behavior (alcoholism, smoking, vandalism, drug addiction). The reason for such problems is most often the inconsistency of how a person feels and how others perceive him.
How to help? To promote positive social contacts, encourage communication with close friends and classmates. If the child has no friends, then you need to help him find them. For example, write to a sports section or a circle of interests.