Coping with stress.
Love or even simple flirting helps us to fight unpleasant emotions and relieve tension. At work, as in your personal life, things go differently - then we are happy that everything is good, then in despair, that everything is bad. A service romance is often the result of complex relationships in the team, dissatisfaction with wages or the need to make complex decisions. Passions usually do not boil where everything is calm and predictable. A service novel is a frequent phenomenon in young collectives and in developing firms.
It is believed that relations in the workplace are initiated only by superiors, but this is not so. Under the influence of stress, a person tries to compensate for unpleasant feelings, especially if it can not affect the situation. Therefore, a service romance can happen to the boss with the secretary, and the manager with the accountant, and the guard with the waitress.
Love at work can for a while relieve stress, but almost always this over time grows into an additional problem, especially if the relationship becomes visible to everyone and if someone from the couple is not entirely honest. This is how "dirty linen" is displayed for public inspection.
For the sake of a career.
Relationships for the sake of a career are also a frequent phenomenon. Especially often this way to achieve an increase enjoyed by young, ambitious and inexperienced girls. Youth and beauty can help in the desire to take a more advantageous position. But, when the habit comes into force, these dignities, as a rule, recede into the background. Especially the big mistake of young specialists is the termination of relations with the person who helped them in promotion, once they achieve their goal. Few people think that cheating or ordinary quarrels can bring everything back to square one. The one with the power to raise you, just as easily can fire. Therefore, relations for the sake of a career are a big risk.
Master-gentleman.
Among the girls, there are legends about how the elderly respectable bosses are striving for closeness, threatening with dismissal. To say that this does not happen is silly. There are also such situations that girls are forced to agree to a service romance so as not to lose their job.
In order not to be in this position, it is important to know that it is easier to influence the weak. If you have an education, if you are in your place, if the work is to be done, then in time you will become a popular specialist, losing which the employer will lose rather than win. Therefore, professionalism is the only thing that can protect under similar situations.
For love.
But it also happens that at work there are two people who are just created for each other. Psychologists recommend not to give up such a gift of fate, but try to quickly translate the service romance into another status. For example, one of the lovers can look for a job elsewhere if he plans a serious relationship. This is also necessary because it is difficult for people to maintain good relationships, being around the clock around the clock. This inevitably leads to the fact that people quickly get bored with each other, begin to transfer work problems to the family, and family ones - to work. A ridiculous situation may be that someone refuses to carry out assignments, just because the house has a conflict. Therefore, in order not to risk, it is better to disperse to different firms or at least to different departments.
A service romance is always difficult. It's intrigues, gossip, the need to hide relationships and the risk of being in the most disadvantageous position when love ends. To decide whether this is the choice of everyone. True, to give up great love, just because she met at work, it is impossible. From any position there is always a way out, and common sense will help to find it, despite the strongest feelings.