For working parents, the most common solution in this situation is the kindergarten. Babies usually begin to visit the garden, reaching the age of three. However, let's see, is this the most suitable age? There are many opinions on this issue. Someone is sure that the sooner the better, because it will be easier for the baby to get used to the new situation. Others argue that you need to wait at least four years, so that the baby can spend as much time with his mother.
Of course, it's hard to argue with the statement that the baby is best with mom. Mom in his small world is an island of reliability, his mother gives him confidence, the kid boldly explores the world when his mother is around. Contact with the mother is the most important way of knowing the world for the child, so do not break the close relationship of the baby mom too early. However, it is extremely important to understand that it is not just necessary to be near the child, but also to help him in development. The first years of life - the most important for the formation of personality, so the most important task of parents - to give the child maximum attention. It is necessary to develop games, modeling, drawing, gymnastics - in short, everything that promotes the development of speech, motor skills, intelligence. It is in this connection that the most often is the assertion that children should be given to kindergarten as soon as possible, so that they are dealt with by professionals who competently approach the issue of development and know exactly what to do for the proper course of personality formation processes. But in order to properly deal with the child does not necessarily have to be a professional. Now there is a sufficient amount of literature explaining to my mother what and how to do. And none, even the most qualified and competent professional will not replace the baby mom.
Such a serious issue should be approached individually, assessing in the first place the characteristics of the child. Sometimes it happens that already in two years the baby speaks beautifully, independently copes with the pot and does not need the help of a tutor during lunch. If your child is sociable, enjoy spending time with other children and adults, if necessary, such a child can already be given to the garden. There is a high probability that such a developed kid in the kindergarten will feel great, find new friends and learn new games.
Most psychologists are advised to begin acquaintance with the kindergarten not earlier than three years. This is largely due to the fact that at this age most children are already independent and well say that it greatly facilitates the work of the educator, and it is calmer for mom to understand that her baby can cope with small domestic difficulties. Also at the age of three years, immunity is strengthened, which allows the child to adapt more easily to the kindergarten. The kid at this age has already got stronger and not so sharply reacts to change of a microclimate, not so is subject to infections whereas children of younger age often are ill.
Do not forget that this statement of child psychologists is advisory in nature and in no case means that after reaching your child of three years of age, you must send it to the garden. No one knows better than a mother her baby and can not assess the degree of his willingness to visit the garden. Many children at this age can not be detached from the family even for a few hours - especially if the child is sensitive to changes and reacts sharply to the lack of relatives nearby.
Do not forget that three years is quite a difficult age for a child. At this time there is often a crisis of personality. At this age the child often becomes obstinate, stubborn, self-willed and reacts negatively to everything. If it so happened that the crisis of the triennium coincided with the time when you decided to give the child to the garden, you should wait a little to survive the first storm. If the child falls into the garden at this very moment, the kid will direct all his negative negatives to a new phenomenon for him and then convince him of the benefits of visiting the garden will be difficult. Noticing your child's first signs of crisis, begin to prepare him in advance for a new social role. Try to show him various pictures depicting children playing in kindergarten, tell us how good and fun these children are. If your friends have children with a positive experience of visiting kindergarten, try to make sure that your child heard the story "from the first mouth." All this will prepare your baby for a visit to the kindergarten.
There is no universal age for starting a kindergarten. For each child it is necessary to choose time individually, being guided by set of signs: independence of the child, sociability, the relation to adults and children, display of signs of crisis of three-year age. If you, after analyzing the behavior of the baby, decided that it's time to go to the kindergarten - start preparing the child for the first visit, interest him. Then any changes in the life of the child will be received with joy, and seeing your child as happy is the greatest happiness for any mother. So it's up to you when to give the child to a kindergarten.