You have been dating for a long time or have lived together for a long time already, and your prince on a white horse for some reason can not decide to make you an offer of a hand and a heart. Let's see - why did the man change his mind about marrying you?
Every man is first and foremost a male. No matter how we, women, were not not pleased to hear this, but men, by their nature, are polygamous. Having bound himself by marriage, a man is afraid of losing that precious freedom, that fresh breath of air, that the ring on his finger will block him all access to oxygen. Try to talk with your chosen one, explain that marriage is not a cage, it is a kind of cooperation for the benefit of the family and the proper education of future children. Marriage is mutual assistance, support, harmony and understanding, but also work that requires incredible efforts.
Also, a man may not be sure of you. Perhaps there were some reasons for not trust. Or he fears, suddenly you at the last moment, offering you to marry, you in turn will change your mind and do not want to lose your freedom, having run away from it to freedom.
Talk more and discuss with a man your relationship. Give him more reason to trust you.
But God forbid you to impose on him the idea of marriage at breakfast, lunch and dinner! Perseverance in such a sensitive issue for men is unnecessary. He will simply run away from you if you cling to him with a grip of the pit bull, and you will drag him towards the nearest registry office.
Another important cause of the problem may be a conflict of views, leading subsequently to disagreement and struggle between you. There is no longer a harmonious marriage. First you need to resolve all existing misunderstandings.
Try to share your man's passions. So you will become closer to him. You will spend more time together, and he will understand how much you have become close and necessary to him. He will not want to lose you and will think about how to forever bind you to you with wedding fetters.
Perhaps now you are his friend, and in order to make you an offer he needs time for grinding, recognizing you in different life situations. And it's rather good than bad. This means that your chosen one takes your wife's choice very seriously and if he makes you an offer, it will be his more than sensible and conscious decision and he certainly will not leave you in the first few months of marriage.
Sooner or later your discontent with life, life and partner will turn you into a woman - a "saw". This will not keep your man with you and certainly will not bring him thoughts of marriage. Try to change in a positive way. Look for your advantages in everything. This will make life easier for both you and your future (let's hope) to your husband.
Another important negative point may be your excessive extravagance of the joint budget. Overruns you money. The man is still looking for a thrifty mistress and keeper of the family hearth.
Or your chosen one is so stingy that he considers the wedding a waste of money. Think, do you need such a Plushkin for life? And in general, maybe he does not want to spend his honestly earned money on you and the family, and not on himself.
On the negative decision of a man to conclude a legal marriage with you may have an impact and negative experience in the past. Perhaps his ex-wife betrayed him, abandoned him or did not respect him, as the head of the family. Now he is subconsciously afraid of repeating the pain he has already experienced and does not want to feel it again with you. Careful inquiries try to learn about his past personal life and gently assure him that you will be his strong support, do not leave him and support both in sorrow and in joy.
Maybe you were already married, you have a child and a man does not want to bring up the fruit of the former love of you and your ex-husband. In this case it is better to visit the family psychologist together.
The reason for rejecting marriage can also be the unfortunate experience of his parents and his upbringing in a family that is not happy in marriage. It's worth explaining that not all marriages are unhappy. Some people have the amazing art of living happily all their lives, endowing their children with love and even walking in the park with a pen in deep old age.
Look back at your relationship with his mom and relatives. Maybe you do not like them? Perhaps a man is influenced by them and guided by him in making decisions about marriage. In that case, if you still want to be with your chosen one, then will, do not you will have to establish a warm relationship with his family.
If you have lived together for a long time, then the man has already calmed down. You will never get away from it anywhere. Why overstrain yourself and marry? And so everything is fine! In this case, you can tickle your nerves a bit. Go to your friends in the cinema, in a cafe in a new outfit and be sure to return from a walk with flowers. Your future husband certainly will not leave this fact without attention and will think hard about further actions.
The reason is also his representation that from the beautiful, fluttering nymph in which he once fell in love, you will turn into a sullen, fat woman, in a greasy dressing gown, with a rolling pin greeting him every evening after work. The situation is anecdotal, but many men are afraid of this particular female transformation.
Your physical incompatibility or a sharp decline in sexual activity, too, does not stimulate a man to offer to go with you under the crown. There is already need for active action on your part. Perhaps, cosmetics, a new beautiful dress and erotic underwear will not be superfluous in your alcove?
If none of the above problems solve the problem and you do not know why a man has changed his mind to marry with you, then we congratulate you heartily! You got that same individual who is characterized in nature as a "bachelor convinced"! There is a category of men who do not marry anyone and never. It is useless to force them to marry you. Even if you succeed, and he will invite you to walk to the regional registry office, then such a husband, alas, will not love his wife or children.
Take care of yourself! Good luck and success to you in your personal life!