If the mother of the boy is kind, understanding and loving son, then, most likely, it's very good, to be like her. Of course, you just need to make sure that the young man does not begin to treat you like you are his mother. In this case, he will begin to raise the claims that we are accustomed to turn to our parents, knowing that they will not give up and fulfill all the whims. This is not the best way to develop a relationship between a guy and a girl, because not only he needs it, but you also need it. And we love Mom much more than we care. And we do less for them than they do for us. No matter how we try to help and support, all the same, our demands on parents are almost always higher than the returns. Therefore, if a man says that you remind his mother, enjoy it, but be careful. The fact is that my mother would hardly want to take her place. Still, even the most ideal and understanding mothers, at least a little, but still jealous of their sons to their girls and wives. Every mom is confident that she will do everything better than you. Just one lacks the wisdom to keep these thoughts to themselves, while others keep trying to get into a strange monastery with their charter. But, anyway, if a guy loves and respects his mother, then you're lucky that you look like her. His positive attitude towards the mother will pass to you. In this case, the young man will never offend his woman and will not raise his hand on her, because with his mother he will not do so under any circumstances. The sons who grew up under the warm Mom's wing are always distinguished by family, kindness, tenderness and understanding. Therefore, to you. Perhaps even worth a little proud of the fact that you look like a woman who raised such a beautiful person. After all, agree, if he was not, you would not love him that much. The best option is when your mom really likes you. You find a common language with her, as with a blood relative or friend. In this case, your similarity helps you to find a common language faster and does not quarrel over trifles. Agree, because if women are radically different, they constantly have conflicts, both at the household and at the spiritual level. In this case, even for good people it is very difficult to understand each other and come to some common solution. But if you have a similar attitude and the same interests, then communication with the mother of your loved one will be for you in joy. You can understand each other and do not subconsciously divide the young man. In this situation, the similarity with the guy's mom gives you a lot of advantages regarding the development of relationships, both with your mother-in-law and with a young man, as he already knows many of your points and looks on the example of his mother.
Quite a different situation arises in the case when the guy has absolutely no mutual understanding with his mother. Here everything is very complex and uneven. The cause of the conflict between mother and son can be not only disagreements in the worldview and events that occur around. In fact, there are problems much more serious and deeper than this. There are cases when a mother who is not ready to raise a child gives it to her relatives or her parents and disappears for a while, appearing a couple of times a year. Such women are less likely to grow up to motherhood when their sons reach adolescence and are taken to their homes. This is where the conflict of interests begins, which grows into youthful hatred. A mother who missed many years from her son's life begins to educate him as if he were still small, stupid and unintentional. She does not understand that before her is a formed personality that needs to be understood. Often, such mothers do not try to understand their children, learn about their tastes and experiences, try to come up with some way to go for rapprochement. Seeing this attitude, the boys begin to close and accumulate a kiloton of hatred for their own mothers. They can not be judged for this, because the absence of a living mother, often, generates many complexes and insecurities. In addition, such children grow up very angry and distrustful. They perceive life as a war. This causes social problems. Unfortunately, often their mothers do not even realize that they played a negative role in the life formation of their sons. They all deny and continue to impose their behavior on the young man, not really caring about his feelings and emotions.
If a man says: I remind his mother in such a situation, then you need to be very careful and try to understand what exactly you remind her. The fact is that young people who fall into such situations, to mothers are ambivalent. They love them, because each child inherits this love by nature, and, at the same time, hates, angry and resentful for all the suffering and problems that they have had because of the mother's behavior. Therefore, it is possible that he also loves you hating. In order to have as few problems as possible in your relationship, try to understand what exactly he finds similar between you and the mother. Perhaps it is only appearance or some slight similarities in behavior, facial expressions, gestures. Then, nothing particularly terrible is there, but if it's not hard for you, try to get rid of it, so as not to irritate the guy once again. If the conversation is about the character and perception of the world, then you should think about, because it is from this that your loved one is left without a mother. So try to understand how this affects your boyfriend, his feelings and attitudes towards you. If you yourself understand that the described features are negative - get rid of them. Be good and loving to a young man, not at all like his mother, and then you will both be happy.