Probably, we all know the expression "from love to hate one step". It is, of course, not scientific, but of national origin, but despite this, almost every one of us agrees with him, or even collided with his action from his own experience. On the one hand, this proverb should explain to us more than to confuse, but it turns out just the opposite: how does it go? How so it turns out? Why such an easy transition from the opposite in essence concepts? Does not this suggest that they are not so different from each other? Each of us draws our own conclusions about love and hate. But by dividing them into stages, we can also better understand our position and determine how much these feelings are similar, or on the contrary they differ from each other.
First, let's look at the stages of love. The first stage is, of course, love. This stage itself can be divided into several other, more accurate and gradual, but this is not an absolute necessity. It is important to know the very characteristic of this stage, which is known to almost all people who once fell in love, because it is this stage that everyone experiences. This is exactly the period of exalted feelings, passion and interest. You do not even guess about the shortcomings of a partner, look at everything through rose-colored glasses and a veil of maximalism and idealism. This is the most romantic and passionate period when our body produces hormones that make our heart beat faster, smile a lot and feel happy. This is the time when a couple does not know what problems and life are. The stage is short but important.
The second stage is just the time when conflicts, bad sides, everyday life begin to manifest themselves. The most fragile and hard of all the stages, because right now the couple is experiencing a real test of love. Partners, therefore, check whether they really fit each other at this stage. So to speak, everything manifests itself when there comes sadness and life, but not passion and fun. If the couple together experiences and passes this stage, the third comes - full harmony of souls and affection. Now the hormone begins to develop, not love and passion, but tenderness and affection. The couple actually feels themselves as one, helps each other, supports and understands. There comes a harmony and what can actually be called love. People recognize and love each other completely, with all the habits and drawbacks, learn and admire each other, plan together the future and spend the current time. They look in one direction, and go through life, holding hands, next to their goal. This is the last stage of love.
If you characterize the stages of hatred, then there are two types of stages - hatred after love, or the one that comes immediately after acquaintance. If you identify the general stages, then the first of them will be irritation or bad forebodings. You feel irritated when you see or hear this person, you are nervous when dealing with him and all this is very unpleasant for you. You reduce contact with him and all negative emotions concerning this person begin to develop only, and constantly worsen, worsen ...
The second stage is when the boiling reaches the limit, and you are actually beginning to feel that you hate this person, and for yourself recognize this. But still it is worth noting that the stages of hatred, unlike the stages of love, are more relative and inaccurate, since hatred is a more individual feeling for each person, and its stages vary both from the causes and from the type of relations that preceded hatred, from the person himself, the circumstances. You can hate a person you once loved, but you were disappointed in him, felt something different, and he began to annoy you, and over time, serious conflicts arose. Also, hatred can immediately come to the person who guilty before you, or something annoyed, changed or failed you. Hatred can be imposed from birth, for example, when there are hostile peoples or families, so we can not always talk about hatred as a feeling that comes in stages.
Not all people have the means to feel true love, like hate, to go through all their stages. In order to know love for another person, you must first know yourself, self-actualize and strive to know another person, to learn love, as art. We learn this skill from childhood, when we accept the love of parents and meet with a guy or girl in adolescence. Love, unlike hatred, is beautiful, and is the highest art of dealing with man. According to psychology, you can even expand the stages of love, given how we learn to comprehend it, we suffer defeat and enjoy success. It does not arise from the first glance, or suddenly from somewhere it appears - it takes time to go through certain stages and, as a result, permanently gain a foothold in the life of two people, to give them happiness, tranquility, energy and support.