In the life of the child, the main thing is not only to establish relationships with classmates, but also with the teacher. The student will have to learn how to respond to remarks and notes correctly. And parents will have to learn to communicate and establish contacts with teachers and with their own child. Too tough, as well as too loyal to the students can cause feelings of protest. Especially it concerns adolescence.
The relationship between the teacher and the students changes, and the attitude toward learning changes. And as a result there are contradictions and conflicts. We want to see a teacher who respects the student, develops him as a person. The teacher must present to the student the feasible requirements. It is very important that the teacher be sympathetic to weak and shy children. But if there was a conflict?
The most common conflicts.
1. Non-compliance. For some reason the schoolboy refuses to comply with any requirements. Refusal can be caused by the desire to defend one's opinion.
2. Conflict of oneness. In order not to be known as a "weakling", or "mama's son", a teenager acts "like everyone else".
3. Conflict of leadership. A teenager tries not to lose credibility. And in the teacher he sees a competitor.
4. Conflict of dislike. It happens that the teacher is treated without due respect, take him out of himself. In such cases, adolescents provoke situations to make the teacher lose patience.
If the parents found out about the conflict with the teacher:
1. First you need to teach the child to solve the situation. At the first stage, do not interfere;
2. But if things have gone too far, then talk to your child. He should tell you about the participants in the conflict, about the reasons from his point of view. Understand how long the conflict lasts. Try to look at everything from the side. Discuss with the child possible ways out of the situation. Find out what's the matter, do not scold the child;
3. Do not discuss the teacher's shortcomings with the child. Explain that the teacher can get tired and be irritated;
4. Do not delay with the resolution of the conflict. Try to settle the relationship at the very beginning.
How can you find a common language?
1. Involve the student, teacher and psychologist in the conversation.
2. The main thing is for the child to understand that he needs knowledge. Priority should be a good knowledge of the subject and obtaining an appropriate assessment. For this, it is not at all necessary to establish friendly relationships in the lesson with the teacher. Try to show diplomacy.
3. The child must attend all classes, carry out assignments. Otherwise, there can be no question of any solution to the problem.
It is time to intervene in the conflict.
1. Talk to the teacher. If the problem concerns the class teacher, then start with a personal conversation. If the conflict has affected the subject teacher, then ask to connect both him and the school psychologist. Can your child have a complex character, a transition period? Consult together how to find leverage on the child. A competent teacher will always respond. In a conversation, you do not need to go over to individuals, reproaches. Sometimes you have to wait a while to solve the conflict. Always keep in touch with teachers, attend meetings. Try to overcome personal dislike for the teacher, if you have such feelings. Remember that your child's continued peace of mind depends on you in school.
2. Communicate with other parents. If, in your opinion, the child is biased, then talk with other parents. You will learn their opinion of the teacher, and maybe they have similar problems. Together, they are much easier to solve.
If the conversations with the teacher did not bring the expected success, and the teacher does not want to find a way out of the situation, then it's time to visit the head teacher or director. Schools usually struggle for their reputation. Guide, for sure, will meet you.
When should I change school?
1. If your child even after resolving the conflict continues nervous breakdowns, and he refuses to attend school. Such a situation will not contribute to the student's progress. His self-esteem is reduced to a minimum.
2. After the "resolution" of the conflict, your child's assessment has deteriorated sharply. But you know that the child knows the subject perfectly. Of course, in such a school your child does not see a good certificate.
3. If the school administration is aware of the existing problem, but does not interfere with the conflict. On the self-esteem of the child, as well as on academic performance this is not the best way to affect. You can continue fighting. But is it worth it to waste energy? It is better to transfer the child to another school.
The culture of the relationship with the student is relevant for any teacher. Only a profound understanding of the pupil by the teacher, the study of their individual abilities will make it possible to carry out the educational process.