Primary school is a special period in life, both for the child and for the parents. At this time, there may be great problems for a small schoolboy. Here and there, there are scraps of talk about complex programs and high loads, relationships with teachers and peers. There are parents who, with the word "school", the heart sinks and an anxiety creeps into the soul. These are parents of small schoolchildren, especially those who already have any physiological characteristics and problems. Or they can arise during training. I would like to advise parents to pull themselves together, calm and support their child.
The child is left-handed.
Until the age of two, all children, without any discomfort, usually use both hands equally. The left or right hand is preferred at an older age. More often left-handed boys are (about, every tenth). In Soviet times, these children in the school must be retrained. But it did not lead to anything good. The child's psyche was traumatized, there was a delay in the skills of reading, writing, drawing, stuttering could appear. Now the attitude towards left-handed people has changed. The choice of the left hand is not the whim of the child, but the features of the work of his brain. Such children are very vulnerable, extraordinary, most often creatively gifted and very delicately perceive the world around them. Among the celebrities there are also many lefties. For example, the English Queen Elizabeth, great sculptors and artists (Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci), famous artists.
When entering the school, it is worthwhile to warn the teacher about this peculiarity of your child, which must be taken into account when seating children at a desk. This is necessary so that they do not interfere with each other when writing. Even if your child prefers to act with his left hand, then he should develop the right one. You can sculpt, knit, learn to play musical instruments. In a word, to perform such types of work, where a concerted action of both hands is required.
The child has a visual impairment.
The age of admission to school coincides with the period of functional instability of the organs of vision. The beginning of training, at the same time, is associated with a significant increase in the burden on the eyes. Approximately five percent of children have vision problems before they enter school and wear glasses. Even more are at risk of developing myopia. Parents should not worry. Teachers should, together with the medical worker of the school, choose the optimal seating scheme, taking into account the degree of visual impairment and the growth of the child.
The child is sick with diabetes mellitus.
The school has new impressions, increased psychological and physical loads. With proper treatment and diet, schoolchildren retain good performance. Nevertheless, it is necessary to avoid a great physical or neuropsychic load. Depending on the condition of the child, the physician can assign physical education classes to him in the preparatory group. Sports training and participation in competitions are prohibited. A sick child should always have with him a kind of "diabetic passport", in which his surname, name, address, diagnosis, dose and time of insulin administration are indicated. If the child becomes ill and he loses consciousness, such a document will help him to get the right timely help. You can order your child a special bracelet or token on which to engrave his name, name, address and diagnosis.
The child is temperamentally slow.
Many parents are worried that this will cause him to fail. About half of the children for some reason do not cope with the pace that adults require of them. And every tenth child is obviously slower than the rest. There can be many reasons for this. This is the disease, and the functional immaturity of the nervous system, and features of temperament, and protective reaction. It is wrong to consider such behavior of the child as stubbornness, disobedience. After all, if he has enough time, he performs the task. Such children can not be rushed, this further inhibits them. Difficulty for a sluggish child, of course, will. It will be more difficult for him to perform assignments in lessons, when there are time limits. Such a child adapts too, too. But sluggish children have their advantages: they perform tasks more carefully, diligently and thoughtfully.
Work with a small schoolboy at home, and eventually everything will fall into place. In children with a predominance of inhibitory processes, skills are acquired with a delay of approximately one month. But they are very firmly fixed and do not disappear under adverse conditions.
The child is very active.
Small schoolchildren, especially first-graders, can keep their attention for no more than 15-20 minutes. Then they begin to spin, make noise, play. Motor anxiety is a normal protective reaction of the child's body, which does not allow him to bring himself to fatigue. In general, the fatigue of a small schoolboy can be said to deteriorate handwriting, increase the number of errors, "stupid mistakes", slowing the pace of speech. And absentmindedness, inattention, lethargy, tearfulness, irritability.
Often in pre-school and junior school age, a lot of anxiety causes a syndrome of increased motor activity. Children with its manifestations are excessively mobile, restless, inconsiderate and pugnacious. This disorder is more common in boys, whose mothers during pregnancy have suffered any diseases. As a rule, by the age of 12 such a "motor storm" subsides, and the child becomes more balanced. Children with a predominance of excitation processes often outstrip their peers in the development of speech functions and in actions with objects.
How to help the "mama's child" adapt to the school.
Many children go to school for the first time with great interest and willingness to carry out teaching assignments. They gladly perceive the word of the teacher and fulfill his demands. But in the future, small school children face difficulties. They are faced with a choice between "want" and "must", "interesting" and "uninteresting", "able" and "do not want." The life of the first-year student makes great demands on the will of the child. It is necessary to get up in time, to have time to school before a call, to fulfill many rules, to be able to control one's behavior. It is the skills of self-control that help the child to adapt quickly and easily to school.
The adaptation period can last from month to year, so parents will have to have patience. Help your child, support, caress, iron. Remember your school childhood, tell your son or daughter about his pleasant moments. The main thing is to let the child know that if it is difficult for him, you will understand and help him. Promise that with all the difficulties you will cope together.
