Unfortunately, in life we have to not only meet, but also to part with people. And these partings, at times, become a very serious trauma to the heart and soul. How can you learn to let people go so that you do not have to suffer from emotional wounds for many years?
Introspection
Sometimes it happens that we feel - we need to release a person, because it will be better for both us and him. In this case, it is necessary to analyze the situation in order to realize: without it, your life will change to the best. No matter how hard it is in the heart, no matter how much nostalgia torments, try to think rationally. Undoubtedly, it can be very difficult, but in some situations it's just necessary to turn off the feelings. Therefore, if you made the decision to dispose of yourself with a person whose relationship brought trouble, praise yourself for rationality and do not allow yourself to give in to emotions. Each of us must choose that life and those people who bring us spiritual and emotional pleasure. Therefore, if you feel that you are uncomfortable next to the people, you should always let go of it. And it's not just about tehsituation when you are offended. It happens that the relationship seems to be normal, even good, but you understand that with this person you are out of the way, because you have different views, different attitudes to situations and so on. In this situation, you should not rape yourself, explaining your behavior by the fact that you feel sorry for a person, you have long been friends and tacitly. Sometimes we have to let go of even old friends, because we grow, we change, we gain experience, and with some people, we just disagree. And that in the end your relationship does not end with mutual hatred, you just need to break up and let go of each other.
Say no to nostalgia
Many of us can not let go of a person, because they constantly think about it, remember different situations, listen to songs that cause associations associated with it, watch movies with similar stories. With a stalemate and attitude, you, naturally, will not forget for a very long time about who you want to let go. In some situations, men in this regard are easier, because they do not have the habit of saying a hundred times about the same thing, remembering every little thing and so on. But the girls constantly want to remember, discuss with friends a person who has left their life, as if it brings them some pleasure. If you know that you are such a woman, try to literally forbid yourself to fall into nostalgia. As soon as you feel that you want to talk about something, listen to a song or watch a movie - with your will, switch something else. At first it will be very difficult for you, but eventually you'll get used to it and learn how to control your emotions. Falling into nostalgia, we ourselves want to suffer, because we believe that if we cry all the tears to dryness, it will become easier. This really has some truth: in order to survive something, one must first weep. But your sadness should not turn into a protracted depression, which causes constant nostalgia. So always try to live today and not think about what was once. In the past, you have a lot of good moments and they should remain in your memory, but if you live permanently only by them, then in the end your life today will go to a standstill. Always remember this and try to think at all costs only about the future.
Do not be selfish
It happens that we can not let go of a person, because we are sick and bad without him. And we are talking about how to release someone in another city or country, and about simply giving the person more freedom of action and not tied to himself alone. The fact is that whatever good and kind we were not, each person is inherently selfish. Simply, some can restrain and control their selfishness, adhl someone like this behavior is normal. If you can not release a person for this very reason, remember what it means to mean "true love". If we love a person sincerely and truly, we always wish him well, we always want the life in which he will be the happiest. And even if this life begins to flow in another city, and even the country, if for this life he needs people other than you, you must reconcile with this and wish the person happiness. You love him, he loves him so much that you can not let him go. So, guided by your own love, you need to realize that it is for this person that he will be fortunate enough to give him the opportunity to get what he wants. Of course, no one says that you will be easy and simple. But try to imagine how he laughs happily, how his eyes will shine. Think about this every time you are visited by sadness and desire to tie a person to yourself. The more you think about his happiness, the easier it will be for you to resign yourself to the fact that you are no longer so close as before. Tembolee, if this person is really native to you. Just you will appreciate meeting more.
Matter of habit
Very often we can not let go of a person, because we are just used to certain things, pastime and so on. Actually, we are not so attached to a person as to a measured life, in which there are no surprises and everything seems to be painted ahead. Naturally, when such a person disappears, we have a lot of free time, which we have to take and we are scared. That's why we start to miss the poles and try to get them back. And in fact, instead of having to study the pursuit of the past, you need to learn to look for new activities, hobbies and so on. Instead of suffering without a person, just change your life, start doing things that you could not do with it. I'm sure you had desires, which simply did not have enough time. Then it seemed to you that you can do without this, but if you analyze the situation again, now that you have a free time, rest assured that you will understand how many things have not been done and how many unfulfilled desires you have left. So take care of it, instead of looking at the wall and torturing yourself with the fact that your planned life has ceased to correspond to the schedule, which once developed and became for you familiar. Be sure, it will take some time and you will understand that the new layout for you is no less interesting than the old one. You do not need to be taxied to a certain way of life. From time to time it's very good to change everything. And remember this, and that a man whom you love and still love, gave you the opportunity to learn something new.