Both children and parents are waiting for this event with equal impatience. "We are going to school soon!" - mothers and dads, grandmothers and grandfathers are proud to say. "I'm already going to the first class!" - enthusiastically informs all in a row, close and uninvolved, your child.
Finally comes the day of "X" - the first of September. Your baby is walking happily and proudly ahead of you, dragging on his shoulders his very first pack, packed to the brink of the very first in his life school supplies. The first bell rings. and here the first-graders sit down at desks ... probably, at this very moment they begin to understand how serious it is - the school. Once, on a far from perfect day, our schoolboy with tears in his eyes says "I will not go to school anymore!". You are at a loss, the child sobs and flatly refuses to get ready for school. What is the reason?
There can be many explanations for this - from fear of being left alone, without the support of parents, to conflictual relations with classmates and teachers. But the most common reason for the unwillingness of children to go to school is that they are in an unfamiliar environment, can not adapt to it, find their place in a new team.
Hence the frequent consequence is their fear of attending school, the children stubbornly refuse to go there. Here. first of all, it is necessary to find out the real reason for the refusal. But, anyway, in no case should you let the child stay at home. Even if the reasons why he does not want to attend school are real and objective. His fear will only be strengthened, and it may be added to the backlog of the program, which is highly undesirable.
You must be firm and persevering in your quest to bring your child back to the school's classroom. A child, especially a child, has no motivation that would justify attending school. Children go to school, obeying their parents. Therefore, in case of unwillingness to go to school, it is parents who must explain the need for her visit. A child of preschool age should explain that he will be able to learn a lot of new and interesting things. Older children can be explained that without education, the road to the future will be closed to them, or refer to the law, according to which all children are required to receive at least a basic education.
Of course, parents should from time to time visit the school in which their child learns. In the power of parents to inspire the child with sympathy for the teacher. You can well tell him that you personally are very sympathetic to his mentor. Children tend to reciprocate for good feelings. If they are confident in the location of the teacher, it will help them overcome the barrier that arises in their communication with the new person.
While your child is small, do not leave him in the schoolyard, conduct it to the class, let him meet the teacher. Over time, a negative reaction to the school will subside. Be sure to ask the teacher how he behaves after you leave. If his tears cease right after you disappear from the field of vision, you can stop worrying - the adaptation was successful.
But it also happens that children refuse to attend school, who have been willing to attend it for several years. In this case, a heart-to-heart conversation is inevitable. You need to find out what is bothering the child. Here, the conversation with the teacher will not interfere. An attentive teacher will definitely notice something wrong and will share with you his thoughts about the reason for your child's unwillingness to go to school. There can be anything you like-both poor progress in subjects, and conflict between students, and first love . There are countless varieties. Equally important is the home environment. Family troubles, divorce of parents, death of someone close - all this affects the abilities and desire of the child to learn. Be sure to tell him the whole truth - a lie can only exacerbate the situation. Explain that family affairs are one thing, and study is quite another, that you will necessarily cope with difficulties, and the best thing that he can do in a difficult moment for the family is to relieve you of anxiety about his academic performance.
However, parents should know: how well and how happy your child is learning depends not only on his intelligence. The attitude of parents towards his teacher largely determines the school's successes of the child. After all, this person has a lot to learn from him, the mood of the child at school, his desire to learn, will depend on him.
Never, and under no circumstances, allow yourself to be neglected about your child's mentor. Try to establish warm relations with teachers, seek mutual understanding with them. In the end, they want the same thing as you do - so that your child becomes a well-educated person. Show understanding in relation to your child's teachers. you know how difficult it is to be fair and discipline, even dealing with two children, and in the classroom there are not two, and not even four, but much more.
The child will be easier to take criticism from the teacher's mouth, if he knows that you respect him and react positively to him. Children always pay great attention to criticism from a person they like, and try to change their behavior.
Teachers are also people. They will understand the parents' criticism with great understanding if they see that they are treated with friendliness and without prejudice. Try to objectively treat the stories of your children - they tend to blacken the "unjust teacher" and whitewash themselves - "an innocent victim." Strive to understand and find the truth. As a rule, it is somewhere in the middle. Be friendly, compliant, try not to make claims in an aggressive manner, it's better to veil your feelings, expressing demands in the form of wishes and requests. Often praise the teacher, thank him for the wonderful teaching. say that your child is delighted with the methods of presenting the material - all this will flatter him and set him on a benevolent attitude to you and your child. and in fact, because such a nice people, a child can not be sloven, right? With a good attitude, the teacher will go to meet you.