What is Tantra? This fusion of spiritual practice and sex gymnastics, which ensures the acquisition of true intimacy with a partner, allows you to experience the full depth of pleasure. Surely, many of you, having learned that tantra is a kind of yoga, wistfully stretch out: "Get up on the bridge and tie in a knot? It's not for us. " But do not jump to conclusions! To become orthodox tantrists and a letter in a letter to follow the directions of yogis is not necessary. It is enough to add its elements to the intimate life - that's the Russian model of tantric sex ready.
Where does it come from?
Tantra was "invented" by Indian Dravidians several millennia ago, and at that moment they thought least of all about sex. The essence was, speaking in modern language, to meditation and respiratory gymnastics. The highest point of comprehending tantra was the achievement of an altered consciousness, when a completely untrained person could perform unimaginably complex physical exercises and easily accept asanas (poses) that are only available to experienced yogis. If before sex and reached, it is extremely rare. Frozen in an incredible position, yoga partners had sex to energize each other, not thinking about pleasure. And the Tibetan Tantrists, and this was not an end in itself. There was only one thing - whether there are limits to the physical capabilities of the body. The tantra's sexual inclination began only in the middle of the 20th, brought about by a wave of sexual revolution, which then raged in Western countries. Russia was no exception, where it was destined to appear later on its Russian model of tantric sex. Then the notion of "neotantra" arose-that is, a new, updated tantra. Here, spirituality fades into the background, at the very first erotic massage, concentration on the partner, breathing techniques, meditation and actually tantric sex. In fact, there was no debauchery in the minds of the founders of tantra.
Let's start with the theory
Tantric sex is a sacred act, which is the union of Shiva and Shakti. In it, any movement, any touch is part of a magical ritual for partners, and not just a boring contact at the genital level. Spiritual unification with a partner and enlightenment of the mind are the goals of tantra.
Too complicated? Would you like to achieve nirvana without much effort? No, I'll have to work hard. And, not only physically, but also emotionally. But be assured, your efforts will not pass in vain: adherents of tantric art live in harmony with themselves and the world, do not suffer from depression, impotence and sexual disorders. After all, tantrists do not assert themselves with the help of sex - and this is the main difference between tantra and ordinary coitus. Partners strive not only physically, but also emotionally to penetrate into each other, as if to exchange bodies: a man tries to feel what the woman feels, and vice versa. There is no place for selfish satisfaction of one's own sexual needs! Therefore, if the ordinary sexual intercourse relieves tension, then the tantric, on the contrary, charges the person with divine energy. During sex, according to tantric teaching, the two flows of energy are merging. They seem to turn into one ray, which later allows a man and a woman to know the universal laws of being through feelings and sensations.
Tantra is first and foremost a method of expanding knowledge and only then a system aimed at improving physical exercise, a special massage technique, a unique technique for awakening libido and methods for improving the quality of orgasm.
Do it slowly
Perhaps, the ritual of preparation for intercourse will cast you into despondency by its self-control. Classical tantra suggests that first partners only look at each other, trying to establish visual contact - incorporeal and dumb. There is a "looking" at the partner, admiring him and accepting his appearance - it sets people up against each other, positively influences self-esteem, relieves of embarrassment and frees us from fear of future relationships.
When this initial goal is achieved, the husband and wife begin, as it were, to serve each other - helping to do exercises, massaging body parts. And all this takes place in respect for the desires and preferences of the partner. These actions are erotic, but not of an active sexual nature. For example, the massage is not exciting, but relaxing, and if one of the partners falls asleep under the influence of the monotonous movements of the massage session, this is considered an excellent result, not a failure. During tantric sex, you do not need to touch your partner with your hands: you can use a goose feather, fur, a patch of silk or satin, other materials that are pleasant to the touch. Like ordinary massage, Tantric also needs to relieve tension and give good health. So do not get carried away with charming, pleasant, light and gentle touches, alternate them with intense movements - this will bring you a feeling of closeness and security. And then ask the partner to deliver you such bliss. Further, the partners begin to sleep with each other in an embrace, but without active caresses and subsequent intercourse. And only after the passage of time sex between them becomes possible.
