Auto-training
The emotional connection between mother and baby is invisible, but incredibly strong. A son or daughter reads your state and is guided by it. You do not find a place, collecting a child in a kindergarten, you sigh: "How are you without me?", Parting and you can not hold back tears? Well, does the kid believe that he will like it in the kindergarten? We assure you, if you want a good day, with a smile, and in the evening you come back with a positive attitude, it will be easier for him to survive your parting. "But I, I'm worried!" - you exclaim. Please do not. With your baby everything will be all right. Has jumped in a breast? It's not because it's wrong. It's just that you are used to feeling the child at your side every minute, watching every step you take. Mentally repeat: "The kid is in good hands, he is doing well." It became easier? Well, fine. In order to make sure, do not call the tutor. When you take the child, then everything in detail and ask.
Another truth
Even the most enlightened karapuza, who was previously explained what he will do in the kindergarten, what to play and what to eat, disappointment awaits. Mom's stories he listened to as a fairy tale, but here he faced reality. Bed in the crib is not like home, and even before bedtime, no one scratches the backrest, does not sing a lullaby. The food is unaccustomed, the teacher demands an incomprehensible organization and obedience. And the kids were not so friendly. Someone pushed, someone took away the toy. And now life in the garden seems far from joyful. A child with tears in his eyes tells you that in kindergarten is bad, and he will not go there anymore. Believe it or not? To every word! Another and regret. But you do understand that nothing terrible has happened? In the garden, it will never be the same as at home, and this is normal. Psychologists believe that any person in order to understand what's what in the new environment, it takes three days. Do not rush things. And tell the child that everything will be all right soon, he will get acquainted with the children, make friends with the teacher and everything will be normalized. While the matter is yes, let him take with him his favorite toy. They will be everywhere together! A bear or a dog will share with his master all the joys and sorrows. In addition, the two of us are not so scared.
Little by little we get used to it
As a rule, the first week of the child is taken to a kindergarten for half a day. Some moms take the crumb before sleep, others - after. It is important for the kid to make sure: you will necessarily come for him. Just do not call the exact time - for a small number do not mean anything. Say: "After you have eaten a second time, you will return from a walk or when you wake up ..." Whatever happens, you must come on time. Try to be punctual. Initially, the children quite willingly go to the kindergarten, take toys with them, dress up. For them, this is an adventure, an opportunity to show oneself, to boast. And then suddenly they realize that a kindergarten is for a long time. Day by day you will have to go there, practice, perform duties. It is necessary to go even if the day before someone offended. Then you are in for a serious test. The kid protests and does not want to dress, he cries all the way, and near the door to the group he rolls a fit. Very much please, keep calm. We perfectly understand that urgent business is waiting for you, especially if the accustoming to the garden coincided with your going to work. But do not agree to the offer of the tutor to take the youngster into the gambling: they say, there he will quickly calm down. Yes, she does it for a good reason. She really can be believed, in an hour the child will behave, as if nothing had happened. Nevertheless, do not run away. Take the crumb on your hands, press it to yourself, comfort. Explain how important his consent is to you. While he is in the garden, you cope with many things. Persuade to be patient until the evening. You will return, and together you will go to the park or go cycling. Or maybe just stay at home, bake a cake and watch a cartoon. Tears dried up? Is your umnichka waving good-bye to you? Congratulations on your first victory! Naturally, in the evening you will fulfill the promise - and you will have a great time.
Reliable rear
The new way makes its amendments to your life. Much has changed. The baby receives less attention from the parents, from the garden it is taken by the mother, then the father, then the grandmother. "Do you love me?" - the little one asks this question again and again. Doubtful? Yes. Therefore, you need to answer many times and remind yourself as often as possible about it. Karapuzu is important to feel loved, priceless for parents. It does not hurt to convince the child that if you do, you will quit all the affairs and come to him. It is also necessary to discuss possible force majeure situations. Who will insure you? Grandmother, nurse? The child is important to know that in the garden he will not be left and taken away, even if mom and dad stay, get into a traffic jam on the road, a car breaks down. Well, if the person who helps you, in the presence of a crumb confirms his willingness to come to the rescue. The need to attend kindergarten is easier to perceive when both parents are on duty. Knowing that someone is at home, the child will make every effort to stay, too.
Way home
All the news from life in the garden you get on the way back. The kid shares his impressions, chattering incessantly. Listen carefully, ask questions, take a look. It's great when my mother knows the name of a friend, supports an opposite sex (yes, the first love is very serious), understands children's games and remembers the names of toys. Many children meet their parents with a question: "What did you bring me?" They can be understood - it's nice to receive a surprise every day. But you want the child to expect your arrival, not a new thing. On the other hand, you have a desire to please your son or daughter. Why not do it sometimes, for example, once a week? It will be a wonderful tradition. Hint that you do not mind getting something. Let it be an odd job, a small bouquet, an acorn, a chestnut, just to make a crap of it meaningfully. And think of a ritual. Say, hug at a meeting or run to each other with a smile. Are you a mother without complexes? Then take an example from the Americans, they know how to invent. Cotton palms, then knees. Then rub your noses, jump in place and loudly say: "Hello!" How do you like this option?
Quarrels and resentments
Whatever the child has done in kindergarten, you should always be his protection. Are they complaining about him? It is not necessary to find out the relationship right away and to ask for everything. Neither shame nor shame the child. Listen to the injured party, thank for the information and promise to figure it all out. Do not hurry with conclusions. Another interesting view of what happened is interesting. Although sometimes everything is clear. In such circumstances, your understanding is much more important than educational conversations. Did the crumb itself suffer? Take your jokes to his revelations, listen, sympathize. But try to assess adequately. If something serious happened, the teacher would discuss everything with you. Since she did not pay attention to the incident, it means nothing terrible happened. Is something bothering you? Immediately in the morning, figure it out. In the conflict involved another child? Remember: you have no right to educate him. Inform the tutor, meet with the parents. Do you want to ask about something the child with whom your friend is friends? It is better to do this in the presence and with the permission of his mother or father. There are also very unpleasant situations when the teacher is to blame. Her actions are not pedagogical? Do you have evidence, but does she deny everything? I'll have to meet with the manager. Just do not get started, be polite, courteous, describe everything detached. And do not be afraid that the conflict will affect the child in one way or another. The educator is an adult, it is unlikely she will begin to drive the evil away on a crumb. Since you could not come to mutual understanding together, a third person who is interested in a comprehensive solution of the problem will help you. But if you keep silent, be afraid to bring the case to publicity, be ready to continue troubles. True, children, whose mothers are too timid and do not defend the interests of their own child, quickly realize: you will only have to rely on yourself. The fighters are fighting for themselves. Quiet people tolerate humbly ... You do not want this for a baby!
It will be interesting!
Psychologists say: a kid who knows how to take himself, has the skills of independent play, better adapts himself in the kindergarten. How to teach? Sit down with the child and play with dolls, cars, a designer. But not mechanically, but with meaning. Invent an unpretentious story and embody it in life. Very important and the ability to communicate with peers. Did you work it out in the sandbox, with the children of your acquaintances, your older sister or brother? Then there will be no problems. Although you still need to teach the child to sympathize and empathize, strive to understand the other and not get into a fight. And to share and change toys. In general, help him to understand the secrets of life in the team.