"I do not want to live without him," she replies.
"But he's not worth your little finger, why should he be so humiliated?" Insists his first.
"But how will I now, I do not need anyone" ...
Such a dialogue between the two girls I recently heard, and this led me to some reflection. Indeed, what makes us young and beautiful - to humble ourselves before this or that guy, and where is the line between humiliation and the elementary desire to maintain a relationship? When a girl humiliates herself in a relationship?Most often, this line is different for everyone. One girl is ready for anything for her beloved. She will ask for forgiveness, and feel guilty whether she is guilty or not. At the most insignificant quarrel, she will apologize, beg to forgive her, will break off the phone of her beloved, shower it with SMS-messages with pleas for forgiveness. From the girlfriends of such a girl, of course, it will look like a humiliation of her dignity. They will discourage her from the next call and from the slightest desire to meet and talk.
Another girl on the other hand, never first calls and appoints meetings, never confesses love first, and for anything in the world does not ask for forgiveness, even if it's really to blame. She believes that all of the above is beneath her dignity and that it will just humiliate her, as a girl, in a relationship.
All people are different, with their characters, with their emotions and with their understanding of the correctness of this or that act in a relationship with a loved one. Despite this, for some life situations, still, most would react more or less equally.
First, when a girl imposes her love, she imposes excessive care. Many guys do not like it, and many girls consider this behavior of a friend or a familiar banal humiliation of their dignity.
Secondly, if the guy decided to part with the girl, then some can not reconcile with this and begin to simply pursue the former lover. Constantly trying to return it, persuading or threatening something. For most girls, this behavior is unacceptable, "because - this is humiliation!" - they will say. By the way, it's not always pleasant for guys (although sometimes it's their self-esteem), more often just bored.
Thirdly, if there was a quarrel. Many girls will never fit first, considering it a humiliation. Though here it is possible and to argue. Depending on who is right and who is guilty, and assessing the situation sensibly, it is possible to extend a hand to a truce, and this will not be considered a humiliation, it will be considered the preservation of peace in the relationship. Although here, too, you have to stick to the golden mean, because holding out your hand too often, you can just accustom your soul mate to it, and then you have to humble yourself, asking for forgiveness for something that is not to blame. Try not to allow situations in which the girl humiliates herself.
Fourthly, there are times when a guy meets two (maybe more) girls at the same time. And if one of these girls knows about this and continues to maintain relationships, then this is also humiliation, and, it can be said, doubly. On the one hand, she is humiliated by a guy, on the other she is herself. After all, honesty, devotion and pure, unsullied love still have not been canceled.
In the end ... When a girl humiliates herself in a relationship , she does not respect and does not primarily love herself. For humiliation in a relationship, the girl is most often pushed by the fear of being alone, fearing that she does not need anyone other than him . Such conclusions are erroneous, because if a girl has even a little respect for herself, she is at least confident in herself and knows herself the price, she will not allow any fears to make her go to humiliation, to sacrifice her principles, her pride.