Why do some babies fall asleep and sleep peacefully, while others constantly wake up, sob, spin in a dream? Whether there are any pathologies at my child? .. Such questions, for certain, are puzzled by the parents who have collided or faced with similar "infringements" of an infantile dream. We will deal with some infringements of a baboon dream, not connected with diseases.
Often the difficulties of falling asleep and infringement of infant sleep are associated with the wrong behavior of the child and parents in the period associated with sleep. In this article, we will look at the small secrets of a good sleep of an infant.
Calm and restless sleep
Why do babies sometimes sleep peacefully, and sometimes their sleep is more disturbing? Why can some babies sleep through the night without disturbing their parents, while others, on the contrary, wake up every two hours?
The cause of restless sleep of the newborn is his inability to the world around him. Little children very often "confuse" day and night, spend a kind of "test" for their parents to strength. And only after a few months there is a more or less established regime of sleep and wakefulness.
The cause of restless sleep of the baby of the first months of life can be intestinal colic, and in older children the state of anxiety can be caused by the process of teething.
It happens that a child restlessly sleeps at night because of a close relationship with his mother or because of so-called, wrong "association of falling asleep." Often a good sleep is prevented by excessive emotional overload during the day. And only the correct organization of the regime of the day and the correct "association of falling asleep" will help to eliminate infringements of infant sleep, not related to the pathology of the nervous system.
"Correct" and "wrong" associations of falling asleep
According to statistics, in every sixth family the baby is not sleeping well (that is, disturbed continuous sleep during the night). I note that the frequent cause of violations of infant sleep is the incorrectly established mode of sleep of the baby, namely: incorrect association of falling asleep.
What should be the correct falling asleep infants?
The infant should learn to fall asleep on his own, with the minimum participation of adults. At night, it is necessary to minimize communication with the child during approaches to the crib so that the child can distinguish between the difference in behavior during the day and at night. This behavior is very important, since an awakened child is much more difficult to fall asleep than an adult. Therefore, we need to establish a certain regime, thanks to which the baby will get used to falling asleep after strictly established order: bathing, feeding, non-prolonged communication with adults (a bedtime story, a lullaby).
The "wrong" associations of falling asleep include: rocking the child in the hands of an adult, falling asleep in the parent's bed, during feeding, with a finger in the mouth, etc. Although, you can argue about the parental bed. Now there are many arguments in favor of sharing sleep with the child. The main thing is to determine in advance for yourself what is more important for you, and in advance to think about how you will further divide the joint bed with the child.
The older child (somewhere after 8 months) can develop such a "right" association of falling asleep with a "mediator". The favorite toy of the kid often acts as a mediator. I note that such a "good middleman" can be found for smaller children. It can be a diaper or a mother's dressing gown, a rag soaked in milk, a mother-preserving smell.
It is important to know that with the proper organization of sleep and wakefulness, the use of medications will not be necessary. And before you "feed" the baby with droplets or tea, attributed to the doctor, try to adjust the child's harmonious sleep naturally.
When breastfeeding quiet sleep helps the inner mom's peace. That is, if the mother is excited - do not expect peace from the side of the baby. Start with yourself, first!
Little secrets of good sleep
Proceeding from the foregoing, let us dwell on the main small secrets of a good sleep of an infant:
- Develop your evening rituals. Even if the child is still very small, he gets used to his "regime" from the first days of his life.
- The cot should always remain a place to fall asleep. Therefore, the kid during the day must play in other places so that at night it is not a "confused" place for sleeping with a place for playing and waking.
- Try, from about three months of age, to put the child to bed at the same time.
- I recommend that you feed your baby before bedtime wrapped in a towel or blanket, thus creating him a "nest", with which you put the crumbs asleep in the crib.
- Create a setting for falling asleep: muffled light, quiet music or even its absence, a quiet monotonous conversation.
Lullaby and fairy tales for the night
A good "sleeping pill" for an infant is always a lullaby. This is a good reason, because my mother's voice has always acted lulling. And do not be afraid to sing to your beloved baby a lullaby, even if you do not have vocal data. Thanks to the lullaby, the mother gives the child love, warmth, tenderness, peace and tranquility. And what else is needed for a good happy sleep? Creating such a tradition of a kind of communication with the child before going to bed, you form a confidential atmosphere between you and the child, which will be preserved for many years. Sing to your kids lullabies, give them the joy of communicating with you, and a good sleep to your crumb is guaranteed, because it is surrounded by your warmth and love!