What it is?
Self-presentation of personality is a process that allows us to appear in the best possible light. This is how you look, how you smell, how you talk and move - all of your actions that another person can appreciate.
Most people are dependent on the opinions of others, whether they are casual companions in the subway or old friends, it is important for us to know what they think of us well, that we are appreciated, that we like. It is this evaluative proposition that pushes us to various kinds of actions that help others to form a certain opinion about us.
It often happens that, wanting to please, a person does something that once and for all repels people from him. It depends on the ability to submit oneself, which not everyone owns. Others, on the contrary, have to themselves literally from the first word or gesture. This natural charm and bribes. If in your work and personal life this skill is not enough, it's time to learn it.
Effective self-presentation
When meeting you or during an important meeting, the result you are expecting is largely up to you. Whether you are making a business proposal or offering hands and hearts, a person's consent will consist of many factors. Especially difficult is the closed-up few sociable people.
If you are just like that, then you have to start small. Specialists in communication - both business and intimate, believe that a person can not establish communication skills with the knowledge of himself. So do what will help you to look at yourself unbiassed. Straight conversations with relatives, yoga, classes with a psychologist will help. This is necessary in order for you to learn to understand people better, which is impossible without knowing and accepting yourself as a person.
Then you should realize that if only you are not a professional actor, then it's better for you to be what you are, and not to seem what you would like to be. Falseness is very easy to recognize, and this can reduce all your efforts to make contacts to naught. So do not be afraid to be yourself, even if it seems to you that you can not be interesting. Try to be as you like to see others. If you like to see smiling friendly people around you, be so, if you want to see sympathetic and compassionate people around you, be so.
If communication with new people is not a problem for you, you easily find a common language with almost everyone and do not feel fear of speaking, then the work done will be much less.
First of all, in each specific case it is important to determine the audience to which your self-presentation will be calculated. It does not matter whether there are new friends in the bar or new customers, the main thing is that you clearly know who to spread your charm.
Then there are two options for behavior. First, you adjust to the audience. Let's say you are in an unfamiliar company that you would like to join. It's hard enough to do, but there's one effective way. You must adopt the basic features of the character and behavior of those people who want to like. These can be characteristic gestures, timbre of speech and tempo of the voice, certain themes, etc. It is necessary to observe only a little the behavior of others, and you can easily see that they are interested in what unites them. You only need one thing - to become like them.
But this method does not always work, and sometimes it hurts. Therefore, it is important to be able to attract attention in other ways. For example, to become a leader, a dominant person, which is especially important in business negotiations. You present yourself as an obvious leader whose authority is not discussed. Confident movements, low and strong enough voice, clear uncompromising phrases will help you with this. But it is worthwhile to know that this method works only if you are among people where there are no more candidates for the leader's place, otherwise the struggle for it is guaranteed to you.
Self-presentation will help you to set others up for that vision of you as a person who is most profitable for you. Sometimes even in an ordinary store or a state office all the charm is required to get a cherished product or service quickly. Unfamiliar people can not get information about you, except what you give them, so if you look and behave like a nice and good-natured or tough and domineering person - you will be so for them.