What is this life? Let's open the dictionary: "Life is a common way of life." Everyday life, a set of customs and customs. " It would seem nothing bad. But why are the economic troubles always tiring and burdensome? Why do they irritate even more than the turnover at work? Why are household relationships a constant source of conflict? Maybe, because over time you get tired of wonderful customs and beautifully planned everyday affairs, especially if you have to deal with them alone? According to statistics, on average, men spend 10-12 hours a week per week, working women, for whom the "second labor shift" arrives at home - 28-32 hours. As you can see, the account is not in our favor. Yes, that to dissemble, although like between the sexes is established equality, men are not eager to engage in life, however, in varying degrees. And according to this principle they can be divided into several types. To which does your partner belong?
Husband-housewife . In an emphasis not noticing the changes that have occurred in the world over the past decades, he lives by the tradition that has long sunk into oblivion: the task of a man is to work and earn, the place of a woman in the kitchen. Well, or something like that. Once upon a time, Aristotle said of family life: "From the very beginning, things are distributed so that the husband is occupied by one and the wife by another, only thanks to this husband and wife are able to support each other, contributing to the common cause." And the key words here are "support" and "common cause", but the husband-housewife heard only the first half of the phrase and completely disassociated himself from the economic sphere. At me supposedly, the work, and the house - on you, and cope as you want. The struggle to involve an excessively orthodox spouse in the household will have to be difficult.
How to live with him? Since no one before explained to your husband home economics, it is not an easy task, you will have to introduce him to this information first. Scientists have calculated that ordinary ironing can be equated to the work of a mason, and washing the floors - to the work of a truck driver. 1 hour of caring for your own children will take as much power as the rugby player leaves after playing half the match. In general, the housewife, who spent the whole day cleaning and other household chores, will exert the same efforts as a cyclist in the race for 80 km. After mass-bombing of the male consciousness with statistical data, ask for helpers, for example a washing and dishwasher, a nanny for a child at least one day a week. If you are only doing business, threaten that otherwise you are ready to go out to daily work and share with your husband all the "easy" homework in half. True, this is a risky method of influencing an Orthodox spouse, who is easier to divorce and find a wife - a born housewife (which, it seems, was his mother) than to harness himself to the household collar. Therefore, if you feel that the "power" option does not pass, present your claims and wishes in a soft form. If you day by day will drip on the brains of a husband with a mixture of complaints of a heavy female share, stressing at the same time that you love him to insanity, but despite the wings of love, soon overstrained, he after a while will realize that you need unload. And it does not matter, he himself will be called to wash the floor or he will buy you a washing vacuum cleaner. The main thing is that you now have at least one less care. Do not stop there. With a skillful approach, you can delegate not less than half of the economic and household powers, releasing a lot of time for self-development and without losing a family.
Male Partner . The most comfortable option, then, what should be husbands in the family. Such a man from the very beginning is ready to share his household duties with you in half and considers this state of affairs perfectly normal. That he cooked breakfast for oatmeal, and on Saturdays vacuumed the carpet, he should not be persuaded or exhorted. Moreover, he is convinced that in the family of the spouse are interchangeable, so you are ready to shift for a while to yourself and your household duties if you are unwell or, let's say, prepare for the annual report. But the most interesting is the annual report. But the most interesting, even with such a modern, adequate and comfortable husband, some manage to quarrel on domestic soil.
How to live with him? Never force a partner husband to do what his soul does not have. After all, we all have unloved domestic chores. And if the husband hates to wash dishes, do not insist. Better without scandal, wash it yourself, while the husband will lay the child. But do not encourage your husband for anything (received a promotion at work, earned and brought in additional money in the house) exemption from household duties. Men surprisingly quickly lose their economic "qualifications" and lose their self-service skills, if they regularly take their share of work for themselves. And even begin to manipulate you with the help of your own kindness.
