"If they're mocking you, it's not your fault, but it's your problem," says former victim Aj Mairok, a schoolboy. She knows first hand how hard it is to be left alone among the hostile peers. To help students who find themselves in a similar situation, Aidzha wrote the book "Why me? The history of the white crow. "
Children often assign someone from their classmates to outcasts, and this can greatly poison the life of a vulnerable child. And in the worst case - end in tragedy. After all, there are many cases when adolescents committed suicide, because each day they were harassed by their peers. Aija explains to those who have been abused, that it is not worth listening to the abusers and looking for the cause of the conflict in themselves: "It seems to you that there is something in you that irritates everyone and that you need to get rid of this trait. Well, that does not suit them? My voice? Leather? Figure? Gait? Hair color? Clothing? No, it's not that at all. Believe me, if you are bullied, then the problem is not in you, but in those who poison you. If you are bullied because you are different from others, then your offenders have something wrong. They are so unsure of themselves that they are putting their problems on you. " Like no other, Aija understands: when faced with school baiting, you need to be as cautious as possible, because physical and psychological security is first of all. Therefore, in her book the girl tells how to behave on the Internet, school and at parties to avoid trouble. It gives simple but very important advice, for example:- Carefully study the security settings and limited access to social networks. There is nothing strange here - celebrities and public figures often use the restriction of access to their pages. Famous people have fans, but there are enemies. So, on them the mud pours down - they are your comrades in misfortune.
- Teachers usually do not control the vestibule, and there is always chaos. Precautions: Minimize the time you spend in the lobby, move quickly. This applies to any open space where you can be attached to a large company.
- Before accepting an invitation to a party from someone of the same age, ask yourself a few questions. How do I really feel about the person who invites me? Where is this house? Who else will be there? Is it possible that there will be drugs and alcohol at the party? Will someone at home be at home? The person who invites me to visit really treats me well, or do I just want to think so?