What is so special about knowing and knowing how to be happy in marriage and successfully preventing marital conflicts? The experience of happy and long-lasting relationships, "life-long" marriages, shows that the ability to make compromises helps to successfully prevent conflicts in the family. Most often, problems arise in those families where the "spheres of influence" of the spouses are not divided. And it is only necessary to properly understand who, for what answers, how everything falls into place and the tension is removed. Thus, in all cultures, caring for the home and raising children has always been considered the prerogative of the wife. Work and "mining," as well as all other external relations - the sphere of her husband. Everyone is responsible for his sphere and does not interfere with others without the need. Doing other things is not prohibited, but everything else should happen, not to the detriment of its "sphere." For example, a woman can work if she has time left free from household management and upbringing. Even if a woman is engaged in business, she continues to bear responsibility for her sphere. If she does not fulfill her duties on her own, she must organize them, for example, by hiring a nanny or a governess for a child, ordering ready meals, etc. "Tug of the blanket" begins in case of ignorance of the spouses of their duties and attempts to re-educate each other.
If we try to re-educate someone, instead of working on ourselves, then we put ourselves in a position of superiority over the other. And this is a very subjective and selfish approach, because both sides are equal in marriage. In such cases, it makes sense to tackle yourself and understand the priorities. What is the most important value for you? Who do you most like? What do you want from the relationship? Conflicts are born from a misunderstanding of love and wrong expectations from marriage. The biggest egoism is to expect benefits from marriage for yourself. Everyone has their own expectations, which, as a rule, do not justify themselves and generate a wide variety of marital conflicts. We want and demand from the partner love and respect, while forgetting disinterestedly to give them themselves.
We do not know how to be happy, we accumulate problems, we do not work on our negative qualities. The secret of family happiness is to give to another, and not to demand, to see in each other positive qualities and appreciate them, to be able to forgive shortcomings. Family relationships also need to learn, support them with love, not selfishness, which will help successfully prevent marital conflicts. Any marriage can be resuscitated if you stop doubting the correctness of choosing a spouse or a wife, begin to perceive your family in a new way - as the highest value in life.