Women have much more reason to cheat than men. Moreover, the external signs of orgasm in women are not as obvious as in men.
First of all, women pretend to orgasm so as not to upset their partner. After all, most women have a rather insignificant reason for starting a business that has not reached its logical conclusion and all the efforts of a man have been wasted. A tactful woman would prefer to pretend that she was well with him, and not showering reproaches.
Another reason why women portray an orgasm may be simply the lack of desire for intimacy. But under the pressure of a man the woman concedes, and then pretends to finish all this, finally. The reason for this behavior may be fatigue, a desire to sleep or a child's illness and many other reasons.
Another reason why some women prefer to deceive their chosen one is a belief in their own inferiority. Many are afraid to hear the accusation of frigidity if they have no orgasm.
Causes of simulation in men.
Men, as well as women, do not want to offend their partner. None of the men wants to hear the accusation that he does not love her enough, that he has a mistress. After all, the lack of orgasm in a man, for a woman, means her personal unattractiveness.
Other reasons may be problems at work, which he can not help but recall even during intimacy. He can just get tired. For some, alcohol can act as a kind of anesthetic, and even a small dose of it can cause problems with ejaculation, which simply does not occur. But since he started, he seeks to complete the sexual act at the highest point, even by deception.
If deception is uncovered.
You should never rush to accusations of each other, if you suddenly began to doubt the orgasm of another. It is always better to find out the reason for such behavior of a partner, to try to find out what is most pleasing and what kind of affection is acceptable. The next time you can try to tell another, or point your hand, showing what you need.
If you know for sure that your partner now has a lot of work, then instead of blaming you can sympathize with his workload and try to relieve tension and fatigue. Perhaps a light erotic massage will help a man to better know the hidden reserves of his body. The partner will be grateful to you for this and next time, instead of cheating, probably immediately admits that today you are not able to please you.
And if you notice that problems with ejaculation occur repeatedly, then you can gently ask, because of what it happens and advise you to go to a therapist for a doctor.
Is there any sense in pretense.
Surely most people have heard about affirmations: write down some phrases that create a positive attitude, and repeat them regularly. In the end, the subconscious mind is configured to perform the program so laid, and the person achieves the result. Some psychologists believe that a constant simulation in the absence of orgasm can lead to the fact that it still comes. Sexologists, however, argue that deception is misleading a partner who can not understand what gives you pleasure.
But, as you already guessed, it is always necessary to act on the situation, proceeding from concrete circumstances.
Julia Sobolevskaya , specially for the site