Disorder. Imaginary or true?
Before to understand, there was a sexual frustration or not, it is necessary to know, that such norm or rate. Here it makes sense to single out a partner and individual rate. The criteria that make it possible to distinguish the sexual norm from pathology may be different, but in the first place a person should experience satisfaction with his sex life. If this does not happen, then it's time to seek help from a specialist who will study what causes dissatisfaction: overestimated self-esteem, overestimation of a partner, popular sexual myths in the people, or there is a real sexual disorder that has begun or gone far.
Perhaps, it is a question of imaginary frustration. These include pseudo-impotence and pseudofrigidity. For example, the lack or weakness of an erection in the people is considered to be impotence (today this "offensive" term is replaced by another - erectile dysfunction). But is it possible to consider impotence as true if it is caused by completely explainable reasons - an unattractive kind of partner, fatigue, self-doubt, fear of accelerated ejaculation or interference from outside?
Female sexual pseudo disorders can be associated with fear of coition or inexperience. To determine precisely, consultation is needed, perhaps not one. It is likely that you will have to turn not only to the sex therapist, but also to the urologist, gynecologist, psychologist or psychiatrist. After all, it was difficult to determine exactly what caused the disorder. One thing is clear: if you feel discomfort in the genital area, couples can not be delayed with a trip to the doctor. Myself will be more expensive.
Unfulfilled desires
The main problem for women is that they rarely go to a sex therapist. For fifty men a woman applies to a specialist. And, in general, it is understandable why: imitating an erection is much more difficult than an orgasm. Most men do not even suspect that their wives do not experience anything during intimacy, at best, "tolerate". It often happens: a man thinks that his wife is temperamental, and she, it turns out, is just a good actress. In fact, sexual problems in women are greater than in men, only they are mostly out of sight of sex therapists. Probably, psychologists or psychotherapists are engaged in this, but only not doctors-gynecologists.
If women also come to the sexopathologist's office, then most often with complaints about standard sexual problems - lack of orgasm (anorgasmia) or a decrease in sexual desire (libido). By the way, studies show that only 16% of women experience orgasm with each sexual intercourse, with every second sexual intercourse - 22%, and they never experienced an orgasm about 18%. Anorgasmia can be caused by the partner's inexperience, hereditary-constitutional features, pain during intimacy, inadequate partner stimulation, abnormal internal settings, or inflammatory processes in the genital area. Sometimes it is generally a variant of frigidity. In any of these cases, a thorough examination of the patient is necessary.
Hit below the belt
For 30 years in sexopathology, nothing new has appeared, and men come to specialists with the same problems as before: a weak erection and premature ejaculation. Here are just more reasons. We must take into account the difficult time in which we live. Stresses became its integral feature, and it, first of all, beats on man's health.
Most often, men aged between 20 and 35 apply for help, although it happens that they come both younger and much older. Some young people panic after the first sexual intercourse, and sometimes it turns out that a man has been suffering from a sexual disorder for 40 years and only now, when he is over 70, finally decided to come.
Recently, among the male population there is a so-called manager syndrome. Hard work and stress lead to the fact that men are not reduced even by opportunities, and desires. This is especially true for business people. They live sexually less often than those who work in a more relaxed mode in other areas. And, obviously, it's not a paycheck or age, but an emotional load. Men just "burn out." Remember the state when you had to take a serious exam. Was it before sex? In a state of stress, you were an hour or two, and these men live for months and years. Problems for them - respectively, the emergence of sexual problems of married couples.
Sometimes everything is solved simply: went, rested, and everything seemed normal. Alas, for a short while - returned to work, returned and problems. But even among men, not everyone is in a hurry to contact us for help. On the one hand, there are "specialists" who are not even fixed in the health care system, and on the other hand, drugs that make them feel like a full-fledged man. Take even the famous Viagra. One doctor once said: "The appearance of Viagra is the death of sexopathology." Several years ago in the report of our pharmacy network it was noted that this drug is among the top ten most sold in the country. Imagine how many men suffer from frustration! But, despite this, patients in sexopathologists became less. I would not want people to continue to be mistaken, because no such drug will cure the causes of the disease.
One problem for two
Speaking about harmony in the family, about marital relations, we mean the family as a whole, when one trouble is divided into two and the problem of one of the spouses is experienced together. We can not talk about exact statistics of sexual problems of married couples in our country - serious research is needed here, and this is a lot of money. We own only statistics of the West. As far as this problem is common for us, we can only judge, based on the number of applicants.
Unfortunately, in recent years, women are less likely to be alarmed about sexual disorders in their spouses. Husbands are left alone with their problem, and meanwhile, the number of extramarital sex relationships among women, according to one study, has increased by almost half. About 30 years ago the situation was different. Families were stronger, and there were fewer divorces. The couple kept each other. When a man was upset, he came to the reception with his wife. Sometimes the wives came to the consultation first, then the spouses were sent.
In addition, today about a third of women practice "castrating" sexual behavior. Behave so that even a healthy man is not able to perform a normal sexual intercourse. These ladies are attracted not by an intimate affinity with a man, but by "dividends" that can be obtained. And they see their task not to give themselves and the man joy, but to cause in him a sense of guilt: "It did not work out in bed - work!" And he "works out" - gifts, money or real estate. And if he, theoretically, will recover, the wife will lose the benefits. Therefore, these women also do not allow men to be cured, no matter how hard the doctor tries. But to understand, whether so occurs or happens actually, it is possible, besides, only on consultation. Nowhere else in the world are only sex workers engaged in sex therapy. This is an act of a couple. And a strong relationship in the family depends on how much a man and a woman are willing to participate in each other's lives.