Changing relationships in the family with the birth of a child

How to deal with difficulties after the birth of a child?
The appearance of a child in the family is always a great joy, but at the same time an incredible responsibility. This is the addition of many troubles and responsibilities, and the change of the usual routine in the family, and many, many more big and small changes.
Very often, parents tend to do everything according to the rules, so as to prove to themselves and everyone around you that you are a good parent . With such a frantic rhythm, mom and dad are exhausted, and the child still gets good, but utterly tired, irritable and weary parents. Dad goes to work, absolutely not enough sleep. And my mother has her round-the-clock work - feeding, walking, gymnastics, bathing, washing, ironing, cleaning, cooking ... I want to sleep like this all the time, sleep becomes an obsession.

Do not make yourself a "driven horse" . If you understand that this can not continue any more - urgently collect a family council. Think about where and in what compromises are possible, and, relying on it, come up with new rules and regulations for your family.
For example, if you are tired, and the baby is not yet redeemed - do not grasp the towel and soap! Put off the bath until tomorrow. Your baby does not work at the construction site, it's not so dirty. Also think about the optimal time for bathing - perhaps this will be the evening when the husband comes home from work and has the opportunity to help you? Consider the mood of your child, many children are so exhausted by the evening that bathing turns into torture with whims. Then it will be better to bathe the baby in the afternoon or evening. Also, be sure to connect others to this case. Has a girlfriend visited her? Great, let him help!

If a crumb does not like to swim at all - then at any time, try to take a big bath together! All the kids like to bathe with their parents. The main thing is to thoroughly wash the bath before and wash yourself beforehand.
It is not necessary to strive for an ideal - this is impossible! Do not wash the dishes - it does not matter, you will wash later. Not ironed clothes, too, can wait - after all, this is not the last clothes in your and in the children's wardrobe. Do not prepare delicious dishes - you are not up to them now, cook the dishes more simply, for 2-3 days. By the way, frozen fruits and vegetables, semi-finished products and other fast-food dishes are helping out.

Do not give up the help of strangers! The help of others for a family where there is a small child is a necessity, not a weakness. While you are walking with your baby in the open air, let relatives and friends clean, iron, cook, wash, etc. Yes, they, and not vice versa. You are now very important for fresh air, because this is a guarantee of health. And if you are healthy, then, will be healthy and your baby, but is this the most important thing? By the way, you do not have to walk in the same area. To life does not seem gray and boring - change the routes.
If your child falls asleep in the day - throw all your business and also go to bed! If you do not even fall asleep, then at least a little rest. And no "I'm uncomfortable"! For nursing mothers, sleep is the main lactation enhancer. And even if you do not breast-feed, it's still your delicate and irritated state that the kid feels subtly, and it's passed on to him. As a result - the crumb becomes capricious, which makes you even more tired. So there comes a vicious circle.

No need to think stereotypically! The idea that while the child is small, the mother has no right to look after herself and have fun - fundamentally wrong! Of course, you now have less time for yourself, but do not forget about yourself and drown in cares about the baby. Let the husband play a little with a crumb until you do a manicure and apply a mask to your face. As for entertainment - of course, you can hardly go to a nightclub, but forays to nature and trips to guests are not forbidden at all. And in order to go to the museum or park in the center, you will help sling or kangaroo.
Do not be discouraged! Find the optimal solution individually for your family, choose the mode that will be most convenient for you, and soon you will see that life has become much easier!