Every child expects praise from parents, even in small things. Share his joy with him. Crafts put on the most prominent place, notebooks with good marks show relatives and friends. Let the child know that you are proud of him, that his school successes are very important to you. In time, you will see that everything comes back to normal. The school causes less and less negative emotions, there is interest, and then a desire to learn.
It is desirable, by mutual agreement with the teacher, to create a situation in which the child could show what he is capable of. The approval of classmates and teachers will create a feeling of self-worth for a child. And over time, a positive attitude will spread to learning.
What to do if the teacher does not like the child.
Parents are always happy if the child in primary school has a class teacher - an interesting, benevolent and patient person. It is very important that the first teacher works not only with students, but also with specific children. After all, each of them has its own characteristics, each of which needs its own individual approach. Children often find it difficult to adapt to a new style of relationships. They find it difficult to reconcile themselves with the fact that in school they are one of many. Accustomed to the increased attention of the house, they also expect the same attitude to themselves from the teacher. And deceived in expectations, they decide that "the teacher does not like me, she does not treat me well." But at school children are evaluated, first of all, for their business qualities and successes. And often an objective view of the teacher sees the child's shortcomings, which parents do not notice. In this situation, parents can be advised to establish contact with the teacher, listen to his point of view. With the child you need to talk friendly, explain to him what the teacher really wants from him, try to help find mutual understanding.
What should parents do if they offend a child's class?
Never dismiss the child's complaints. Remember that with big problems, a small schoolboy may have big problems in the relationships within the family. A deeply offended kid, naturally, is waiting for support from his native person. Do not push it away, try to understand what happened. Seeking to understand the experiences and tears of your child, you contribute to the creation of a more trusting and kind relationship between you. In general, in elementary school children have a very important behavioral regulator - self-esteem. On how the child's attitude to himself will develop, his communication with others depends, the reaction to successes and failures, the further development of the personality. During this period, the child's self-esteem is largely determined by how adults evaluate him. After learning that the child is hurt, first of all, find out what happened. Listen to it to the end, without interrupting. Then try to calm the schoolboy. Explain to him that everything can be changed, people grow up, they become smarter, more tolerant. Try to understand with the child why this or that person did this, teach him the rule: "Treat others as you would like others to treat you."
According to the famous French psychologist J. Piaget, from the age of seven the child is able to cooperate with other people. He can already be guided not only by his own desires, opinions, but also to understand the point of view of another person. Usually during this period the child is already able to analyze the situation, before acting.
Try to explain to him that others experience the same feelings as they do. The child does not live on an uninhabited island. For development, he needs to communicate with other children. You need to be able to compare your strengths and abilities with the results of others. We must take the initiative, negotiate, find a way out of the unpleasant situation, act. Help your child find a common language with peers, organize joint walks, excursions and games.
The first-grader refuses to read.
Sometimes poor performance can be due to the fact that the child is identified in the school too early. About 25% of the children are not yet at the school level. They have not yet switched from kindergarten to school: they have not heard anything, they have misunderstood something. Attempts to make reading are usually perceived by the child "in bayonets." The main thing in this situation is not to put a brand on the child. If you want to teach him anything, remember that the goal of learning must be emotionally significant for him. Having reached the goal, the child is waiting for the praise or surprise of an adult. The content of the book should amaze and captivate the child. It is important to bring the game into the learning process, a certain competitive moment. Also try to read the child aloud, stopping at the most interesting moments. Read it yourself - seeing your enthusiasm, he will also gradually become interested in reading.
The child does not want to do homework.
There is often no time for parents to sit next to a schoolboy. Yes, and I want him to learn how to work independently. Before entering the school, many parents were confident that they would never sit with him while preparing lessons. But sometimes the situation develops in such a way that they simply do not have any other way out. Very much in the school curriculum is provided for working out at home. And since a child can not cope with such a volume of new information alone, the unannounced presence of an adult is implied as a matter of course. This is reality! So do not offend your child with reproaches that he is more stupid than others, that the rest of the children cope with everything themselves.
It is very important that the child is confident in their abilities. Do not rush it, do not forget to encourage even for the slightest success. Put before the kid such goals that he is able to understand. Encourage him not to fall in front of difficulties, to believe in his strength and ability. Your task is to guide your child in achieving this goal. A help is only when the child really can not cope with the task himself and asks you for help.
Always remember: what the child did with your help today, tomorrow he can do it himself. The independence of the child can be developed only on the basis of mastered tasks. Those - which are easily executed and cause a sense of their success. Help your child to gain confidence in their own abilities, and he will soon be able to become independent in preparing homework.
Should I punish a child for unlearned lessons?
To punish or not and how to do it - everyone decides for himself. But it is worth remembering that often moral punishment can be harder than physical punishment. Even if you punish a child, never humiliate him! Punishment should not be perceived by the child as a triumph of your strength over his weakness. If in doubt, you should punish or not - do not punish. And, most importantly, punishment should never harm either the physical or mental health of the child. Remember that a student has a lot of problems: big and small. And only your sincere support and participation will help to adapt in the new unfamiliar school world.