In our time, there are often cases of being in new companies. And who, if not a decent girl, worry about the upcoming dating? If you are in the circle of strangers and want to make a good impression, and also get close to people, you should read some recommendations. The main thing remember that you are a girl and you need to always behave with dignity.
Look at yourself with other people's eyes
First of all, you need to make an attempt to adequately assess your behavior. It is advisable to do this even before the moment when you realize that something is wrong and it's time to change. If any of the new society sees you in such a role, then a good attitude can be said "goodbye". Well, no matter how scary, unpleasant, etc., you need to look at yourself from the outside and realistically understand what your significant flaws are, by letting go of flattery, pride and overestimation of self-esteem. And then grasp the changes: what can be corrected quickly-do first: bring your appearance in order, read some kind of developing literature, fill up the vocabulary with the necessary expressions and so on. And what you do not know at the moment, can still leave it aside. But do not forget about it and try at least to hide your shortcomings, if you are not strong in something, just do not start a conversation that will lead you into this area. For example, you do not have a sense of humor and you do not know how to joke, but then decided to shave - not worth it!
Treat people as you would like them to treat you
The second item is the above expression. Cultivate in yourself an attentive and tactful attitude towards other people. Without the relevant skills, you will constantly fall into the worst situations and all your troubles will also relate to this point. The main thing is to learn how to respect the opinions of others so that people respect your opinion.
Keep yourself in a society feeling uncomfortable - at ease. Even if you came with one or two friends, and they were lost at the most crucial moment and do not know how to behave, take advantage of the situation and show all your brilliance. The main thing is simplicity and sure emancipation within reason. Love the communication and it will love you.
For a girl is best to get acquainted with the opposite sex through intelligent conversations. Each communication is given a talent for communication, you just need to develop it to the necessary limit and all the men in your new company are yours. So, read a couple of smart books and talk on topics that will be close to both sexes. The main thing is that even those interlocutors who did not read special literature could support the topic. Feel which buttons you need to press in time.
Get to know your companion
When you get to the new company, then for the ladies you will automatically become a "rival", and for men, the desired prey. So, from the first moment you need to say who you are, but quietly calm. Always know how to listen to your interlocutor and if there is a need, show sympathy or vice versa - delight.
Women things
Under the concepts of female gizmosmozhno consider a few items that will make you a goddess of the evening and the best companion in an entirely different society.
The first rule is "Visualization"
Before you go to a new company, make sure that you are psychologically prepared for this. Take a look at the visualization. Try to imagine that you are feeling something good towards these people. You should feel not the discomfort, but on the contrary, the fact that you and they are easy and simple, both in communication and in the same room. Imagine that you get pleasure from new acquaintances and they carry apositive. Visualize that you have found a friend or like-minded person on views. In general, feel a state of confidence.
Rule number 2: "Behave yourself naturally"
You tuned in and went in, and now you go inside. Here it is - you see new people: new friends and friends! You do not need to think about who looked at you or who you liked, but who does not. Remember, they also think about whether you like it or not. Remember that you need to remain yourself and not try to please someone. Of course, this does not mean that you need to show "who is the owner" from the first moment , but also it is not necessary to be unduly nice - this will alert many. If someone hears your creativity, then you can take advantage of this with your own benefit.
No. 3 "Look for something good in every man"
When you come in, you can start to look at people and their behavior lightly. It is not necessary to immediately focus on human failings, on the contrary, look at the advantages. If you see dignity, then you can easily and more openly communicate with this person.
№4 «On the positive»
What a banal this recommendation did not seem, you should listen to it, because it plays an important role. Everything, like you, is only for positive things and positive communication, and all negative is rejected.
№5 «Popularity with the help of personal strengths and knowledge»
Listen carefully. Before you begin to talk about yourself and generally say something, listen, people are coked: what words they use, what they say, what they say, what kind of speech, what speech, used speech and so on.
When communicating better than your interlocutor on trifles do not distract, especially if you yourself can cope with anything. Will appreciate you and in case of verbal location. Be independent and responsible and you will succeed.
Conversation is best supported by not too detailed answers. Let your speech be turned, but not three-hour. It will also be difficult to use one-syllable responses.
If a girl does not manifest a great shyness and shows an interest in others on her own, then this is also a good character trait.
There are situations when everything goes well, and then the conversation comes to a standstill. Do not get upset, it is always possible to find a way out of the situation, or rather a new topic for conversation. If in the process of communication you have already managed to find common ground, then difficulties do not arise.
If there is a conflict, keep calm. Do not succumb to emotions, listen to your mind. Self-possession is your trump card in any unfamiliar company.
What do you need to do to make a sensation?
- Previously, a month to read as many Russian classics as possible.
- Watch the news, be aware of all the events, know about sports news at least the basic facts: football, volleyball, boxing, swimming and others.
- Understand fishing, hunting, cars. It is not necessary to be an Ass, but in general it is necessary.
- Track the trend trends, so you have something to chat about with other girls.
- The first time it is better to dress is not too provocative and behave accordingly.
- Know the rules of etiquette and behavior in society. For example, you went to the theater, and many places are already occupied and you have to pass by several people in order to get to your place. In this case, go face to sitting, so as not to hurt them and, of course, not to offend.
The main rule in all new acquaintances is openness, self-control, a sense of tact and self-worth.