Experts argue that such sexual psychotherapy helps to get close to mutually chilled spouses, to experience the second youth of sensuality. But be prepared for the fact that the desired result does not come instantly - you and your spouse will have to work hard.
Practical lessons
The fact that special physical training is required for performing tantric exercises is a profound error. You do not have to be a yogi or an Olympic champion in rhythmic gymnastics.
■ Meditation on yantras. According to tantra, a man and a woman who have sex, symbolize the male and female beginnings, creating the universe and ruling it. Intimate organs are perceived as objects of worship. Classical tantra practices meditation on yantras - pictures-symbols remotely resembling male and female genital organs.
Practice . Find paintings - prints, graphics, - where the image resembles the male and female genitals. Hang one or two similar pictures in the bedroom and peer at them - singly and together, cultivating love and respect for the signs of sex. Then the tantrists pass from the yantras to the real sexual organs of the partners, meditating already on them. This liberates, it helps to remove the clamps, to get rid of the shyness of shyness and to establish close intimate contact.
■ Chakra massage. Chakras are the centers of "vortices", where the physical, emotional, mental and electromagnetic energies pass one to the other and connect us to the world. In total there are seven chakras that are placed along the spine and are a reflection of our consciousness.
1. The chakra at the base of the spine is the "root center".
2. Chakra in the pelvis.
3. Chakra at the level of the navel or solar plexus.
4. Chakra in the heart.
5. Chakra in the throat area.
6. The chakra on the forehead is the "third eye".
7. The chakra on the vertex.
Practice. You need to release the energy concentrated in these centers, for love according to the laws of tantra. Caress your partner, starting with the chakras of your head, then move towards the genitals and try to keep your energy there. Try to focus on how to feel the energy of a partner and get in touch with it. Chakra massage is an unrivaled opportunity to experience an amazing sexual intimacy with a partner.
■ Tantric sexual intercourse. A huge supply of psychic energy is in the root center at the base of the spine, where it "sleeps", curled like a snake. As soon as sexual excitement appears, the energy slowly - like a snake - unfolds and moves up the spine, charging other centers on its way. You can even feel it in the form of a slight hot movement along the spine or in the form of muscle contraction.
Practice. In order for this "snake" energy to wake up - during sex you need to keep your back straight. This means you must sit or stand with a straight spine. So it becomes difficult to choose a position, but, according to the adherents of tantra, you will be awaited by deep and wonderful experiences. You can also swap places with a partner, giving him the opportunity to feel something unforgettable.
■ Karezza. In translation from Italian means "gentle touch". Previously, it was believed that this kind of sexual technology, developed on the basis of tantra, is suitable only for the elderly, but now it is practiced by young people. The basis karetsy is not sex as such - active, with a whirlwind of passion and seconds of forgetting - but affection and attentive attitude towards a partner. Sexual intercourse, according to karetsa, is very slow. Partners realize and feel every minute of this action.
Practice. Long and carefully caress each other in all possible ways, putting all your tenderness and quivering, trying not to miss a centimeter of the partner's body. Then, watching the reaction of each other, begin to slowly mating. Closing your eyes is not necessary: without looking up during the whole sexual act, look at each other. According to experienced adherents of tantric sex, the orgasm that completes karetsu is longer than usual and much more palpable.
Final hugs. At the end of any tantric exercise or sexual intercourse, it is important to "go down to earth" again. The main thing is that after such a sex you will never have a desire to smoke a cigarette, throw a silly joke or just fall asleep, turning to the wall. Your consciousness will become unusually clear, even at times too vulnerable. You probably will not want to talk, but most importantly - you will feel incredible affinity with your partner. You will understand that you have gone beyond the earthly, the carnal, and entered the spiritual world.
Practice. An excellent "grounding" exercise is to look into each other's eyes. Just try, lying calmly facing each other, looking into the partner's eyes. It's easy and you quickly relax. Your breathing will slow down, and energy will dissipate all over your body. You will even be able to hear the beating of your hearts. This is a wonderful completion of the tantric act, when you literally merge into one, and your souls begin to sing in unison.