The husband is ordinary . He knows that it is necessary to help, but he is terribly reluctant to engage in economic affairs. Such a man himself will not guess that you should throw away the garbage, even if the mountain of waste accumulates in the kitchen. He needs eternal urges and guidance, as well as in checking the results, because, doing homework from under the cane, he does not try or frankly messy, not pushing the handle of the vacuum cleaner under the bed and washing the plates from the back.
How to live with him? Look for an additional incentive - he must be in the family. Good work praise. A man whose cucumber salad was praised to the skies will be more willing to take up cooking another time. The second method - complaints of fatigue, headaches, allergies to dust and detergents. In particular, physicians from the Berlin Institute of Pulmonology found that exposure to fungi that spread during the decomposition of organic waste is harmful to allergic people: fungi cause skin problems and difficulty breathing. So, if you already have allergic manifestations, you can safely, referring to your poor health, shift the duty to take out garbage on an expensive spouse. But use this technique in a dosed manner. The wife, who complains every day, does not feel sorry, her whining becomes irritatingly habitual and no longer stimulates the spouse for economic and personal feat. Take into account, often caresses and other signs of attention can achieve much more. Our partners are being led by them despite the fact that many are well aware that this is a tactical ploy of the weaker sex. So do not stop using women's tricks, since you decided to link your destiny with a man who thinks life is not his own business. Or look for another.
The husband is a housewife - 1 . It so happened that the center of gravity of his personality and activity completely moved to the sphere of the household and he literally pushed you out of the kitchen, pushed him away from the washing machine and tore the vacuum cleaner from his hands. And now, as a sign of protest, you instinctively want to take back your female "privileges"! Do not get excited, better think carefully: do not you open up to you with this "change of places" additional perspectives, for example, in terms of creativity or career? The answer is sure to be positive. Just keep in mind: quite often the stormy economic activity of a partner is a conscious compensation of his inability to earn, therefore, money for life will have to be extracted for you. Are you outraged by this prospect? In vain! Look around: in Russia, a myriad of men who do not earn money and do nothing at home. And such an option, you will agree, is much worse!
How to live with him? To husband-householder does not sour, often praise and encourage him. As it is important for any woman to notice her household records, her husband also hopes that you will not run around the apartment in shoes, appreciating the floors they have just washed, and with the words: "I did not eat such delicious things," ask for supplements of it branded sour cabbage soup. An excellent tactic is to pretend to be helpless, convincing yourself and your spouse that you certainly can not cope with the economy at such a high level as it goes with it. And such delicate pancakes you never got, and you can not achieve such brilliance in the bathroom. This will comfort his pride and finally convince himself that without him the family will simply perish from hunger in the mud and chaos. Time will pass, everyone will get used to the "inverted model" of your relationships and will calmly consult you on business matters, and your husband will ask for a recipe for stuffed zucchini.
A husband is a housewife - 2. Sometimes, to a stable domestic skills, a man owes his former status to an old bachelor or a victim of a divorce. Not always free men eat in expensive restaurants with delicacies or on their neglected kitchen, the Chinese noodles. Someone bothers with the ordered "hot" pizza ordered at home, and some in principle prefer a healthy lifestyle and normal food, so first he learns soup from a bag, then omelet, oatmeal, potato casserole, rumsteak, brains in a pot ... and so page by page the whole cookbook. Discovering the culinary talent, he will never again bury him in the ground and will consider his weighty dignity. And when the "navy order" in the kitchen, there is an incentive and to his guidance in the entire bachelor den, which eventually turns into a model dwelling of an enviable groom.
How to live with him? A bachelor who knows how to do everything around the house is, of course, a rare fortune, but also a problem at the same time. And its essence is that it will dictate to you the rules of everyday co-existence and demand their strict implementation. And God forbid you to wipe your hands with the wrong towel or without his permission to rearrange the chest of drawers to another wall - you will immediately know what a lover is in anger. The economic bachelor will live only as he wants and is accustomed to, even if a woman "gets" in his house. And you will have to play all his life according to his laws. That is, in a sense, not exactly the mistress of the house. And in fact, no matter how a husband should be, the family should hold on to us - women.