What men think about lovers

Mistress ... How much in this concept of contradictions, conjectures and disputes. Moralists do not see anything sacred in such women, accuse them of perfidy and mercantilism, they call the cause of the destruction of moral principles and a bad example for the upbringing of the younger generation. Does this bother the mistresses? Hardly. They are, were and will be. Does the strict moral of men stop? Also no. For most of them, a mistress is put "in the staff", for the sake of fashion, for the realization of "hunting" instincts, etc. Each has its own reasons. Which, and why men split their personal lives, it is better to ask directly from them. What do men think about mistresses? How do they explain their presence in their lives?

Men debunk myths about mistresses

Of course, men are interested persons, and their opinion on this subject is very subjective. However, the aim of our research is not so much a search for truth as an attempt to understand man's logic in the mechanism of treason. What do men think about the social stereotypes about mistresses? Myth 1: a lover provokes a forbidden relationship. Many men admit that they were the first to initiate meetings and intimate meetings, because, as they say, they are more interested in this. If they decide to step on the path of betrayal (spontaneously or deliberately - not so important), it is impossible to stop this "locomotive". They use all sorts of tricks, tricks, gifts, care, seduction and promise. Myth 2: a mistress is an immoral woman. Women, carried away by married men, are not so often immoral and hard-hearted as morals and public opinion dictate to them. Each case is a separate story of a woman's fate. Men resent that the very public opinion considers them to be naive suckers, used by insidious women. Rather, they are using their youth, beauty and devoted to them years of life.

Myth 3: a mistress wants to build on their own misfortune their happiness. In modern women, men note a greater desire for freedom and independence, incl. and from family ties. Not all lovers wish to destroy the family of a man and build on her ruins their own happiness. Often, a modern mistress does not need a husband. She needs a man with whom she will feel loved, and not driven by a horse in the yoke of family life. Today, marriage has lost its former attractiveness. Myth 4: mistress - mercenary, mercantile and prudent. Even men agree that in our time a woman is easier to make money herself than to find a decent man. If a man is rich and "buys" himself a beautiful doll, then, like in any of his "thing", he wants and will invest money, increasing its value. And he does it rather for himself. But today many men, glancing down their eyes, admit that in these crisis times are not too generous. A relationship without money, as you know, selfless love. Myth 5: the mistress is not respected. World cinema, literature and even history glorify just mistresses, creating around them a halo of romance, mystery and sweet sin. Courtesans, hetaera, favorites have left the brightest trace and will be remembered for ever. "Dear" wives are more perceived as something ordinary, and for "disrespectful" mistresses perform feats, risk a career, family and even life.

Men about the true causes of their adultery

What is it about these mistresses, what is not in wives? What is their appeal? It would seem that the charm is obvious, and it can be expressed in several points:

• An eternal feast. A man reaches out to the woman with whom she is in a carefree state.
• Promised man's pride. With a mistress, a man is a hero and a knight. At home he is all and owes everything, and for this duty the title of hero is not given.
• Sensation of novelty. Relations with the mistress are not spoiled by the burden of life, the routine and boring ritual of daily family life.
• Violent sex. The stolen love gives to both to relations, and sex a certain "action" and adrenaline which for a long time is not present with the lawful wife.

Meanwhile, in frank conversations, men deny all these points.

• Mistress understands more than a wife? No, or not so much as a wife, with which not a single pood of salt is eaten, and she already feels everything literally from a half-look, even if she does not agree with these very views of her husband. A simple attraction does not have this understanding, and risks never to have.
• Mistress is younger and more beautiful than wife? Surprisingly, in sincere confessions, men argue that appearance and age are not critical and often lose sexuality and femininity. And if a man is boastful and vain, then a mistress is not his story at all, be she even the Beauty Queen. She can not boast of the general public and the authoritative public.
• Mistress less demanding and pretentious? Also no. The list of her desires (not only material ones) often exceeds the requirements of the spouse, including both material, and family, and household, and personal needs. Wife has long resigned to the need to be content with a minimum, does not pretend to romantic feats and daily evidence of love.

So what is the real reason for male infidelity? Men who are able to analyze, are sincere and honest at least with themselves, unanimously call the absence of responsibility. With a mistress you can not be afraid of problems related to her health, household and housing conditions, not to be responsible for the upbringing, safety and life of children, not to make plans for the future and not to make commitments. With her - a continuous holiday and lack of stress. And if something goes wrong, you can always say goodbye "in English" and replace another. The one that will return the state of carelessness. Family - work, mistress - rest from her. By and large, a man does not care who his mistress (beauty, youth, adrenaline - nice, but optional bonuses). He is more interested in his own feelings, which he is experiencing at the same time. And if the revelation of his unlawful adventures "to the left" is maturing, he, as a rule, without much hesitation and hesitation, will make a choice in favor of the family. Serious relationship with his mistress in his plans were not included. Not for this he led her. Mistress from the word love. And love is a state of mind, a holiday unencumbered by obligations.