Work on your bad habits, fight with laziness, learn new things, enjoy every day!
Have you ever thought that our children in the most direct sense are our mirror? You can complain infinitely long about the stubbornness or resentment of your son or daughter, but more often that nasty tart inflection with which a little nonsense refuses such useful oat porridge or requires you to lead him for a walk to the farthest sandbox is "photographed" just from you. Well, you can take this fact into consideration and continue to struggle with the bad habits of your children. But is not it easier to outbuild yourself so that the reflecting mirror shows an exceptionally nice picture? Especially since the old wise nce reads: "Sooner or later, your child will follow your example and habits, not your advice." So, we proceed to planned and hard work on ourselves!
Watch the speech
Do not use profanity yourself and limit in the expressions of the surrounding kid the people. Go ahead - do not go down to a rude, old-fashioned style of communication. Often put yourself mentally in the place of your child. Would you like it if a close person angrily snarls: "I said to anyone: turn off the cartoons and quickly wash your hands - dinner on the table!" The habit of screaming inappropriately does not add to the warmth. grow up a polite and tactful person who respects himself and other people Speak "magic words", including when you ask the child to do something ("bring, please, a cup from the room") or thank for the executed request ("thank you, I would not have managed without you! "). Say hello to your neighbors, be polite and considerate in public transport, even if you met a real tram hub. Children do not need to see how you lose your temper.
In any situation, keep your face and work on your bad habits. Do not blame the child for known people - otherwise, be sure that your mother-in-law will be aware of what you consider her to be a withered out of mind.
Correctly eat
The appearance of a child is a rare occasion for the entire family to start eating healthy, varied and balanced foods. If you do not want your crumb before a reasonable age to become interested in cheap low-quality sweets, beer, chips, instant noodles and other dubious foods - do not keep anything like this in the house. The child is offended, if he is not allowed to try something that the parents with obvious pleasure eat themselves. To explain why mom and dad can eat chips, and Vanya can not, will not work without lying. But we do remember the mirror and do not want the crumb to get an example of deception from people whom he unconditionally trusts. And when the baby sees an advertisement of some low-eaten dessert, it will be easier for him to accept the impossibility of eating this fabulous dish, if you say simply: "We do not eat it." Be sure to be consistent in your prohibitions.If you like to drink tea with cookies on the couch in the living room in front of the TV, it's illogical to forbid to drag food into the room, forget about this habit.So either carry your tea-parties to the kitchen, or put up with the crumbs on the carpet.
Perhaps you do not have the habit of nicely serving a table for every family meal. Start to do it for the sake of the child! Again, there is a double benefit: a small gourmand gets an experience of lunch etiquette, and you train to operate with cutlery so as not to feel constrained in a restaurant.
In general, the habit of sitting together at the table together and enjoy not only from well-cooked food, but from communication with each other, as nothing else makes your family a single organism. Someone will argue that with a small child is not something to cover on the table - sometimes intercept the day before yesterday cutlet from the refrigerator is impossible. Indeed, there are periods when children do not let you relax even for a minute. It's not about what you need in the shortest time to become the ideal hostess and every morning to bake fresh biscuits. But mastering a dozen, "quick" recipes is possible even for the most inept cook, especially since a huge amount of household appliances is being used to help my mother.For example, electric steamers with a timer allow you to program the cooking time so that a hot lunch is ready just by the time of returning from a walk.
Look at the million
It is believed that the newborn does not care what his mother looks like. To the kid it is really not important, whether there is at you a cellulitis, morshchinki around of eyes and whether you have made a manicure. The main thing is tenderness, warmth, tender words and concern. But at some point the crumb will inevitably begin to be interested in questions of bodily beauty. Whatever they say, grooming depends not so much on money and free time, but on desire and habit. For a girl, how mother cares about her appearance will later become a compass for her own movement to become "the most charming and attractive." For the boy, the image of the mother is inextricably linked with the image of the ideal woman, whom he will look for as his companion Keep yourself in shape so that your baby proudly says: "My mom is the most beautiful!"
Bad habit
A crumb repeats everything that you do. If you smoke, you will soon see it with a pencil in your mouth and a lighter in your hand. After all, in the eyes of the child everything that Mom does is right and good. Of course, people in the non-smoking family of registered teetotalers can grow up with bad habits. But that is another story. And now, with the appearance in the house of a small, so tender and fragrant family member, you have a serious reason to end dependence on smelly tobacco.
Do not be lazy
Accustomed to the crumb from childhood to take part in solving economic issues, you will render your heir a gigantic favor. The habit of cleanliness and order is laid down for up to three years, use this time to not just force the child to clean up their toys, but to teach them to enjoy the adjustment of the house. If you are, what is called, a creative nature with an enchanting ability to create a mess around yourself and chaos, work on yourself! It is possible that you will learn the basics of Feng Shui - the ancient Chinese art of living space organization. Masters of Feng Shui argue that if the house is dirty, then in the head and heart of those living in it, too, everything is not in order. At the earliest age the child must understand that it is necessary to be precise and obligatory in his actions. Therefore, never promise him what you are not going to do, but if something suddenly broke, apologize, explain to the baby why it failed to fulfill the promise, and try to compensate as much as possible for your own failure.
Developing
Perhaps, all caring parents dream to invest in the child a maximum of knowledge and skills, to cultivate him by an educated and erudite person. The topic of early and subsequent development of children is one of the hottest in parenting forums. But mothers make a huge mistake when they enthusiastically and zealously engage in children, lead them to circles and to classes in the Montessori system, and they do not read anything but a television program and a cookbook. If you do not plan to become a housewife, take a maternity leave to stay up to date with news in your professional field. With the support of the family, many manage to combine the upbringing of children and the writing of a dissertation. Walking with a sleeping child, listen to audiobooks. Pay attention to the author's programs of famous people, in which they share their non-standard thoughts about everything in the world. Do not narrow the world to four German "K": kinder, kyuhe, kleide, kirche (children, kitchen, dresses, church) .You will have your own interests, with which you will soon get acquainted and your heir!
More positive
Are you annoyed by childish whims and nagging? Is your baby always displeased with everything? Do you often joke and sing funny melodies? Are not you too convincing to complain that life has treated you unfairly? Do not go with a "sour" face? We hope that this is not about you.
Easy and optimistic people are easier to live in this world. If you have a black streak in your life and your hands are already falling, if you are fatally tired and your only desire is to escape to the end of the world where no one will find you, just go to the mirror, smile at your reflection and say to yourself: "I am the happiest! All that happens to me is temporary difficulties. Tomorrow the sun will rise, a new day will come, it will bring only good news. I will definitely be lucky. "And everything will certainly be so.