The problem of shyness.
The problem of shyness must be solved and in no case should the child be left alone with his fears. The feelings of children are subtle and elusive, they change easily. He can simultaneously passionately want to show his talent on stage or in front of a few spectators and be afraid to show oneself open, hurt, feel a mockery or a misunderstanding. This fear further affects the child's mind, exacerbating the situation. In the future, the smallest observation from adults leads to the fact that the child closes in himself, hides his achievements, stops training, if only to not cause discontent. Shy children are less persistent, less likely to succeed, are very sensitive to comments. Therefore, it is necessary to help the child cope with this problem and stop being afraid to speak to the audience.
Advice.
First of all, you need to do everything possible to change the child's reaction to the attitude of others around him, to increase his self-esteem. Very often parents notice only negative aspects of children, scolding him for every mistake. And at the same time they are never praised for what he did successfully, taking it as proper behavior. This is a big mistake on the part of parents. It is necessary to give the child to understand that he can deserve praise, he must feel parental love, regardless of his behavior. He must be sure that his successes are noticed and perceived by the parents, that the effort is not wasted.
Shy children are afraid of everything new, for example, in front of the audience to perform - this is a difficult test for them.
In order to overcome the concrete fear of speaking before the public, it is necessary to experiment a lot and intensively at home. Let its viewers first be the closest toys, then parents and relatives. They must support the child, give him the opportunity to understand that he did everything right, to praise him. And the existing remarks are better at first to be veiled and presented as "minor changes in the program of the issue". If the child is still shy - become a participant in the speech. Let him feel your support side by side, and not somewhere from the side. Children, as is known, like a sponge absorb the stereotypes of their parents' behavior. Looking at you as a participant in a speech, he will take an example from you, imitating you.
Lack of communication.
Children often become shy because of a lack of communication, both with adults and with peers. They simply do not know how to behave in this situation. Your task is to simulate similar circumstances, to teach the child to correctly navigate and build the appropriate line of behavior. If your family or friends have children of the same age, introduce them to joint games. Let them perform in front of each other, playing various role plays, for example, in a kindergarten, where the child will be a teacher, a school with pupils and a teacher, and others. It is important that these games have a role that implies public speaking. Otherwise your baby will be timid and as a consequence be afraid of adults to speak or even talk to them.
If this barrier is overcome, you can move on. After a successful performance before the mother does not mean that the child will not be lost at the sight of many unfamiliar people-viewers.
Causes of fear.
Try to talk with the child and find out the cause of his fear. Perhaps he is not afraid of the speech itself, of forgetting the text or the words of the song or of your reaction to its possible failures. In this case, convince the child that your attitude will not change with any outcome of the speech. And mistakes happen at all, even at professionals of a high class. Rehearse the speech as carefully as possible, so that the child does all the activities without hesitation, then he will be able to give more strength to emotions and communication with the audience. Explain to the child how to behave on the scene in case an unforeseen situation arises. For example, if he forgot the words or stopped the music. Do not focus on this, so you can arouse fear even more. Just determine the general tactics of behavior, for example, forgot the words, remember the following and continue to read or sing. This will allow the child to feel additional confidence and completely surrender to the performance, not caring about what can happen. Tell the child that you can not like everyone at once. In the hall there will be those who highly appreciate his performance and there will always be those who do not like it (your child also has his own preferences). This should not confuse or stop children. This is a normal state for any artist, especially beginner, there is nothing scary about this.
Councils of artists.
Some, perhaps, will help the advice of experienced artists. They often say that for a successful performance it is necessary to find a spectator in the hall, and then to speak to him during the speech. For children it can be mom, dad or friends. Having seen them in the hall, the child can feel additional confidence, support, will gain a sense of stability. There is also the possibility that the child on the contrary needs to have as few acquaintances as possible in the hall, sometimes it adds shyness and prevents to show everything that a small artist is capable of. Your task is to determine which situation will be most comfortable for the child's performance and try to provide it.
Do not be discouraged if you still have unsuccessful performances. Each time you analyze the situation with the child, try to find out what exactly prevented the successful presentation. Analyze, cheer, try not to make old mistakes. And most importantly - love and support your child. Constant training, soft perseverance will necessarily bear fruit.