Hour "X" is approaching , and, of course, you are worried. Let's face it, you experience it like never before in your life. It's easy to understand! No matter how much literature you read about birth, no matter how encouraging words you hear, get rid of fears (sometimes completely unfounded) is not easy. And meanwhile the main thing that you need now is calmness, calmness alone. While the little one is just preparing for the great journey, you have time to repeat everything that you learned from the books and what you heard on the courses for parents.
Throw out of the head of anxiety and once again mentally go through all the steps of an important path. This is also necessary for you to give birth to a strong, self-confident child. After all, many experts, headed by the famous scientist Stanislav Grof, believe that at each stage of the birth of the child - an important period, a certain perinatal matrix that is responsible for one or another of the personality traits of the person is laid. The first phase is preceded by nine long months of waiting. It is already proved: a happy pregnancy is the guarantee of a child's successful development. But we also know that during childbirth you can do a lot for the baby! We are sure that you will go to the delivery room for 100% prepared. In our "synopsis" - every stage of childbirth and something else!
It seems that it began ...
The fact that labor has come, say regular contractions of the uterus, lasting 10-20 seconds. The initial stage is the longest one. A woman who gives birth for the first time, he can stretch for 6-12 hours. At repeated delivery - for 4-8 hours. During this period, you feel the fights, thanks to which the baby will gradually move to the "exit". At first they are weak and repeat after 10 minutes. Then they become more and more tangible and frequent: every 7-8 minutes. Strengthening, they reach a peak, and then their intensity decreases. Simultaneously with the contractions, the cervix of the uterus begins to open. Its full disclosure will end the first stage of labor. Concentrate on the right breathing. You with the baby need oxygen in large quantities - this will ease the pain.
It is also useful to walk a little or sit on a special ball before the birth of the child - an important period. Walking and the vertical position of the body accelerate the movement of the crumbs along the birth canal, and the cervix is opened faster. The doctor and midwife will inspect you from time to time to check her disclosure. With the help of a cardiotocograph, the frequency of contractions is controlled: they become not only practically continuous, but also more painful. Overcome the unpleasant feelings for many women help the bath with warm water, relaxing massage, special generic poses.
Attention, attempts!
When the cervix is maximally opened (by 10 cm), the second stage of labor begins. It is shorter than the previous one and lasts about 2 hours.
Although, if the birth of a woman is not the first, it can be reduced to several minutes. Little sank down and presses his head on the basin. Now in your body, hormones are intensively allocated: endorphins (they have analgesic properties) and relaxins (under their influence, the loneliness becomes more elastic, which makes the problem easier for the baby). The contractions are getting stronger every time. Gradually pass into attempts. But, in no case do not start pushing, until the obstetrician gives you a sign. Otherwise, it can lead to trauma to the birth canal. And, besides, you're wasting your time. So try to breathe slowly and calmly. The birth canal has the shape of a curve (in the form of the letter C), and it is not easy for the toddler to go through it. Classical posture with attempts - reclining. However, you can in advance specify with your specialist another position - squatting or crouching. In these poses, thanks to the action of the force of attraction, crumbs are easier to move on. Blood flows more easily through the placenta, and the baby gets more oxygen. When the head appears, focus and listen very carefully to the doctor and midwife. They will say it's time to push or not.
Excessive efforts at the time of the exit of the head can lead to tears at the birth of a child - an important period. Try not to scream - it weakens the power of effort and delays birth. The moment of appearance of the head is the most difficult, since the circumference of this part of the body is the largest - about 32 cm. For comparison: the chest is 30-32 cm, buttocks - only 27 cm. When the head comes out, it will be enough to try very little - and man will be born!
Recent efforts
The birth is nearing its end. As soon as the umbilical cord stops pulsating, the doctor (or dad) will cut it. It remains to wait for the separation of the placenta. Just once with this organ the baby was connected by the umbilical cord during pregnancy and thanks to him received food and air. The exit of the succession warns of light struggles, but you can not even notice them. The doctor will ask you to tighten a little or stimulate the nipples to reduce the uterus. Then he will see if the placenta is intact. The remaining pieces in the uterus threaten with inflammation or bleeding. In this case, make anesthesia and take them out.
Your way, baby
A few weeks before the birth of a child enters the head in the pelvis. At the first stage of labor, he is calm, sometimes even asleep. But when the contractions increase, and the cervix begins to open, the pressure in the uterus increases. Then the little one pulls his legs towards him, and his chin presses against the chest. He turns sideways to pass into the birth canal.
On the way the baby can turn a few more times.
Opening the neck by 5 cm
Under the action of contractions, the baby begins to squeeze through the opening of the pelvis. His chin is still pinned to his chest, so the head goes through a minimum size. The passage of the skull also contributes to the passage. The bones are not yet fused and shifted. So the head becomes even smaller.
Full disclosure and attempts
When opening at 10 cm, the head begins to enter the birth canal, then lingers over the frontal junction and rests against the perineal muscles. At the moment of exertion the child moves forward, and in recesses returns slightly. So the head pushes the perineal tissues, without damaging them. Under her pressure, the muscles of the perineum relax and diverge.
Head Appearance
It is already visible and does not return back in the intervals between attempts. With correctly passing births, first appear the nape, forehead, and then the face. In some cases, when the mouth is already visible, the obstetrician will use the special catheter to suck off the mucus from the child's mouth. This will ease the little one his first breath.
