But what happens in the minds of women and men when it comes to sexual relations?
In the modern world, a woman feels so free with sex, like a man. But from what is happening, that to this day a man who has a large number of mistresses, all the samely called Zhigalo, and a woman who sleeps more than one, often have to listen to get out of the pile of gossips behind her and watch a large number of skewed looks. Where did this injustice come from?
Most likely, the root cause of such a relationship is expressed in vnuansah human psychology. Like any other, the sexual revolution hurts the external manifestations of various representations, but it can not in the centuries to differentiate the asserting attitudes of people and stereotypes. Even at the present time, the memory of a person (albeit on a genetic or even some subconscious level) maintains a stereotype: a man is a hunter, a woman is the keeper of a home.
Modern science also stands up for the protection of men. Scientists-genetics have discovered an interesting fact that a single hormone is responsible for sexual attraction in the representatives of the male sex. And all, probably, guess that his name is testosterone. By sexual relations, the same woman is attracted not by a simple hormone, but by a large complex complex of chemical reactions. Perhaps this is why, for most men, sex is a simple physiological action that can be compared, for example, with ordinary breakfast. Women jessex perceive sex as a physical manifestation of intimacy and love. In the end, it becomes clear that women are very important emotional component of this process.
It's sad, but it turns out that no matter how much we debate the discussion of morality and fidelity, the very nature of a woman and a man contains a different relation to sex.
When a man is examined by a woman, her evaluation always takes place. There are guys who admit that when communicating with a new pretty girl they have such an idea: "Would she sleep with me?" The action is on a subconscious level, even if he adores his wife and is simply happy in marriage! A small survey among my friends and friends confirmed that the thoughts of such a plan come to mind almost to all men. Then everything goes according to the usual scenario. The man, as a curious creature, naturally wants to verify his idea: "will he sleep or not sleep?" Perhaps this may be blasphemous, but often in the process of "dragging" a woman into the distance, the man does not participate in any feelings. The main task is to win. If a woman turns out to be an easy prey, then the male, having amused his self-love, disappears from her horizon. More persistent "victims" can force a man to resort to manifesting the incredible wonders of love madness, he can even believe in himself that he is in love. However, after reaching the cherished goal, the man becomes uninteresting. The answer to the question was given, therefore, such relations have outlived themselves.
It is not necessary to understand psychology well enough to understand that people who started such a game only want to establish themselves through sex, once again, having amused their "I". Many such men do just that, because they are unsure of themselves. In their heart they have a sense of insecurity, attacking in a simple way, they want to emphasize their attractiveness. It happens that women behave in a similar way. However, the motives of women and men are different. If men want to confirm their male ego, then women try to prove to everyone and everything that they are desired and loved.
Often, women are less insecure and complexed in their sexuality. Therefore, if a man needs to always receive the method of "bed" confirmation of evoking interest from the opposite sex, then for a woman will suffice to hear a compliment or even see one ambiguous, delighted look. If such compliments take place, then the girl's feelings or the woman's pride is satisfied. And therefore it is necessary to set the following goal.
A single woman, as a rule, also considers a new acquaintance as a potential object of love and passion. However, it puts emphasis a little differently. If usually the main interests of a man are located in the plane of the bed, then the interests of women are naturally married. Any girl after the first kiss in her head paints a picture, as if they, a strange song of birds holding hands, go to the altar. So it turns out that a man views sex as a goal, and a woman - only as a means to achieve the highest goal.
If a person from sex only waits for the satisfaction of his physiological needs, then it is completely unclear why he needs a partner?
After all, you can achieve this pleasure yourself, while not spending time and money on establishing contact, acquaintance and other terms. It can also be noted that there is the oldest and well-known profession, involving sex without any love. However, in this case, the motive for satisfying one's self-esteem is absent for a man. So the kakon gets sex not because of his irresistibility, but simply because pay is money. It turns out that in addition to "flirting" with pride and physiological pleasure there is something else, for which reason each of us enters into sexuality. It is interesting that even the most cynical adherents of the point of view that sex is just an act that can be compared with the dispatch of need (or even with a meal) stumped such a question: "Why do you need a partner when having sex?"
Naturally, no one will deny that the sexual instinct is by nature the same as thirst or hunger, but unlike them, it can be controlled by the person himself. If it is easier to express itself, it is if the stomach is the "commander" in case of starvation, then in the case of sex (despite a large share of the influence of the physiological desire) the brain occupies a leading position. As a result, it turns out that for the woman and the man the main thing in sex is not physical, but spiritual intimacy. This is precisely the main difference between man and animal.
Two mutually loving people for whom sex is a manifestation of the proximity will get considerable pleasure and it will be a completely different plan. I sometimes noticed how sympathetically they look at those who consider the role of sex in the life of a person purely a physical need. In fact, they can only be pitied-if they are capable of such a comparison, then they have never experienced the entire feeling, the feeling of cosmic union given only by the truly in love.