The child does not want to go to school

The New Year holidays are over, the first half of the year is over. First-graders have long changed dresses for everyday, usually open the school door, they know their teacher and classmates, they raise their hands when answering ... But if only parents could guess what serious problems their children sometimes tormented! Beginning of school life for toddlers, as well as returning to school after the holidays of older children, becomes a strong stress. And it is not surprising, because even in adults the post-release state of the soul is sometimes noticeably prolonged ...

Little children, having huge opportunities, will nevertheless get used to a new activity for themselves for quite a long time - the entire first academic year. About what adaptation to the school is, how it goes on and what to do if the child does not want to go to school, and we will talk. An acute period of adaptation, which is sometimes compared with cosmic overloads, in first-graders usually lasts 30 weeks. At this difficult time, the child moved to a completely new activity for himself, around a lot of new people, new demands are made to him. Of course, all this needs to be comprehended and accepted. At the second stage the organism starts to search for ways of adaptation to new circumstances, including physiological ones, this is the stage of search. And then most of the children somehow get used to studying, find their place in the classroom. But there are children who adapt very difficult, and there are practically in every class.

It is difficult for nezadovskie children to enter the new school world. For the most part, they are well developed, ready to learn, can read and write, and they have been taught this at home. But these guys do not know how to communicate with their peers and build relationships with them. Experts say: with a high general intelligence, they have a low level of socialization.

Children with high self-esteem can also become confused in new circumstances. Accustomed to absolute success (at home among loving adults, it's easy to be successful), they fall before the first difficulties. If problems in the classroom are not resolved, even children prepared for school can lose interest in studying, look depressed, complain of headaches, abdominal pain, frequent colds. This is not a whim, the child is really bad, uncomfortable and painful. This is the result of the fact that the child does not want to go to school.

Unfortunately, in such situations, parents often come into conflict with teachers, accuse the school. And you need to act differently. Without wasting time, contact a psychologist! Negative attitudes towards school, unwillingness to go to the classroom in the morning, inability to work independently on homework, suggest that your student still has a low level of adaptation and needs specialist help. Something parents of first-graders and future students can do on their own to help them quickly learn at school.

Pay attention to the self-esteem of the child and how you evaluate it. The main mistake of adults is that we constantly compare our own with other children, and it often loses. It seems to us that by comparison we stimulate the child to growth, development, but in fact we discourage any desire to somehow change, we reduce self-esteem. The child is confirmed in the thought that he can not do anything, over time, he has lost all desire to do anything! As a result, a child does not want to go to school, does not want to do anything at all, nothing pleases him, does not carry him away.

In the first school year, parents will have to be especially attentive, patient and sympathetic to the child. It is necessary to be interested not only in the pupil's assessments, but in the whole world of his child. Successes, of course, need to be monitored, but there are many important changes at the breaks, which also includes school everyday life for children. Listen carefully to the stories of the child, empathize, support it.

Parents should unobtrusively emphasize the importance and significance of studies, homework. When the student sits down for lessons, reduce the sound of the TV, calm the younger children. Whether the child will do homework on his own or in your presence in the evenings, decide for yourself. But in the latter case, do not rage, do not force five times to rewrite what was done flawlessly, remember that he quickly becomes tired.

Never punish a child by taking a walk, he must walk for two hours a day. Fresh air and motor activity are necessary for him, he is already at school in a static position, which causes posture and vision.

Continue to develop the fine motor skills of the pupil's hands, his success in writing directly depends on this. Hand develop all kinds of traditional children's creativity: modeling, carving, coloring. Important is for the child to play, because playing, he learns everything, including relationships with other people.