Leave the shoulders
As soon as the head appears, the small one deflects it and turns towards Mom's thigh. It also happens with the shoulders. When they seem, the rest will easily slip out.
Mom's Watch
At birth, a neonatologist must be present. More important than this doctor in the first minutes, hours and days of life of the baby there. And while he will examine it, you will be able to feel your mood. Many mothers said that immediately after childbirth, they experienced not fatigue, not pain, but euphoria. Yes, it's euphoria! It took several hours - and all the questions, fears that haunted the birth of a crumb, went away like some superfluous, unnecessary fantasies. Everything turned out by itself - without stress and excitement. We hope that this will happen to you with a crumb! Even if at first you are confused, and at some point you realize that you do not know anything about caring for the baby, trust your intuition and the child. He will tell you what the most awaits from you.
You can negotiate with a doctor so that the baby is not carried away immediately to hygienic procedures, gave him the opportunity to stay in your arms for some time. The application to the breast should also be carried out in the first hour of life of the crumbs. Its immunity needs a droplet of colostrum, which contains irreplaceable components.
Directly in the child's ward will be vaccinated against hepatitis B. If you are against early vaccination, then the refusal is necessary to issue in advance.
This stage begins with the appearance of your regular bouts, and ends with a full opening of the cervix, whose diameter increases by 1 cm per hour. This most prolonged phase takes about ten hours.
The little one lacks oxygen, the vibrations of your body are transmitted to him. The blissful state of weightlessness goes away, and the baby begins to gradually move outward. This is accompanied by a tremendous strain of both.
Resistance Matrix
If the first phase passes safely, the mother does not give in to panic and correctly, deeply, breathes, the baby is transferred to her setting for a happy outcome of labor, he seems to be reserved for patience. Most likely, over time, the crumb will become a strong independent personality and will be ready to overcome any difficulties. In case of complications, when the opening of the cervix is inhibited, the child experiences a state of hopelessness, "locked-in", leading to suffering. In the future, this can lead to resentment, suspiciousness, excessive sensitivity, vulnerability. How to behave: create a quiet environment for your child. Do not quarrel with him, do not scold the petty misdemeanors, often tell the crumb how much you love him. Praise for the manifestation of self-reliance. Strengthen his faith in himself. At cesarean section the child does not pass its first test - trials of contractions, and it is possible that afterwards he will "run away" from life's problems and troubles, trying to shift responsibility to others. Such babies need to be stimulated to achieve the goal from infancy and encourage the manifestation of the initiative. Provide crumbs freedom: let him move more, he reaches out to the toys, and by becoming older he learns to cope with disobedient buttons and laces without outside help.
When the external yoke of the cervix is fully opened, the contractions become more intense and more frequent. You feel the need to compress the abdominal muscles and help the fetus move. At this stage, your active participation in the process is very important. The phase lasts from one hour to one and a half and ends with the appearance of the baby in the light.
The tension of the crumbs reaches a maximum. This stage for both of you is a difficult test. The condition of the baby can be compared to the feelings of a person who is in an airplane that has fallen into a zone of turbulence. But before the "soft landing" is very little. Help him: breathe properly and control fear. The break between contractions for a typical childbirth period is approximately three minutes. This gives your child the opportunity to relax before each next step to the long-awaited freedom.
At this stage, the conscious efforts of the mother are added to the involuntary contractions of the uterus. The baby, going through the birth canal, desperately struggles for survival. If you do not succumb to fear, then, apparently, the crumb will grow assiduous, hardworking, persistent and independent. If in the second phase there are any problems, in the future, a person may show uncertainty, anxiety and inability to stand up for themselves. How to behave: to children, the second stage of birth which was not quite smooth, should be treated with patience and do not rush them when they solve some problem.
With caesarean section, the influence of this matrix in crumbs is weakened. Perseverance and efficiency will probably not become the strengths of your child. Mark the cases when the baby consistently goes to his goal, overcoming obstacles. Let it be your common joy with him.
The appearance of a child in the world is not the end of labor for the mother. Ahead is one more stage - a consecutive one, when her body rejects the placenta and the envelope of the fetus. It lasts no more than half an hour and does not require special efforts.
After the birth, the little one desperately needs your warmth, the smell, he needs to hear how your heart knocks, to feel that the mother is near. To do this, they put it on your stomach and put it to your chest. He must receive confirmation that he is loved and desired, his arrival in the world was eagerly awaited and he is happy.
The Matrix of Happiness
Very important is the immediate contact of mother and child. It is thanks to your closeness that the kid realizes that his suffering was not in vain, and everything ended well. Having received a charge of optimism and happiness now, with age he will surely become self-confident in life. But in order to achieve success, you need not be afraid of obstacles and perceive the world joyfully. If the baby in the first hours of life for one reason or another experiences separation from his mother, he receives less than the support and warmth necessary for him, so he can grow up to be a closed and distrustful pessimist, who is wary of everything new and unusual.
How to behave: more often take a crumb on your hands, if possible, breastfeed, and take a walk in the "kangaroo". In the future, do not burden your child with excessive tasks. Carefully ensure that they are consistent with his age, and be sure to praise for every, even small, success. Raise a positive attitude to yourself, people, and the world around you.With a caesarean section, the baby spends the first few hours or even days of his life without a mother.To spend time optimistic in the future, spend as much time with him as possible. his children's joys and sorrows.