First signs
How can parents know that their child has problems, that they humiliate him at school? Here are a few of the signs:
- Your child often comes home in a bad mood or even in tears;
- He became closed and unsociable, does not want to answer your questions;
- He pretends that he is ill not to go to school;
- He began to stealthily take out of the house different things - not necessarily expensive;
- His academic performance is rapidly falling.
Why your child?
Your first reaction would be to naturally rush to protect your child "with claws and teeth." But this can only worsen the situation. Of course, no child deserves to be brutally treated - each is unique in its own way and, in fact, has its advantages. But a small creature can not always very well manifest itself in a team, while its peers find it much easier to find its weak spots in it. You can educate a child by all rules, but you must understand - not all parents are the same. Their children can perceive the decency of your child as weakness. Well, if there are any physical problems, then it's really difficult for children to "stay" from ridicule and mockery.
What could be the reason that your child is humiliated at school? Here are some of the reasons:
- If your child has problems with physical culture and he is always the last in sports activities;
- If his appearance is different from most classmates, he fights off the school "fashion";
- If he has a number of physical defects - excess weight, strabismus, etc.;
- If the child has problems with the assimilation of the material, he does not pull the program on the background of other children.
There are also situations where a child often gets sick and misses school. This leads to forced isolation, and then the child is not perceived as "his" by his classmates. Some children simply have a more complex character - they are more passive, insecure, sensitive and fragile.
In any case, these components create an insult from the peers, a sense of isolation and loneliness. An unfortunate child may shut up in himself or calmly begin to take revenge on those who offended him. This can lead to unpredictable, sometimes terrible consequences.
What to do?
Sometimes it is really better for parents not to interfere in the relationship between children, but not always. You always need to focus on a specific situation. If your child's situation is really frightening, the child is humiliated constantly and cruelly, you need to start taking action. Here's where to start:
- Try to talk with the child more confidentially, to learn more about what is happening at school, what his classmates are.
- Be sure to go to the parents' meetings, get acquainted, try to understand the school life.
- Create a good relationship with the class teacher to continuously receive from him information about what is happening in the classroom.
- Help the child to establish contact with someone in the class, so that he does not feel completely alone, became more confident.
- Organize extra-curricular activities for your child, find him a hobby.
- If it became clear that it is your child - the object of bullying and ridicule, contact a teacher, director or school psychologist.
Teach your child the lessons of communication: be more active and proactive in dealing with peers, be able to protect yourself, if necessary. It is not superfluous to ask the class teacher to support your child - for example, to give him the opportunity to participate in some important events of the school. This will increase its importance in the eyes of classmates.
How can you help your child demonstrate their dignity to peers? If the child is not involved in school sections and circles - create for him such an opportunity. Organize a celebration - for a birthday or other event where he will feel in his own territory, will be in the "main role". So the child will have the opportunity to demonstrate some of his talents.
Cases of bullying in school are not uncommon. Almost every class has an object for ridicule, which can also turn out to be your own child. Many parents believe that the fault lies entirely with the teacher. But most often it is not so. According to experts, unpleasant incidents with children in school can be significantly reduced if parents pay more attention and time to their children. So it will be easier for them to learn and help to cope with the problem.