Children appreciate, first of all, the human qualities of the teacher. Too tough attitude, the presence of pets, incontinence, inconsistency, lack of respect for students cause them to protest violently. All this is reflected in the study.
Guys also treat teachers badly, which in their opinion are not good professionals. On this ground, too, there can be conflict. Of course, we can not do without conflicts. And this does not mean that your child is worse than others. Or, on the contrary, that the teacher is a bad person. For misunderstanding there can be quite objective reasons. The main thing is that it does not drag out and develop into military actions.
Find out the reason
There are several main causes of conflict between a child and a teacher:
if the child is very creative, relaxed, brought up in a climate of complete love and freedom, and the teacher, on the contrary, is an old-schooled person who is considered a crime if the children touch the wallpaper in the classroom (yes, I myself had to face such a teacher) or suddenly (about horror!) Dare to express their own opinion, different from the opinion of the teacher;
if the teacher is too jealous of the design of the notebooks, the appearance of the students;
insufficient professionalism, inability to find a common language with students, boring lessons, mild character of the teacher;
the struggle for class leadership between teacher and teenager;
sometimes the child acts "like everyone else". For example, he does not want to skip at all, but since everyone decided not to go to class, he will have to.
Talking with the child
The fact that the child does not get along with some kind of teacher can be easily guessed. For example, he actively does not like any particular subject, he does poorly his homework, he leads the notebooks more sloppily than in other subjects, draws caricatures of the teacher, badly speaks about it, is irritated at any mention of this person and subject. In general, if you have suspicions or accurate information that the school is not all smooth, be sure to talk with your son or daughter.
Let the child talk. Do not interrupt it, even if you do not like what it says and how. After that, find out what's left unclear. Demonstrate your sympathy, but do not blame the teacher. Do the emphasis on the fact that they simply do not understand each other. Think about the child with a plan to exit the conflict situation. Let the proposals come from him. Convince the child that you, too, need to talk to the teacher.
Going to school
Talking to the teacher, do not curry favor with him, do not exaggerate the child's guilt, do not be afraid of the consequences. Remember, no matter what happens, you are always on the side of the child. And nobody can insure against mistakes. Try to be objective. Do not let emotions, do not be guided by guesses, no matter how truthful they may seem, the facts should be the main ones. Look at the conflict from the height of your life experience.
One day, a teacher accused my son of falling off a chair and not jumping up at once, but remained in the same position for a while, and the children laughed. She suggested that he did it on purpose to disrupt the lesson. I admit, in that situation I behaved incorrectly, accusing the child of everything. And in fact years earlier I observed almost the same situation. At us in the lesson the teacher fell from the chair, lay, smiled, and then said: "Girls, I seem to have fallen." And all around too laughed. Maybe she also wanted to break the lesson? Now I'm sorry that I did not ask the teachers, but would it be possible for them to jump to their feet in this situation in a moment? And anyway, how would they behave, falling off a chair in front of thirty colleagues?
There is an exit!
If the conversation with the teacher has reached a dead end, do not be shy, ask how he sees a safe exit from the current situation. Remember that he is responsible for resolving the conflict, as an adult, more experienced and professionally engaged in the upbringing of children. And to make these situations less, try to maintain equal relations with teachers and never speak ill of them in the presence of the child.